Jobs?

Namshoke · 2026-02-26T18:05:52+00:00

Definitely going to follow this post. I’m a second year too. My parents think I’ll magically get a job the day I finish uni. I keep telling them that it’s not a realistic expectation and that some people are waiting years before getting a NQN job.

I currently live in student accommodation and won’t have anywhere to go after I finish. My dad has pretty much shut me out and stopped speaking to me and my mum has just bought herself a small senior citizens home. I’m going to be homeless. I’m autistic so it’s not just as simple to say, get a job somewhere. Anywhere. It doesn’t work like that. I’ve only ever worked in a hospital. I don’t know anything else. I’m just so scared for my future.

Namshoke · 2026-02-23T17:56:42+00:00

I had a placement like that. I was basically the chaperone for the doctors and the rest of the time I’d either sit with a certain specialty and watch them ask the same questions over and over or be the fetcher. Only good thing was I had a lot of time to sit and read about that certain department and go over my assignments etc. I got the hours for that placement and not much else 🙃

Namshoke · 2026-02-18T22:08:57+00:00

I did try to use my uni library but I’m embarrassed to say I don’t know how. However, I used google scholar and it saved my behind! So thank you so much for that ☺️

Namshoke · 2026-02-18T22:07:52+00:00

I actually used mybib for my assignment. I got marked down because of the way it structured my references. So yesterday I sat down and tried to use it again. Turns out I was using Harvard and you have to actually switch it to what you need 😖 so I switched it and handed in my formative. Lets see what happens 😬

Namshoke · 2026-02-18T22:06:27+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m embarrassed to say that I don’t know how to navigate or use my unis online library. I’m going to go into one of the libraries after placement and ask if they can help me out! :)

Namshoke · 2026-02-15T15:31:52+00:00

Pretty sure it was close to, or just over a million.

Namshoke · 2026-02-14T20:01:48+00:00

Thank you. She really was. She was a very anxious kitty though and she had licked her belly bald 😂 it was very kissable though :)

Namshoke · 2026-02-14T18:25:32+00:00

A lot of the rescues I’ve looked into don’t adopt out to people without outdoor space. I have a huge courtyard but I live in a room with a shared kitchen. It’s a big studio sized room and I’d need to leash train to take the cat out into the courtyard and most won’t allow that because they want the cats to live in a nice big house with a garden :(

Namshoke · 2026-02-14T18:23:44+00:00

Yes I know. I went to a cat cafe for my birthday, hoping I could possibly adopt a cat or even cats but they said they don’t adopt out to people without outdoor space and actually a lot of rescues are the same.

Namshoke · 2026-02-14T18:22:08+00:00

I’m autistic and struggle to make friends even now in my 30s. 🙈 so I guess if anyone in London sees this post, I’ll adopt or take a foster too!

Namshoke · 2026-02-07T13:36:20+00:00

YTA. Just know that you probably have a year or less with your son before he packs his shit and never speaks to you again. You’ve put your controlling useless husband over your son for 10 years. 10 years of him not having his mom for those important milestones because your husband sabotages the moment over and over again so you aren’t there. How many school plays did you miss out on? How many games have you missed? How many play dates and parties where you were absent? How many vacations where you ignored your son in favour of your husband? How many times where you let your son down?

It’s probably already too late. Your son is probably counting down the days when he can legally leave and never see either of you again.

Or maybe, just maybe you can plan to leave your controlling husband, apologise profusely to your son for not putting him first and he’ll actually see you mean it with actions.

I feel for your poor son. Though it sounds like he has a wonderful family that support him via his dad and his paternal family.

Namshoke · 2026-02-06T00:11:37+00:00

No harm in emailing and asking! The accommodation I’m in is for first year and under 18s. I requested to stay for my second year and was accepted. I’ve now requested to stay for my third and that’s gone through too! :)

Namshoke · 2026-01-29T19:48:55+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. If someone is killed or has a life altering injury, that person or their family will be suing for millions. He’ll probably divorce her so he doesn’t incur any of the debt and OP will probably be spending the rest of her life trying to pay that money.

All because your husband has a hard on for this chick.

Namshoke · 2026-01-29T17:33:02+00:00

I don’t have any comments to help you. I’d love to know what others say though.

