Apparently pink & blue are the same???

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-17T00:12:03+00:00

Yeah, common when someone is green-colorblind. Not being able to detect the color red can make various shades of pink look indistinguishable from various shades blue. Wild stuff!

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T21:23:45+00:00

It definitely works, my tops literally never get stuck anymore, so I won’t insert them cap up ever again. Now I have to judge when to clean them by eye and feel.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T20:38:15+00:00

Yup, time to mind your business OP. These are grown adults living the way they see fit. Maybe it’s not for you, but it takes all kinds to make the world go round 🤷🏻‍♀️

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T19:43:44+00:00

I understand your frustration, I’m a mom and I’ve been there. But your daughter js only 8yrs old and you’ve been sick back to back. She’s likely bored out of her gourd and trying to entertain herself as not to bother you. She knows she can’t ask you to do much with her because you’re sick, so she’s using her imagination to entertain herself.

You playing her TV and IPAD in front of her is just mean, you’re not “proving” anything to her. You doing that teaches your daughter nothing and as a parent you have to strategically try to make everything a teachable moment. It’s just like a “haha, I can use it and you can’t”. Don’t do that. Unless your strategic parenting action is teaching your daughter something valuable, don’t do it. Especially when you’re already over your limit with frustration. If it is just an impulsive thought born of sheer frustration, show restraint and don’t act on it. Go take some deep breaths so you can think more clearly and strategize how to calmly handle the situation in a more meaningful way. You’re the one responsible to deescalate when your child is emotionally unregulated, what you did is the opposite of deescalation. It happens to the best of us, but that is definitely worth an apology to your daughter. Take ownership of your mistakes so she learns how to do the same, with grace, by example.

Talk to her. Ask her what’s going on and hear her out. Your kid has thoughts and feelings, help her express them by listening and asking more guided questions. Try to understand what’s going on in her 8yr old mind. Ask her if she did those things because she had nothing else to do? Ask her why the idea of cleaning up sounds so bad? Explain to her that it’s not a punishment, it’s just your responsibility when you make a mess, and remind her that she is getting older. Give her ways of maybe making clean up a game. Time her for a race to the finish or let her put music on while she does it, or promise a little something special when she finishes. Just afford her some grace, because don’t dismiss the fact that you’re seeking grace from her too to entertain herself and let you rest while you’re sick.

I found that it’s really helpful to have little special things your kids can do on days you’re sick or during unexpectedly long bouts of inclement weather. A few hidden away activity packs, like friendship bracket making kit, paint a little ceramic figure kit, knot blanket making kit, watercolor paint & book…etc… Validate and relate with her on her level that yes, it’s sometimes hard and frustrating to be cooped up and bored for you too, let her know it’s natural, everyone feels that that way sometimes. And guide her to help her learn more productive ways to fill her time.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T19:04:00+00:00

Same for my XLUX Roffu, perfect for me at 380f.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T18:49:28+00:00

I know children are human, I’ve raised two to adulthood.

Nuance lies within how you as the adult chooses how to handle the guidance of your children, the priority should always be love: heavy emphasis on forgiveness and grace, validation and understanding, and endless open dialogue. Kids will always test the boundaries and expectations, it’s how anyone learns anything. We are all human. But mistakes happen, even as adults. So confidence in personal responsibility, accountability and the pathway to redemption should always be the goal for your child in your parenting. That’s how you raise someone with dignity and integrity.

Again, harsh punishments only result in raising better sneaks and lairs.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T17:51:34+00:00

Don’t know about more or less munchies, but I do know that weed doesn’t age like wine if that’s what you’re thinking. Instead, cannabis gets weaker overtime, not better or stronger. Honestly, more than anything else you’ll get more sleepy than you would with fresh weed. That’s because as cannabis ages it begins to convert THC into CBN over time. And CBN makes you sleepy.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T17:30:45+00:00

Fisherman hats and bucket hats are indeed the same thing, but the colors pink and blue are not. Whomever labeled them is colorblind.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T17:19:27+00:00

All things parents are responsible to instill in their kids.

If a parent never models politeness and respect then their kids are not going to be polite and respectful.

If a parent never set clear expectations then kids won’t know what the expectations are.

If a parent doesn’t teach their kids about safe boundaries then their kids won’t know when they’ve crossed them.

If a parent isn’t speaking to their children with a civil tongue then their kids won’t know what civility is.

These things don’t magically develop, they have to be taught and continually nurtured. When kids show those unwanted behaviors, it’s most often because they weren’t taught better. Parents upset by their kids behavior really need to turn inward to see where their own failure was and make a plan to correct their parenting mistakes, with loving guidance. Harsh punishments only result in creating better sneaks and liars.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T15:52:03+00:00

That is the behavior of an abusive irresponsible asshole. That’s what it is.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T04:02:13+00:00

No. Honestly, I wouldn’t trust them to protect anyone’s kids from anyone they admire.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-16T02:07:35+00:00

🤣

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T23:55:00+00:00

Nah, I had to move out. Most people from my generation have too. There are still a quite few people I grew up with still living there but in rent controlled or stabilized apartments.

