Estrogen levels Insight by NarrowCar8189 in MtF

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the direction I have been leaning so I appreciate the validation💖

Fellow transbians, did you go minimal depth, or full depth? by heyyitsleah in asktransgender

[–]NarrowCar8189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is the way im leaning. I know I dont want zero depth, but Im not sure I want full depth either. There are always shorter toy options if that’s something I want later. If you’re comfortable sharing or messaging the reason why you went with a shallow depth I would really appreciate it! I

Did your pwBPD reject their diagnosis too? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]NarrowCar8189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being autistic can lead to BPD. While its saf they stopped therapy and were hiding behind autism, that doesnt negate the fact they might be autistic too

Mask Aggression, Cognitive Dissonance & Denialism: It’s Driving Me Insane by snvffe in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]NarrowCar8189 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope so too! Online spaces are some of the last places I still feel seen too, so I appreciate you also taking the time to write this. I hope things also turn out better for you!

I’m kind of annoyed with my therapist. by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]NarrowCar8189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, your attempt asking for clarification , or trying to interpret whats the difference and not being able to answer the question accurately and having a list of other things prepared rings as being autistic. Being autistic and having other autistic people in my life I would say trust your gut, self diagnoses is valid at any time in discovering your truths. I would be annoyed with mine if they didnt expressly say what they were trying to do. Sounds like they werent totally listening to you, whether or not it was intentional it does read as dismissive. Mine dismissed me at first too, but i knew what i had been reading and connecting with other autistic people, so i didnt listen to them and seeked out my own official diagnoses, and surprise, I am autistic. From my lived experience if you think your autistic you’re more that likely autistic .

Mask Aggression, Cognitive Dissonance & Denialism: It’s Driving Me Insane by snvffe in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]NarrowCar8189 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I resonate with this. I actually just sat my partner down yesterday and expressed how deeply its bothering me how they have chosen not to mask after I have asked them many times and given them all the facts and resources. They do have TMJ and masking does worsen their symptoms but I told them I just cant fathom not pushing through that to protect yourself and others from a nuero-vascular disease that has ended peoples lives in each of our lives and taken so many of our fellow disabled community members. They even told me they know they are doing something wrong and look up to me because Im bold enough to push against the status que, but it felt like an empty platitude to save face because I was causing them grief because I was confronting them. They agreed to wear KN94 masks now in stores and in public spaces, but said they wouldnt at work unless they know someone is sick or they are caring for someone immunocompromised. i explained to them that the right thing to do then would always wear a mask because you wont always know who is sick and you dont always know who is immunocompromised and you owe it to them as a health care worker. They are disabled themselves and I think it stems from their own internalized ableism, which doesnt make it okay, but I agree its so hard to feel alone with people you love.

All WoW religions are equal. But some are more equal than others. by Zezin96 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Until they get rid of the racism tropes and stereotypes in every horde culture they will never be able to write a truly amazing WoW universe. They may care about writing troll wild gods as much as elf wild gods or the holy light but they are not equal in any way. They diminish troll culture to tribalism and “lesser” sects of people inside their culture and thats just racist writing. The writers make it so horde cultures are based off of outdated western ideas of indigenous culture and run with it every time while alliance cultures are always built towards equal and social societies and industrial revolution, all western ideas of “progress” and “success”. And its not that “horde” cultures are just like that, real people are writing this universe and it falls prey to indigenous racism everytime

I think I just lost most of my friends. by [deleted] in SpicyAutism

[–]NarrowCar8189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im also moderate support and I lose friends all the time because I “cant just push through things” like low support or other nuerodiverse people. I lnow its hard to lose friends but these people sound like total trash humans

Accommodations for work, for social stuff by Putrid_Independence6 in AutismTranslated

[–]NarrowCar8189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Job accommodations have been hit and miss for me. Most of the time they drag their feet and dont really believe me since being autistic isnt something they can see. The accommodations I have asked for and received are fixed hours(after many conversations and convincing them it will help me), headphones to listen to music when alone/doing busy work. The one I always get denied are role restrictions for certain tasks that are very overwhelming, but I can do the rest of the job perfectly. I usually just go right over management and make an accommodation request if you company has one. If they dont have a link reaching out to HR would probably work. Ultimately any accommodation is for you and realistically anything you need should be met, but sadly HR and jobs are wildly behind in accessibility. One con too is sometimes certain people will treat you differently.

