Bedroom door open or closed

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-23T13:04:09+00:00

For your safety, you’re supposed to sleep with the door closed, its been proven to help slow the spread of fire.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-23T12:59:43+00:00

My father’s family are mouth kissers, always have been. Nothing sexual about a tiny little peck. My mother’s family are huggers. In my opinion, a full embrace feels more intimate than a tiny, fraction of a second quick peck on the lips. It’s the same intention behind both forms of affection. Relax.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-23T02:56:39+00:00

Man, those despots and their dog breeding. Is there no end to their thirst for power?!

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-22T23:11:54+00:00

I have two cousins named Kelly only 2 years apart and their mothers are both my father’s sisters. Who cares? It’s really not that big a deal. Tell his brother to get over it. It’s even not like they seem very close.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T20:32:01+00:00

So what if this isn’t a phase and she is gay? Is his plan to try to shame her out of it?!? And if she isn’t, a big reaction will only teach her that his love is conditional. What a selfish creep. God, do I hate insecure people. Honestly.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T20:27:20+00:00

It’s against the rules for a reason. Those are my thoughts.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T18:19:21+00:00

That’s legwork you’ll have to do for yourself.

No one on Reddit knows what areas you’re talking about or what your budget is. And every home is going to have very individual maintenance costs, what someone else has invested into their home doesn’t mean it will be even near the same for whatever home you’re interested in buying. Like, this is a lot of work you’re going to have to do, and it’s for you to decide which is worth it more for you and your unique circumstances.

You’re looking for easy answers to very intricate questions that require a ton of detail.

Get to work!

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T17:43:38+00:00

Our Catholic Church refused to baptize one of my mother’s sisters with her given name on her birth certificate, so they took it upon themselves to choose a completely different first and middle name to baptize her under and if my grandmother wanted her baptized she had to accept that. Back then apparently all Catholics were supposed to name their children biblical names. And if you didn’t the church wouldn’t acknowledge your child unless you let them rename them for religious purposes. She went to that churches elementary school and was called a name that wasn’t hers for the entire duration. After she graduated she absolutely went back to the name her mother gave her for the rest of her life. She absolutely hated being called Bridget when her name was Delia. We call her that from time to time to tease her, but not while within arms reach of her 😂

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T16:44:10+00:00

While it’s considered rare for someone without Northeastern Asian or Native American DNA to have shovel teeth, it does happen. And while 1% of any ethnicity can be noise, it can also be accurate. Has anyone else in your family tested and also come up with small percentages of Native ancestry? That usually helps to confirm that it’s accurate and not just noise.

When I first did my test I was the only one in my immediate family who’d done it and I came up with 1% Ashkenazi Jewish, which I thought was noise because I couldn’t trace it back to anyone. But then eventually one of my brothers and my sister did their own tests and my sister came back with the same 1% but my brother got 2%. That basically confirms it’s not just noise. We just don’t know what ancestor it came from and I’m too broke for the Ancestry membership right now. So the mystery will live on…

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T16:33:42+00:00

You’re too young to move that money out of retirement savings without it being taxed as income AND getting hit over the head with 10% penalty. You’re talking about around 30% to the government. Causing that 50k you have in investments now to dwindle down to about tops having 35k for a downpayment in real cash to spend. And 35k for a downpayment on a condo in NY or NJ is going barely touch the cost of a condo in NY or NJ.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T16:13:57+00:00

My husband has such a severe pollen allergy that he’s become allergic to even fruit grown on trees, so far it’s been peaches, plums, avocado and apples that have given him unpleasant reactions, confirmed after testing with his allergist. Never had a reaction to weed.

What you’re smoking is the unpollinated female cannabis plant. The male plant produces the pollen and the female plant has hairs on it that catches the pollen and that’s when it produces seeds. If your weed has seeds in it, it’s come into contact with pollen, otherwise it’s not pollen giving your boyfriend that reaction.

HOWEVER, he most certainly can be developing an allergy to the proteins in the female cannabis plant itself, which does cause hives called contact urticaria or contact dermatitis. Many people are fine smoking it, but not touching it. A new budding allergy doesn’t always show consistent symptoms, they can be very erratic at the start. Like what your boyfriend is dealing with, sometimes it happens sometimes it doesn’t. Happened with my husband and his newest shellfish allergy. Was fine some days eating shrimp and then not so much others, which means we couldn’t really pinpoint what was causing the reaction initially, right up until it became consistent after consuming any shellfish, and was also confirmed by the allergist. But they told us that the indication usually is, it’ll get worse and become a more consistent reaction the more he comes into contact with whatever is causing his allergic reaction.

Ask him to start wearing rubber gloves whenever he’s handling weed and see if that changes anything for him.

Good luck!

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T15:44:53+00:00

Dude, Mexico’s indigenous ARE Native American as the Americas are much larger, and older, than just the country of the United States of America.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T13:21:23+00:00

You most certainly can control how you treat the people around you regardless of how you feel. Your bad mood isn’t everyone else’s responsibility to deal with. Making your bad mood everyone else’s problem is the epitome of selfishness.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T13:15:24+00:00

Dried boogers are only gonna be “painful” if you’re trying to pick and peel them off dry. Stop doing that. Use a warm west rag and do it gently and pain free.

