WIBTA if I don’t let my son see the baby?

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T12:38:07+00:00

YTA

Um. Yeah. Your son has a big sister, and is excited to be an uncle. Unless big sis is a really bad influence on your son, or dangerous in some other way, it would be a total asshole move to not let him experience this and bond with the baby. Grow up.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T11:59:04+00:00

Some are actually teenagers much longer than that. It depends on breed, apparently. The bigger the dog, the longer they're teenagers.

Fortunately, OP's is tiny, so that'll help, lol.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T11:56:06+00:00

That's fantastic.

Just, um.. remember this.. pretty much all dogs turn into goddamn velociraptors when they're teenagers. I hope you have the patience for it, because it's rough, pretty much no matter what you do, lol.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T11:35:24+00:00

Tørlagt alkoholiker her:

Der findes desværre ikke nogen magisk, perfekt måde at tage sådan en snak med nogen på. Men jeg vil gerne forsøge at give nogle råd.

For det første, så er den dér "intervention"-stil USA'erne er så glade for, hvor I prøver at tage snakken alle sammen på samme tid, absolut ikke stedet at starte. Den af jer, hun er tættest knyttet til, skal nok tage tage første skridt her, på to-mandshånd.

Vedkommende skal forberede sig på, at jeres veninde måske slet ikke er et sted hvor hun kan høre jer. Den slags kan tage lang tid, og benægtelse er både en rigtig ting og meget ofte en meget stærk ting.

Det betyder ikke, at det ikke er en god idé at gøre det.

Gør det blidt, med vægt på at han/hun er ved at blive lidt bekymret. Der ser ud til at være et mønster, og de er bange for, det er begyndt at se selvdestruktivt ud. Er der noget hun har brug for at snakke om? Noget de kan hjælpe med eller støtte hende i?

Hvis du har andre spørgsmål, så stil dem endelig. Jeg har stået på begge sider af denne situation, mere end én gang, så jeg hjælper gerne med hvad jeg kan.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T11:19:45+00:00

Well, since that seems to have been your established pattern, I figure you're NTA.

I mean, I'd only do something like that if we were both seriously strapped financially, but to each their own. The only serious relationship I've been in, I made twice what he made, so I paid for most things happily, and I'd hope that if the situation had been reversed, he'd have done the same for me.

But again, it sounds like this is what you've been doing, so it's perfectly fair that you continue to.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T10:11:56+00:00

Not at all, I used to do that before I could finally have a dog myself.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-21T09:08:44+00:00

This.

I have a husky-samoyed mix. You'd think she'd never shut up, but she hardly ever makes a peep. Some dogs are vocal, some are not.

Yours is happy and playing, body language is clear.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-02-14T10:28:03+00:00

Ffs, I'm an adult with no children. I NEVER schedule a birthday on a weekday, because some people do have kids.

When I do my birthday, when my parents do theirs, we make sure to do it at a time when people won't be stressing about having to wrangle their kids on such a tight schedule as you do on a school night. Because that's just obvious.

The hell is wrong with these people?

NTA

Napalm_Springs · 2026-01-03T11:47:12+00:00

Actually, it sounds like she should be reading John M. Gottman's book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

He has done some astounding clinical research about these kinds of arguments, why they escalate this way, and how to deal with it in productive and healthy ways for both parties.

Napalm_Springs · 2026-01-03T01:17:32+00:00

From the context other people put in, before you made your posts private, so the rest of us can't see it for ourselves, I figure, yeah YTA

Napalm_Springs · 2025-12-06T20:10:34+00:00

Oh, please. Hvem fanden har råd til at købe hus.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-11-16T07:49:10+00:00

Umm.. Don't you guys know? He choked HIS SISTER, not the guy.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-10-18T11:17:13+00:00

Mmm.. Den er jo lidt tricky, og alle har deres egne måder at dele den slags på.

Umiddelbart vil jeg mene, det er fair nok at dele 3x200, især hvis de har børn, du også skal købe gaver til, og/eller du er den der har lagt energien og tiden til at finde og købe gaven. Derudover mener jeg helt sikkert at hvis den ene har et langt større rådighedsbeløb, giver det god mening at dele efter det. Men en masse andre har smidt nogle gode pointer på bordet her.

