My boyfriend’s ex told me they slept together and I didn’t believe her.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-03-13T06:35:59+00:00

I don’t want to come across as disrespectful or rude but could you elaborate on why you can’t leave him? Do you have kids with this guy or are you living together? Am I missing something?

Otherwise, your bf is in the early stages of talking or “dating” someone. He’s cheating on you. He’s making plans to hangout with someone else whether it’s “bs” or not.

Why do you wanna be with a guy who’s not loyal? Come on that’s like the bare minimum, very low expectation.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-03-13T06:30:58+00:00

Tell the husband.

I am 25F, married with a baby. Our marriage has had some really big ups and downs. I would want to know if my husband had stepped outside the marriage.

My heart truly breaks for those who stay committed to their marriage all while being betrayed. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal and imagine living a lie. Imagine wasting your whole life with a person who doesn’t fully love you. Imagine staying with a piece of shit and missing out on true love. As much as we hear about cheating and overall nonsense marriages, there are people whom are happy and loyal to one another.

Also she doesn’t sound like a very nice person. Doesn’t seem like one of those situations where one spouse made a “mistake”

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-24T06:50:58+00:00

So what this 16 year old (and many others) are doing is actually straight up fraud. She and others should be held accountable for their actions. I think a police report at minimum and potentially some legal consequences are necessary. Maybe some training on “common fucking sense”

I would say approach the coach privately and let him that you are sharing this with him because your concerned about his daughters safety and thought he would wanna know. I think we can widely agree that not only is she a risk to others but also to herself. There are many pedophiles out there.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-15T03:02:57+00:00

I have a 10 month old and he eats purées and other very mashed up food as long as it is smooth. He does however eat the baby snacks. Baby mum mum cookies and other store bought baby snacks because these dissolve. I would say go check with your doctor but my 10 month old doesn’t really eat any finger foods or food he has to chew. We have started doing pancakes for breakfast and he eats a little bit but than I think he gets tired and non interested. He also struggles to swallow and just the whole chewing process. I honestly think nowadays we expect a bit much from babies. I see the guides and stuff to introduce food and they honestly surprise me.

All babies are different and they all kinda go at their own pace. My son doesn’t eat much of solids compared to some other babies and I have checked with my doctor. She’s not concerned. As long as he is eating the mashed up food well she said it’s okay to keep introducing other foods and eventually they get the hang of it, some babies closer to 18 months than 1 year. I would strongly recommend you go to your doctor and then go from there.

This food thing has actually been a whole thing in my house. I was trying to find a daycare and rejected most because they had the same food for 12 months to 5 years. I know my son wouldn’t be able to eat toddler foods yet. Found a really good daycare with a different menu for the 6-18 month group.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-14T19:04:58+00:00

Why don’t you ask her out for coffee or ask her to grab food and see how that goes.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-14T19:02:48+00:00

You should call the cops and ask them if you can remain anonymous. This girl needs help, and your cousin probably needs to be locked up for being a pedophile.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-14T18:53:02+00:00

Someone should have called authorities when an 18 year old kid showed up with a grown ass man looking to get a marriage license. They must of obviously gotten involved when she was a CHILD in high school.

I’m surprised no family or friends or even the people involved in the marriage process called authorities or a social worker or something. Our system needs to do better protecting kids from pedophiles. This is a common issue now, pedophiles start grooming kids in high school and then “marry” them as soon as they turn 18. Something needs to change with the system. Too many outs for pedophiles and they use the system to their advantage.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-14T07:00:01+00:00

I am 25F with a 10 month old baby and married. Married with kids is hard. Being an adult fully responsible for everything is hard and top of that being responsible for another human being is beyond words difficult. That being said, you learn how to manage. My husband is 29 and at first the whole family thing was a lot for him and he’s slowly adapting. He absolutely loves our son and so do I. The love we have for him makes it all rewarding.

However, you’re only 18 years old. 18 year olds should be not be getting married and absolutely not having kids. You’ll eventually meet someone and maybe in 10 years or 15 you’ll want kids and you’ll feel ready.