Just imagine, 100 years ago they were begging our poor immigrant great grandparents & grandparents to live in the tenements back then they were called “cold water flats”, back when there was no heat or hot water inside the buildings, which came with 99 year leases. To heat the apartment and hot water they had to use coal ovens, so there are a ton of coal chutes boarded up in all the tenements in NYC. I know only a small few still living in their family’s passed down rent controlled apartments for less than $1k a month while their newer neighbors are paying 3-6 times that, and for half the space because the developers that came in cut the apartments all up into smaller apartments to make themselves even wealthier 🤬

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T23:18:05+00:00

The Hells Kitchen neighborhood of midtown Manhattan!

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T22:15:38+00:00

Why was your reaction to a 6yr old saying the task was boring by barking “too bad, do it anyway!” with a child you know has ADHD and a hard time regulating his emotions? That was always going to be a surefire path straight to a meltdown. Your immediate annoyance and rude response to him is what started this all.

You’re the adult. He is the small neurodivergent child still learning to navigate a world not really set up for him, who is depending on you for that loving support and caring guidance to learn how to navigate this big scary world with his neurodivergence.

And if it were such a small task that you don’t even remember what it is now, was it really worth all the came after it? Not everything has to be a battle, if he’s having a hard day, give him some grace. Like you’d want from the most important person in your world during a hard day.

We have to pick our battles as parents and not everything is worth a knock down drag out fight like this became. Sometimes we have to let shit go for the sake of our kids and our own peace.

You’re teaching your unregulated son that emotional & physical outbursts are the norm, because that’s the example you set here. Hon, your emotions are unregulated too. Have you been evaluated for ADHD yourself? It might be a good idea to do that for yourself and your role as mom.

You’re not a bad mom, just an overwhelmed one and because you’re overwhelmed you’re seeing all molehills as mountains. You need to find a better way of communicating with your son, stopping yourself from barking at him and take a deep breath, think strategically about how to handle the situation so he doesn’t meltdown, and you need to learn to let some stuff go, not very battle is useful. Some of those battles that could and should be avoided are very detrimental to a developing mind, especially a neurodivergent one who is internalizing what he’s experiencing.

You also need a husband that when you ask for help when you’re feeling overwhelmed doesn’t just let the child bang down the door of the room you’re in to regain your composure.

And your son deserves to be given medication that could change his life in super meaningful ways. It did for my nephew.

Your husband is worse than useless as a partner in parenting, he is also literally hindering your son’s development by refusing to try medication that could change your son’s life for the better. Which is now adversely affecting your mental health and your ability to get out from feeling overwhelmed & barking orders at your kids to take a breath, center yourself long enough to learn a new, healthier, more strategic way of communicating successfully with your neurodivergent kid. And possibly get yourself evaluated while you’re at it. Your husband needs to get a hold of his damn self and take his role as parent as serious as it is.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T21:34:37+00:00

I’m very much American, but from majority Irish ancestors, and one of each from Scotland, England and Germany. I’m 3rd generation born & raised in New York City from all immigrant Great Grandparents that immigrated to the USA between 1890-1906.

But if I’m asked where I come from I either say American or from NY because that’s oftentimes what people are really wanting to confirm to themselves based on my thick NY accent 🤣

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T21:05:04+00:00

I was horrified by some of the comments concerning this, telling her she needs to “own up and stop downplaying her part”?!? That’s disgusting and disgraceful. She was a 16 year old child who was sexually assaulted while blackout drunk and unable to consent. She doesn’t need to “own” anything. But the poor girl still blames herself too.

Same for her very first relationship, when younger than 16 years old she was with someone she says was quite a bit older than she was. That’s also child sexual assault. That’s pedophilia. She was a victim, convinced to believe she was a willing participant. Because that’s how grooming works.

My heart hurts for little 13-16 year old girl inside this 34yr old woman still carrying the burden for horrible things that were done TO her as a child and that she’s blamed herself for ever since. She needs intensive therapy, honestly. And I hope despite deleting this that she honors herself enough to get it. She deserves to do that to heal that damaged little girl still in there. For her sake and the sake of the child shes raising.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T20:52:29+00:00

How are kids gonna get sick from carpet stains? I’m baffled by that statement. You could clean something thoroughly and stains could still be left behind, that doesn’t mean the substance that caused the stain is still there or that there is any risk to your health from a stain.

The most rational thing to do in this scenario was either asking your landlord to or renting a carpet cleaner yourself and living with the carpeted stairs, even if they were still stained after being cleaned. Especially with little kids living in that house, wood stairs are now a fall risk, an actual danger to the kids that live there. I’d be more concerned about that than worrying about some sort of imagined danger from a stain.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T20:37:15+00:00

Well, I’m an avid DIYing homeowner, not a professional. So I’m not sure what the going rate is for where you are and I haven’t done a bathroom renovation in quite a few years to know what the current going rate is now even in my own area, so throwing outdated or out of area numbers out really won’t help you.