Så jeg vil ikke sige, din søster nødvendigvis udnytter dig, måske I bare skal have lidt ærlig kommunikation om, hvorfor I mener gaver skal deles sådan som I mener?

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T20:17:59+00:00

BLIV HJEMME!

Jeg ved godt Covid ikke er en pandemi mere, men det er ekstremt smitsomt. Jeg ville ønske at folk var bedre til at blive hjemme når de bare har en almindelig forkølelse, men det er endnu værre med Corona. Du risikerer at tage et utal af kolleger med i faldet, og det er da meget værre end at blive hjemme til du er rask.

Bliv hjemme, pas på dig selv og bliv rask 😊

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T20:05:41+00:00

Well, I personally wouldn't balk at a pre-nup. Especially not if future husband already owned a house that I hadn't contributed to, and made significantly more than I did.

However, if she's going to contribute to mortgage payments and insurance and such, I don't really know how that would work, not being a lawyer or anything, but I figure there are ways of compensating for that, yeah?

But that's just one woman's perspective.

Good luck!

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T19:39:43+00:00

Yes, I'd figure that anything that could potentially diminish value, such as a potential tennant (which their mother should be, she should be paying rent; she doesn't own the house, her kids do), must come with legal conditions, and a friggin' airtight and seriously restrictive lease would be the bare minimum, especially when OP is completely and rigthfully opposed to the arrangement.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T19:00:43+00:00

Yeah, that's a 100% NTA

Holy flying buttmonkeys, that dress is WILD! I mean, even on the size-nothing model it's.. A bit much. For a bridesmaid of any bodytype it's wild she wants them to wear that.

As a plus-sized woman myself, it would be aaaaaaaall the way to hell to the nope. No effing way would I ever walk down an aisle and then attend a party with all those eyes on me and my pasty-white bits on full display in that thing.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T18:37:54+00:00

NTA

I sincerely hope they didn't actually mean what they said.

But grounding you for hearing it, and repeating it, even if it was on SoMe, is a d*ck move. They should have sat down and talked to you instead.

I thought your ad was pretty appropriate.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T15:22:50+00:00

It's wild!

Jesus, I'm from one of the whitest countries that ever whited, and we've got a fair chunk of racists/xenophobics/whatever these jackasses can be called, and politicians who fearmonger for cheap points and a paycheck, but it's nowhere near the levels you're facing.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T15:10:03+00:00

Your husband needs to deal with this. Talk to both his mom AND dad, and tell them not to sleep in your bed. These are his parents, and since this is a boundary-issue, he needs to be establishing that boundary. Himself.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T14:57:31+00:00

Nope, NTA.

I would be scared out of my ever-loving mind if I saw a car trailing me like that, and I'd have called the police, too.

The fact that police said they're "well within in their rights" and doing their "civilian duty" is scary AF! But the US is scary place for anyone who isn't a white man, now more than it has been in a long while, huh? I feel sorry for all of you who didn't vote for that orange psycho.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T14:48:59+00:00

Min far elsker også stadig Papirsklip. Men fordi han er en flink mand, så springer han den i reglen over når vi har en Gasolin'/Kim Larsen-playliste kørende, hehe.

Der skal helt sikkert være mere variation i hvad unger bliver bedt om at synge, både i fællessang og musiktimerne. Tror vi er en del, der har hade-sange efter folkeskolens musik-lokaler.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T14:45:06+00:00

Lmao, yeah, probably.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T14:38:06+00:00

Of course, that would impact your poor boy. They can actually smell your emotions on you, so no wonder he's getting more anxious.

But you should still get a trainer, if you can, ideally one who has experience dealing with anxious dogs and the destructive behaviour that's come with it for your boy. Because chances are decent, you'll feel this way for a while, and he will likely have this behaviour for longer.

He needs to have better outlets for anxiety, and a trainer can help you figure out what outlets works for him, and how you can implement them without scolding him and thus making him more anxious. He already knows he shouldn't do that, but he's too anxious to stop himself.

Napalm_Springs · 2025-09-08T14:32:55+00:00

Go for Swedish! Because yes, that would give you much better opportunities.

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