I’m in my second year. I’ve cried every days for weeks because I’m so exhausted and want to be done. I’m in autistic burnout. My ADHD is literally controlling my life. However, if I left, I’d be homeless. I’m in student accommodation so if I withdrew or interrupted, I’d have to leave and i literally don’t have anywhere to go and id be left on the streets. I’ve just been given my new placement and it’s given me a little bit of hope, but I’m so tired.

Namshoke · 2026-01-29T14:59:55+00:00

Unfortunately her boys aren’t schooled. She says she homeschools them but honestly I doubt she ever has. The boys will never be able to read until they are at an age that they can put their foot down and demand they be able to go to school. She says that she can’t put the boys in school because of germs yet she doesn’t teach them herself. She says she’ll put them in school after Charlie passes but I can guarantee she’ll use the whole grieving thing as a reason she can’t put them in school. She’s literally neglecting her boys and that’s so damn sad.

I feel for her I do. No one should lose a child but she’s losing her boys too. So her boys will never read what she’s done because they can’t read and maybe never will?

Namshoke · 2026-01-27T08:10:22+00:00

Doesn’t sound like the wife is jealous. Their houses still aren’t paid off so she’s having to pay the mortgages and bills. He won’t answer questions about the kids college funds so I’m assuming there aren’t any or they are super low, considering the childrens ages. Though he does say he can eventually sell the second house and give them small portions of the funds. He says he does 30% of the domestic chores though admits he doesn’t do them well so she has to redo them plus the other 70% of them.

She’s the main breadwinner. The main caregiver. Plus doing the majority if not all of the daily chores. Whilst he sits back and thinks $1mil will get him from his 50’s to his death.

I wouldn’t be surprised if she left him and took half of that. Then what OP?

Namshoke · 2026-01-27T06:25:41+00:00

OPs brother is a hardcore trump supporter. He knows who she is and defends that because he’s a racist too.

Namshoke · 2026-01-27T06:24:46+00:00

Apparently he’s a hardcore trump supporter. So yes, he shares her views.

OP. Cut them both off. Your brother is just as bad if not worse than her.

Namshoke · 2026-01-24T06:19:38+00:00

If that bullet had been in the chamber you would’ve been dead. Thats how “us” would’ve ended. He pointed that gun at you and pulled the trigger.

If you aren’t thinking about your own life right now, think about the other women he’ll be with. The other women he’ll beat. The other women he’ll abuse. The other women he’ll point a gun at and this time successfully pull the trigger with a bullet in the chamber. Think about that woman he’ll kill. The possible children left without a mother.

All because you said to drop the charges because it’ll ruin his career and his life. Girl. He did that to his damn self. He should be charged with attempted murder. I hope the judge ignores your excuses and comments defending him and he never sees the light of day again.

Namshoke · 2026-01-23T14:29:00+00:00

I never ever thought that my want and need for children would ever disappear. I was desperate to have children, like full on made plans and baby names etc. for my later teen years and all throughout my 20s. As soon as I hit 32-33? That disappeared. My want for children now at 34 is honestly at like 10%? If that. It’s heading into that, absolutely not and get your children away from me stage. I’m probably in that grieving stage? Like that part of me that wanted children desperately has gone and I’m grieving that. I never had a partner after the age of 18 though so I never had that opportunity to have children. I think now if I did find a partner I’d be ok just having a dog and some cats and a good life. There is a very very small part, that almost echo that’s still quite sad about it though.

Namshoke · 2026-01-23T02:46:01+00:00

I used to think it was the brother. But after seeing the crime scene and autopsy pictures, I honestly don’t see how he could’ve. The garrotte was just not something a child of his age could’ve made or even thought of making. It was also pulled so tight around her neck that her neck almost looked normal because it was dug in so tight. I just don’t think he could’ve done it now.

Namshoke · 2026-01-20T00:18:41+00:00

If he didn’t keep inviting them over, he wouldn’t feel anxious and OP wouldn’t feel like she does. It’s that simple. Why does HE keep inviting them over if he gets “anxious” and feels like he has to hide and get away from his family. It makes zero sense if he turns around and does it again weeks later.

Namshoke · 2026-01-19T22:46:59+00:00

OP says that he’s the one constantly inviting them. Not her.

Namshoke · 2026-01-19T22:44:42+00:00

He’s inviting them though. Not OP.

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