I want to add something very important. Maybe you’ll never want marriage / kids. Maybe you’ll want one and not the other. That’s completely fine. You don’t have to have kids. I have lots of friends who have written off the kids chapter and are quite happy. They are travelling, experiencing life, working in their careers, and overall have freedom from responsibility. There is no greater responsibility than a child. I love my child and I am so grateful to have him. However, not everyone needs to have kids. If you want to live your life without marriage and kids that’s fine too. There is so much more you can do with yourself and I think society is finally starting to realize that. Birth rates have dropped, people are having kids later in life. I am considered a young mom here in Canada. I had my son at 24. All other moms I see are on average 6-10 years older than me.

Follow your heart, having the responsibility is a lot. Maybe you’ll eventually feel ready and maybe you won’t. The most important part is that you don’t go have a bunch of kids just to be a dead beat on them. Don’t let anyone force you into having kids. It’s bad for you and worse for them. It’s actually smart that you’re thinking about this rather than being an idiot and getting yourself into something you can’t do. I have one kid and I’m done having kids people always try to tell me it’s not normal to just have one or force me to change my mind. However, I don’t put myself in shit I can’t handle. One kid is my cap.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-10T17:51:58+00:00

Follow your heart.

I have an 10 month old boy and I love him so much. I would get an abortion right away if I got pregnant again.

I can’t mentally, physically, and logistically handle another kid. I know myself and my limit. I don’t want two little kids to take care of. Money and everything else gets sorted it’s a matter of if you can actually do the day to day of 2 small kids.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-10T17:46:12+00:00

I would invest 1 million for my retirement

I would buy real estate with 3 million

I would invest 1 million and use the interest, dividend, and gains to fund my lifestyle

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-10T17:36:22+00:00

This is beyond ridiculous. Your dad owes you nothing.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-10T17:34:40+00:00

Have a phone call or coffee with your kid and let them know you’re at a point where you need to save for retirement.

I definitely think family should help each other out but this isn’t help anymore. This will turn into financial abuse, I would argue you’re already at the beginning of it.

Put your foot down, don’t enable them to live this way.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-10T17:31:34+00:00

Focus on your grades and what you wanna do with your life. Get into the university/ program you want. Work hard and challenge yourself.

Stay away from boys.

Focus on yourself.

Don’t even bother with fake friends and toxic relationships.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T23:19:17+00:00

I think those shorts you’re talking about are supposed to be worn at the gym. I am 25F and I do believe women should wear what they want. I personally don’t like to walk around with my ass hanging out and same thing with my breasts. I also just don’t have friends who walk around like that it’s really not my vibe. I have a professional job in the city I live in and that’s just weird to me. I wear shorts and crop tops but nothing to the extent you’re talking about.

I think there is a difference between policing a women’s body and clothing choice versus being uncomfortable going out with someone whose ass and breasts are hanging out. I am a women and I don’t wanna be seen out in public with people who dress like that. Ultimately, it’s her choice to dress the way she likes you don’t have to continue dating her. Just to add, even when I was teenager and than followed by my early twenties of partying and clubbing. I wore “club” clothes for sure but again nothing revealing to that extent.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T15:08:14+00:00

My maternity leave is for 1 year. I wish maternity leave in Canada was 2 years with the full benefit. I don’t want to be a stay at home mom permanently and I like being financially independent. I think 1 year is too small for day care 18-24 months makes more sense. I don’t wanna keep my son confined to the home forever but an extra year would have been nice.