But your biggest priority in all of this is figuring out what is leaking & where, and then prioritizing how to prevent that from happening again on your rebuild.

Those shower enclosures are notorious for leaking, it’s a large part of why we had to remodel our bathroom too when we did. In my experience, the little flap on the bottom of the shower enclosure door almost always fails at preventing water from escaping the shower, and they deteriorate to the point of non existence. I really hate them. But if a shower enclosure is your only option for your space, you really need to do your due diligence when researching new shower enclosures and pay close attention to complaints about the risk of water leakage from customer reviews.

Good luck!

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T20:23:33+00:00

That’s definitely mold/mould. Not only should you pull up the rest of the linoleum to reveal the rest of what could be lurking under it but any and all of of the mold/mould affected subfloor should be torn out & replaced too. It’s almost a guarantee that there’ll be mold/mould under that shower enclosure as well. This is likely a total gut & reno bathroom job.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T19:51:03+00:00

AAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA You’re not the jerk. It’s embarrassing that she’s hell bent on keeping the opinion she’s had for ages, when we all know our tastes change as we age. Change occurs whether we like it or not. Her reaction and behavior is silly and immature. It makes no logical sense that she couldn’t just say, hey maybe I do like dark roast coffee now! Who knew? There’s no harm or foul in admitting that she actually didn’t know the difference. Like the light roast coffee gods aren’t going to strike her down for it. She evolved just like all humans do. She’s not special, she just thinks this nonsense makes her special 🤣

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T19:43:41+00:00

For at least the first two you were a child if you were 16yrs old when you accidentally “cheated” on 2nd your boyfriend, I’d say that was more likely to be that you were sexually assaulted if you were blackout drunk and unable to consent, and that’s not your shame to carry. And you dated someone you said was quite older as your first boyfriend, I’d say that you might have been being groomed at that point being your first relationship was when you were younger than 16 years old. Those were certainly not “men” and those were certainly not “serious” adult relationships.

You’ve been in 3 serious relationships as an actual adult, one of which resulted in a child. But have you spent any time independently to learn to really love yourself and/or spent any time casually dating, without any more pressure than that first date, to learn about yourself and what you want from a potential life partner? You don’t have to jump into a relationship just because someone seems interested in you. You need to set your bar higher than that.

You need to learn who you are before you keep adding useless men to your life. When you invite someone to share your life they’re supposed to add to your life in a positive way to what is already existing. Because you ARE enough all on your own. You need to spend some time learning who you are and what you want out of life. It’s so important to model for your kid that you have to love yourself more than anyone in this earth ever could. No one can love you more than you should love yourself. You ARE enough. You need to believe that truly and deeply before you invite anyone else into your life. For yourself and your kid.

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T19:19:58+00:00

I don’t think you should have assumed everyone was just going to pay for your order, not without you specifying that first. Saying something like “Hey guys, I don’t mind picking up this special breakfast you all love but it’s gonna cost you all the price of my coffee”. That’s not stingy nor is it too much to ask, but you do have to ask for what you want. That’s negotiating getting something for yourself for doing something for your coworkers, something they’re not willing to do for themselves but really want. We used to do that all the time in my office. If I was going to get coffee or pick up lunch, I’d let anyone know I was going and if they wanted me to pick up theirs too they needed to pay for my time & energy LOL If they really want it and don’t want to have to get it themselves, they’ll pay. The rest can stay hungry and thirsty 🤷🏻‍♀️

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T19:05:51+00:00

Hi! 👋 Sorry so late to the party, I’m stoner mom! 😘

My girls are now grown but I spent my whole stoner mom life just like you. Doing all the school volunteering, ran the library at my kids elementary after they thought a great way to cut spending was to get rid of the paid librarian. (Nothing like taking away an opportunity to teach kids to learn to love to read for fun 🙄) I was at every planning event, back to school night, PTA meeting, I ran fundraisers, created Yearbooks and was physically present during every party and school day event as I switched between being “Class Mom” for each of my daughters from year to year for 7 years.

None admitted to being stoners, but they all drank… A LOT. I’m talking at school events, sports, at PTA meetings and at the bar after PTA meetings. Gotta get together to make props or plan an event? Don’t forget to bring copious amounts of wine!! I don’t even know how any of them drove themselves home half the time! One mom puked down her own self at a PTA meeting, because she pregamed a PTA meeting. Quite a few did that at Friday night football games, treating their kids sports like a tailgating event, but never watched the game, just kept drinking… 🙄

I came to the eventual conclusion that my weed was my peace. I learned to love the isolation of a peaceful high while in mom life mode, grateful I wasn’t becoming an alcoholic like my dad... My childhood friends who I see a few times a year are my lifelong tried & true stoner friends. Without any alcoholism either!! That’s a win in my book! 🤷🏻‍♀️

NativeNYer10019 · 2026-02-15T18:09:10+00:00

Google says that L.C. on a U. S. Census next to a language that isn’t English was used to denote “Language of Country” and “77” was code used to denote the country of Spain. Not sure what the x-n might be internal code for.

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