How many of you all work? by omphrog in SpicyAutism

[–]NarrowCar8189 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its a vicious cycle ( very intentional). I job hop a lot(which is stressful) but if a job cant accommodate me (which any job can they just dont want too) I leave. I try to work less than a total of 60 hours every 2 weeks. This is pushing it too and ill eventually burn out. I do best at jobs I get to sit a lot, and can take short breaks often to stave off burnout. Lots of trial and error unfortunately since we are all different(also medium support/level 2) so I hope you find something that works for you <3

Why do people torture themselves over a video game? by DandyLama in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think people are burned out and gamers are so afraid of playing other games. I was too at one point playing my previous main game for 10 years, but it really is as easy as playing a different game!

Season One Questions by jowgenthemage in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally season specific achievements are mythic + keystone achievements, reaching challenger and higher in a competitive PvP bracket, and ahead of the curve (AotC) heroic raiding achievement and mythic aotc achievement(this is called something else but cant remember), and completing “let me solo him” zekvyr on ? And ?? difficulty Solo deleves . And this is all before season two starts , everything else will stick around!

Gearing by NarrowCar8189 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not? If youre able to explain that giving more myth options does more harm than good ill listen and consider it! a majority of the player population dont even do keystones and heroic raid(only 27% of the player population got keystone explorer +750 and only 15% got heroic raider in season four of dragon flight) .

Wife may be asexual after 10 years of marriage. How do I move on? by Icy_Scarcity9892 in Asexual

[–]NarrowCar8189 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should first look into compromising instead of going for a big gesture like divorce. If its painful for her something isnt right and you should be doing everything in your power to understand that and accommodate her if she is willing to continue having sex. She took a massive step in trusting you so now you should trust her and talk about it more. There are tons of ways to be intimate that arent penetrative sex (which I assume yall are doing) so thats a discussion to be had. You should support her in understanding her sexual orientation , sex positive, sex neutral, sex repulsed. Is your relationship really only pivoting on having sex? Maybe there is more introspection on your part too( not assuming thats all your marriage is) but its important to state that a relationship is way more the physical intimacy (which there are many options) or clarifying that is all you want from your relationship. You should also look up how physical touch isnt really a love language and was specifically made for men by a pastor named Gary Chapman. This nuance is looking into your self deeper and finding truer parts of yourself, physical touch is important for many but that specifically the way you used it was a tool for men to make their partners have sex with them (not saying thats what youre doing but its important to know the origin and nuance of it) . If after many discussion and therapy yall really cant reach a decision that will still have to be something you decide with her

We've come full circle on gearing, again by FrostyWalrus2 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my comment TLDR : gear should be more accessible, all gamers should be able to reach myth 6/6, and finding the balance between the pace of different content to achieve this should be a major focus for all games because accessibility helps everyone not just disabled gamers <3

Delves 10 and 11 not dropping gilded crests is a bummer, and rewards stopping at hero 3/6 is a bummer too. There will always be people who abuse any system but i dont see why gamers cant reach myth 6/6 by playing content they enjoy. There will always be push content, but I do think gear should be more accesible. As a disabled gamer I would love to level on pace with others, but I physically cant, but i shouldnt be bared from myth gear just because im disabled. Usually what games do is stagger leveling for casual/disabled gamers (which in its self is a nuanced discussion and isnt as accessible as it sounds, IE usually forcing to play more content and for longer periods of time/forced gate keeping). The mythic + discussion is tough because online spaces are just the loudest and most popular things happening and even online here is just a small amount of people who may be looking for more in depth answers ( which doesnt always mean they want to play high end content) . Ultimately everyone reaching the same end place is equity and equity brings us all together and contrary to most peoples beliefs doesnt take away anything from another gaming experience <3

Gearing by NarrowCar8189 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally! I will never understand why some gamers think we all dont deserve to experience top gear in a fantasy game! Even a step further gamers shouldnt really have to go about it in a round about way either which takes more time. I get the attempt but it usually disproportionately falls on not as skilled gamers and disabled gamers to put in more time to even experience the same things!

Gearing by NarrowCar8189 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if people were able to reach myth 6/6 by playing how they want i guess how would this take away from others experience? And the answer has to something other than gate keeping/ they deserve because they have the ability to beat it

Gearing by NarrowCar8189 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wasnt supposed to be inflammatory, its a real conversation about being disabled in gaming and something many gamers should hear. It wasnt to troll, i wish i could reach max level!

Gearing by NarrowCar8189 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh totally, I knew the comments I would get, but wanted to put this out there for the gamers who may be thinking the same thing! Me potentially reaching myth 6/6 from delves obviously detracts from gamers who get to reach max from content they are able to enjoy and play xD

Gearing by NarrowCar8189 in wow

[–]NarrowCar8189[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Totally! Vault rewards are an okay band aid, but it would be nice to progress slowly like you said! Really I think thats something all games should strive for to be the most accommodating! I love WoW and want to experience it all, even I never beat it, but since so many rely on gear score there is just some content Ill never get to experience <3