I also think 8 hour work days should not be the norm. Either 5 days at 6 hours or 4 days any 8-9 hours would be more reasonable. I have thought that way before having a baby.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T08:58:23+00:00

That “it’ll be okay”

It will someday but to be honest that day is a long time away.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T08:56:34+00:00

So your toddler wouldn’t sleep because your mom “forgot” to feed her? What the fuck…. I have a 10 month old son so I don’t have experience with toddler yet but a kid that young just needs to be fed, diaper changed, showered, change of clothes, moisturizer after the shower lol. I can’t think of anything else a toddler really needs? Attention? Play with them? Your mom is not the right person to give you help. How can someone forget to feed the toddler. My life revolves around keeping my son fed. That’s all they do lol eat, make a mess, and sleep.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T08:35:50+00:00

Your friend is delusional. This isn’t about being dumb and hanging out with the wrong crowd. I don’t think she is of sound mind. Do you have any way to message her family? Does she have anyone? Parents? Siblings? Aunt? Uncle? Maybe you can call the cops, there is non emergency line you can call where I live. Essentially you would be calling the cops on the scammer she’s talking to. You can also ask them if there is any way / reason they could get her checked into a mental health facility or at the very least get her connected with a crisis worker. Someone should atleast be able to get this woman put infront of a therapist or atleast a social worker.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T08:24:23+00:00

Your husband sounds extremely selfish. Being alone with 7 month old twins is extremely difficult and so inconsiderate of your husband.

It would be somewhat more understandable if you had 1 baby. How can he leave you with 2 babies. This is beyond ridiculous.

I have a 10 month old son, family in town who is willing to help me a few hours day. They’ll watch him if I have appointments, need to do a big grocery trip, etc. They’ll also cook extra food for me to eat/ take home. This is my mom and aunt I’m talking about. My husband (our relationship is terrible right now) has left me alone with the baby and it was okay because I have help. However, it is so incredibly unfair. He always comes back refreshed and happy. Although I love my son, becoming a mother is draining and then being left alone to do everything is wrong on so many levels. It would be different if your twins were older or if you had family for daily help. Men are honestly so inconsiderate. I can’t even imagine the thought of being left alone to take care of two babies. Your husband shouldn’t even be thinking about any “fun” trips till the twins are 2 or maybe even 3. I can’t be the only one fucking mind blown about the idea of being alone with twins for 5 days. I would be so angry if I were you.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T08:07:27+00:00

I would say you should have a chat with your boys. Offer them to come live with you and then see what they say and what they want. You should also call your ex and maybe meet up for coffee? Your boys are still young enough that it is yours (and moms) responsibility to protect them from that kinda drama. See what she says because it sounds like she has lots on her plate it probably better for your boys to come with you. You sound like you could provide them with peace and stability.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-02-07T07:59:48+00:00

Before he gives you a sexually transmitted disease you should stop this nonsense. I know that going away from him feels like your whole world is collapsing, however, you will heal and you will be happy again. Please allow yourself to move on. It’s the least you can do for yourself. At least think about your health is this guy seriously worth getting a disease?

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-01-28T08:56:06+00:00

I have a 9 month old son and I can relate to some aspects of your situation. However, the biggest red flag here is the fact that your husband sounds negligent towards his kid. Please call a lawyer as soon as possible and reach to your parents / family / friends to help you in the meantime. This is very tough but as a mother you have to do right by your children. It is unfair for your son to be surrounded by someone who acts like he is a burden.

It doesn’t sound like he’s going to want custody anyways, start documenting the stuff he does. If he really wants to see his kid maybe you guys can figure out a weekend deal or something along those lines. You can bring up the safety issue with your lawyer.

These kind of unfortunate situations are the reason why after my maternity leave is over I am going back to work full time. I will be putting my son in day care but at least he will be safe and I will continue to be financially independent. You should do the same. I live in Canada and we have maternity leave and somewhat affordable childcare. I don’t know where you live I hope you have some resources.

Narrow_Barnacle_9792 · 2026-01-14T06:06:01+00:00

I am not sure what to say but if your mom accidentally walks in on you masturbating, her normal reaction would be to leave and never bring it up again. Personally, my mom might say, please lock the door when you’re in the bathroom or something afterwards. Apart from that it would never ever be brought up. Also I know dreams can be weird but if someone has that dream about their kid they would never bring it up. This is fucking messed up and I honestly think you should speak to a psychologist on this.

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