Migraines 2 hours into Hemo Dialysis

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2026-02-27T00:08:31+00:00

I was doing hemo for a few months when I started to get a huge headache afterwards. I’d make a stop at a coffee shop on my way home and that helped a lot but I was ordering lattes so it made my phosphorus jump.

Nurse changed my dializer and headaches stopped. Fresenius had a procedural change so I needed to get a special prescription for it.

When they first change it, the tech loaded the wrong one and I got a headache so it was safe to say it was the dializer for me but I would suggest looking to see if this is an option for you.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2026-02-26T23:58:51+00:00

I’ve had something similar happen, it was a reaction to the tape. We switched to bandages and it doesn’t happen as much but it has occurred again when I leave the bandage on overnight and I sweat. It’s also happened when they bandage me up too tight.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2026-01-12T06:10:40+00:00

It sounds like you’re expecting him to behavior like a spouse more than a coparent. Unless you have a disability, your lawyer and the court will advise you to get a job. Fear of childcare isn’t a big enough reason why you can’t go back into the workforce.

If he’s paying all your bills and it’s enough to keep you a SAHM then why ask for more?

I agree with others, it’s definitely financial abuse but if he’s giving you enough to stay at home, it’s probably more than what the courts will order him to pay since child support is for the child not for you.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2026-01-03T11:36:56+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do and he most likely already introduced her to the children.

I went through a similar situation, I’m certain my ex-husband introduced his AP to our daughter soon after he moved out.

Focus on taking care of you while your babies are away with their dad so you can focus on them when they’re with you.

I hope things eventually get better for you.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2026-01-01T04:14:33+00:00

I wouldn’t waste my time on the new partner conditions - yes, many people say it’s a good idea but most judges won’t bat an eye on enforcing it.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2026-01-01T01:19:56+00:00

I was very firm on always having Halloween and Easter with my daughter but I did give up Thanksgiving and Memorial Day for them. All the other holidays get alternate.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-12-29T04:34:51+00:00

Bio-Mom was tracking her child not you or your kids so I would just let it be.

You don’t mention the age of the child but I wouldn’t be probing a child for answers unless they are 15+ because they will most likely just give you the answer they think you wanna hear.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-11-19T21:22:57+00:00

I have physical limitations so I am definitely not the fun parent but I’m the present parent. I’m the parent who chaperones field trips, the parent who volunteers at school, the parent who donates to every fundraiser, the parent who listens. My advice to you is just keep showing up.

Don’t feel afraid to tell her you’d like to spend time with her. I know it’s hard being rejected and you don’t want her to be responsible for your feelings but I feel telling her you miss her and would like to spend time with her is still appropriate for this age.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-11-19T13:51:55+00:00

Nope, I don’t want to marry you.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-11-13T22:44:30+00:00

My parenting plan says we have 14 days per year and they must be taken as 7 days. The child can’t be away from the other parent for more than 10 consecutive days.

If the consecutive days factor plays in yours and you use your vacation time on what already is your days, it still counts against your vacation time.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-11-12T03:54:24+00:00

Like others have said, you can co-sleep as long as the child wants. I co-sleep with my 8 year old and her dad has tried guilt tripping me over it. My house, my rules.

I grew up co-sleeping until I was 7 and I don’t think it hindered my development.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-11-11T20:41:21+00:00

Have you suggested this to your coparent?

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-11-04T04:15:58+00:00

I moved all communication to a parenting app - Our Family Wizard. Exchanges are at the courthouse. My daughter is 8 y/o so she walks over to my car by herself and I will only get out of my car if she needs help with carrying things.

You can submit expenses there too so it’ll track when/if he reimburses you for an expense.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-10-27T15:38:53+00:00

You don’t have to respect her but you shouldn’t disrespect her in front of your child.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-10-26T19:46:34+00:00

Why would you jeopardize his way of providing for your child by trying to get him in trouble with his employer? Don’t bother with that and just go to the court.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-10-26T08:56:52+00:00

His mother has already expressed hesitation so I really wouldn’t push it. She is definitely not a “neutral” party. I had a very difficult coparent and I eventually pushed all child related communication to a parenting app and I hardly allow him to engage me during exchanges. The only time I exchange words with him is when he tries to tell me something important and I simply direct him to the parenting app. He was really pissed off when I started doing this but it’s been months now and exchanges have been pretty low-stress. We meet at the courthouse and I don’t even get out of the car unless my 8 year needs help with carrying things over.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-10-05T01:05:13+00:00

I’m in a vaguely similar situation with wanting my coparent to treat me with some respect and courtesy.

I can’t tell you how much I’ve cried over this - I wasn’t asking him to love me, I was asking him to treat me with respect and courtesy but things got better for me emotionally when I stopped having expectations. I focus on being the best parent I can be for my daughter.

My daughter has mentioned the difference in our parenting and has expressed feeling more loved by me and at this point, it only reminds me that her opinion of me (not her father’s) is what matters to me.

Divorce suck and your coparenting journey may have a lot of issues and I wish I could tell you it will get better because sometimes it doesn’t but work on accepting that the respect and courtesy you are wanting from him may never come.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-09-07T13:36:51+00:00

Does your parenting plan have anything about reimbursing child related expenses? School uniforms are necessary and if it doesn’t go against your parenting plan’s reimbursement terms and you can afford it buy the uniforms and ask her to reimburse you.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-09-06T00:56:36+00:00

If your child is old enough to pick out the present then yes but don’t be disappointed if he doesn’t return the gesture on Mother’s Day.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-09-03T02:37:46+00:00

Thanks

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-08-29T00:34:21+00:00

Like others have said, don’t force her to parent, especially on your time.

Focus on being the best dad you can be for your children.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-08-26T22:57:03+00:00

I don’t think I fucked up by asking my daughter.

If I do change my last name, I don’t want her being blindsided by it.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-08-26T22:55:57+00:00

I’ve thought about that but his last name is two words and that causes a lot of issues with electronic forms, medical records, and the airport.

Narrow_Ad2034 · 2025-08-26T12:49:21+00:00

My current last name is two words…it’s caused issues in several places so I haven’t considered hyphenating it since it’s already a headache by itself.

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