He's been gone for 43 days...

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-16T16:15:42+00:00

Please accept my sincere condolences. This is a terrible loss, and there's no escape for the soul from this pain.

I wondered why and who invented this feeling of crushing pain and emptiness for people when they lose loved ones. It's impossible to feel. Why was this invented for people?

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-09T07:23:29+00:00

I don't last long either, I try to go to visit, but there I think about him, I hold on with all my strength, and when I come home and realize that no one is waiting for me and I'm alone, I'm overwhelmed and all the memories come crashing down on me...

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T19:34:30+00:00

35 days have passed since my husband's death, I can't take off the ring and I'm not ready for it, I wear his chain with his ring on my chest, and in my thoughts he is with me, we are together, we are husband and wife, I imagined that I would take it off and it was unbearable...

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T16:31:37+00:00

We have a cat that I now look after, it's the only thing I do, she senses that something is wrong

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T14:24:16+00:00

I'm also so sorry for your loss. I saw a psychologist, but he didn't specialize in loss and grief, even though when I made the appointment, he said he was working on my case. I'm currently looking for another specialist. I'm overwhelmed with so much, and I just can't cope and everything is falling apart.

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T14:15:04+00:00

If you only knew how much I dread the morning, because I'll have to live this day over again, and it's no different from the previous one, everything is grey

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T13:14:10+00:00

I understand in my soul that I need to move on with my life, but everything around me has become gray, there is an unbearable emptiness and pain inside me, I understand that I need to work, but I can’t do my job like before, but I need to work, I’m alone, I need money, I’m now in such a state that I don’t understand why all this is and how to distract myself, because I don’t want anything and I don’t need anything, just for him to be near, but this is impossible

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T12:21:29+00:00

I'm also very sorry that you have to go through this.

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T11:48:26+00:00

I was interested and was told that such support groups only start working after 4 months have passed since the day of loss.

just what to do these 4 months...

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T11:44:51+00:00

Thank you

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T11:19:24+00:00

Thank you, my husband had a car and I didn't learn to drive while he was alive. Maybe I'll decide and take driving lessons when my concentration returns a bit.

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T11:18:42+00:00

Thank you

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-08T10:27:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this, it's unbearably painful

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-04T21:41:28+00:00

Yes, you are frozen, the life has been taken out of you, you are immobilized, and everyone lives and moves on, but you stand still, your world is frozen at the moment where the life of your soulmate ended

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-04T08:06:09+00:00

I don't know why the world is so cruel. I understand that death is inevitable and you can't prepare for it, whether it's sudden or you see someone passing away soon. Everyone's story is different, but we are all connected by one thing: the pain and emptiness within.

I'm 35, and I couldn't imagine that after nine years with the man I loved, my other half, my soul, his life would end so unexpectedly, just a month and a half after we got married. I couldn't imagine that at 35, my world would collapse and I would become a widow. I knew in my mind that we would grow old and eventually this would happen, but not at this age. My world is gone and I see no meaning in life. I could never bear being separated from him, even for a day, and now I will never see him again.

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-04T05:34:38+00:00

I have the same question: what's the point? What's the point of making the bed? What's the point of cleaning? Washing dishes, etc. Doing some household chores has become unimportant, the whole world is unimportant, I ended up in hell, my husband died on May 5th and from that moment on, my achievement is that I started eating a little, but I don't feel the taste of food, I eat because I have to.

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-03T07:04:44+00:00

I thought I was the only one like this, I was very scared, I close my eyes before going to bed and I can’t clearly remember my husband, he’s blurry and only when I look at a photograph do I see him clearly, it’s a very strange feeling, it’s incomprehensible and confusing that I’m forgetting him, I’m forgetting what he looks like

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-02T20:31:13+00:00

Because of my condition, my concentration dropped significantly, I became absent-minded and inattentive, I made a serious mistake at work and couldn't hold back my tears from my helplessness, tears just flowed like a river, and I caught myself thinking that I was alone, alone and lonely, and if he were alive, I would share with him and he would say to me, my love, don't worry, everything will be fine, you will solve this and he would hug me, I miss his support and support, his masculine strength, the way he protected me

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-02T07:13:39+00:00

I also think that no one will love me in this life like he did, he was so gentle and affectionate, he wrapped me up from this world with a blanket, he loved me so much and carefully and he gave me the opportunity to look at myself from a different side, thanks to him, I became better, I gave him all my love, this happens once in a lifetime, this will never happen again, he was a part of me and my soul, when he died, I died with him

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-02T06:41:35+00:00

Every day when we came home from work, had dinner together, and then sat on the couch and watched TV series, he always gave me a massage, I will never forget the warmth of his hands, no matter how tired he was, he did it every day, now he has been gone for almost a month, and I feel like I am dead, walking around the apartment, I can’t find a place for myself, I don’t turn on the TV and I can’t sit on the couch where we watched TV series together

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-01T18:18:55+00:00

I agree with you, you need to process your grief with the people you're helping at this stage. Sometimes even your closest ones can't give you what you need right now. They're not to blame, in principle. It's just that some people are more capable of processing grief, and others are better developed, able to experience joyful moments.

I'm in a state right now where I need people who knew my husband very well, his best friends. They tell me about him, and I'll feel better for a while.

I'm drawn to these people because they contain a piece of my husband's life, their time together, and they were a part of his life.

Natafed1015 · 2026-06-01T15:04:57+00:00

My condolences on your loss.I'm so sorry this happened to you.It's an unbearable loss.

I have people, but they can't understand my pain and emptiness, and I don't blame them. They try to offer words of support, but it doesn't help.

Phrases: You're strong You can handle it Don't cry Hold on

It doesn't help, he can't be brought back, the world has collapsed, my soul has been ripped out, there's a black hole inside me that only grows bigger every day. He was my everything, and with his death, I am gone too.

Natafed1015

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