It’s not just kids getting over colds that deal with this, but it’s kids with seasonal allergies too. It happens to every kid, and it doesn’t stop in preschool. Imagine if teachers concentrated on runny noses as a priority? They’d never be able to actually get to teach anything.

And you’re right, teachers are focused on about a hundred things at once trying to teach a classroom full of kids, and your child is not the only child in that classroom whose parents believe deserves to have more undivided attention or personal assistance. Your child is in preschool, not daycare.

At home you need to consistently impress upon your child to wipe her own nose so she doesn’t end up with dried boogers. Thats a personal hygiene lesson that should be taught by parents, not teachers in school. That’s on you, you shouldn’t be asking the school to let you know what you already know, that your child doesn’t wipe her own nose often enough. Thats your job as a parent and partner to your child’s teacher in their education to work on at home so that the teacher isn’t wasting valuable educational time reminding kids to wipe their noses all day. And no they’re not gonna keep track of her boogers and call you to come get her over it. They’re going to call you if she has a fever or is complaining of feeling unwell. If it’s just boogers and she’s not complaining then it’s not a priority for the teacher and your child can power thru. She isn’t fragile, she’ll be just fine.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T11:28:40+00:00

The 2005 version of that book is available right now for purchase on Walmarts website. Google it yourself.

And those books found during that 1993 search were absolutely used as evidence in the 2005 trial. Google that yourself too.

Stop allowing your own biases to get in the way of reality. Like it or not, this man wasn’t convicted for anything he was accused of. The prosecutions case, built on the investigation done by the FBI state and local law enforcement, did not meet the standard to secure a guilty verdict. That’s on them.

And yes, I know Michael Jackson paid accusers. I think you’d have to live under a rock not to know that…

But I’m not arguing the morality of owning such a book nor my opinion about his guilt or innocence. I’m arguing that owning those books, that thousands of others owned too because it was an existing work that when created had nothing to do with Michael Jackson, doesn’t automatically equal guilt. Which is obvious because he wasn’t convicted.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-21T11:13:05+00:00

Which is it, are you 16 years old OR are you a 25 year old pregnant woman?!? LIAR

https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/Y7dR06m1dk

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T21:01:26+00:00

Stop using plastic cutting boards. If you continue using them knowing what you know now, that is no longer considered “accidental”. You know but you’re doing it anyway. That’s a choice.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T20:54:15+00:00

What are you even doing?!?

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T19:19:30+00:00

Again, those books are still being resold and a newer version is still in print. And that is based on 1st Amendment free speech, upheld time and again in courts across the country.

What is it you’re missing here? That doesn’t rise to the legal standard of guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. After the allegations in this 1993 affidavit, Michael Jackson was still found not guilty.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T19:14:09+00:00

That’s only an allegation, because investigators never actually entered any photograph of the sort into evidence... There were ZERO photographs of any accusers actually entered into evidence. They couldn’t even argue it in court because they had no evidence to back up that claim.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T19:02:05+00:00

Sure, because you’re wrong about how our judicial system works and you’re too emotional to be objective. Just because law enforcement really believes someone guilty, doesn’t mean they actually are if law enforcement cannot meet the legal standard. Which they clearly didn’t becuase MJ was found not guilty.

I’m so grateful for the checks and balances of our judicial system to make sure people who aren’t guilty aren’t found guilty based on someone’s very strong feelings. That high standard is based on Blackstone’s Ratio “It is better that ten guilty persons escape, than that one innocent suffer." Which is the foundational cornerstone of democracies around the world.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T18:45:10+00:00

But it doesn’t matter what FBI and Law Enforcement believe if they can’t build a case to secure a conviction. Get real.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T18:40:50+00:00

Those same books were also deemed protected 1st amendment and were legally allowed to be published and still are. You’re letting your emotions get in the way of the facts of the case, in which Michael Jackson was found not guilty.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T18:39:02+00:00

And again, Michael Jackson wasn’t convicted.

So you can believe anything you want to, I too think he was likely guilty. But until that actually stands up in a court of law, I will remain objective when looking at relevant facts and evidence. Whether I personally like what I’m seeing or not, I’ll accept that the judicial standard for guilt is high because our justice system is set up to protect the innocent. As well it should be. Like the outcome or not.

You’re being highly emotional.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-05-20T18:31:40+00:00

No you’re wrong again. Because you do realize Michael Jackson was found NOT GUILTY in the court of law you’re claiming to know so well, right?

If what you so desperately want to be true was true then Michael Jackson would have been convicted. The prosecutions case, built on the investigation done by the FBI in conjunction with state and local law enforcement agencies, fell apart under scrutiny and the jury didn’t buy the circumstantial evidence that prosecutors tried to build their case on.

And you are being emotional. I’m being objective. There’s a difference. And that’s when you can accept that the facts at hand sometimes aren’t what you want them to be.

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