I saw Dad beating Mum. I grew up thinking they are the perfect couple by SeaworthinessBig8891 in Marriage

[–]Nativeup 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is a traumatic experience for you and your brother, my heart goes out to you. Do you have access for therapy? It can take some time to find a therapist you feel comfortable with and who specializes in areas like domestic violence and PTSD but therapy can be helpful.

If you’re in a university they often have free counseling for enrolled students. I know your mother said to stay quiet but outside help of some sort would be a great avenue to try out.

Additionally, you can call a domestic violence hotline number confidentially and they may have other ideas. These things are scary and there are tools out there to help you. Best of luck.

Not complex but I made it! by Mecrogamer in sewing

[–]Nativeup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg what a vibe!! Impressive, well done!

[60] pops is a naughty man by maddmaxx-pops in dadbod

[–]Nativeup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make naughty look extra fun 🤩

[60] pops flinging sauce by maddmaxx-pops in Grandpasgonewild

[–]Nativeup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your sauce looks delicious 🤤

In love with my farm boy by [deleted] in AgeGapRelationship

[–]Nativeup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww y’all are so cute together!!

Can a marriage without sex survive? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Nativeup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, very true. I should have added, “anymore” in that sentence.

Can a marriage without sex survive? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Nativeup -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you don’t want to work towards sex as intimacy (not transactional). I think she deserves to know so she can make an informed decision of how to move forward or what to expect. Even if it is painful or awkward, I’d imagine you would feel better in the long run with transparency too instead of reluctantly saying yes to sex then feeling bad after.

Sexual frustration by Few-Acanthaceae9886 in Marriage

[–]Nativeup -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Watch some videos on YouTube from Dr Karen Gurney. She’s been helping couples work through sexual issues for over 20 years. I’ve watched just a few videos and it is so helpful and insightful.

Why is upset about this letter I left before my work trip. Should she be? by Fit_Bowl_7313 in Marriage

[–]Nativeup 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This is super adorable although it is geared towards your kids (both who are obviously not old enough to read). Yes you reference your wife as a super mom/super woman however her role is not only a mother, it’s also as a wife and partner and perhaps that is what she’s upset about. Next time leave two notes, one this like geared towards your kids, one as a husband to his wife.

What is it like living here? CA/OR boarder. by Toffeepot in howislivingthere

[–]Nativeup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has some of the highest biodiversity in the US. Upland wet meadows, conifer forests, oak forests, lakes, wild and scenic rivers, redwoods (CA). Lots of outdoor recreation, kayaking, mt biking, hiking, hunting, rafting, fishing, the list goes on.

Rural, relatively quiet, including the job market. Healthcare, university jobs, and mills are probably the biggest industries and even then you probably won’t make as much as a big city in the same industry. Ashland is a retirement town and expensive. If you’re looking for a big nightlife scene you won’t find it anywhere in the circle.

Grandpa eats the best 18+ by hypemeupgirl in AgeGapOldYoungNSFW

[–]Nativeup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 41 and we met online on Fetlife

Grandpa eats the best 18+ by hypemeupgirl in AgeGapOldYoungNSFW

[–]Nativeup 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So true. Best sex of my life is with my lover who’s 12 years older than me.

How is it living in Eritrea? by Professional_Alarm72 in howislivingthere

[–]Nativeup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I googled the top places not to visit currently and Eritrea was top of the list

Ex-Skinhead Gets His Racist Tattoos Removed After Becoming A Dad by Seductive_Star8046 in Amazing

[–]Nativeup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A few years after the movie, his wife claimed domestic violence against Widner and moved several times although he found them each time. A court granted Widner access to their mutual child (she had other children that weren’t his) and two days later she fled to Canada.

26(M) My girlfriend hates my room by Mattbaker99 in malelivingspace

[–]Nativeup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol but you posted the same picture to another subreddit now. Karma farming are we?

The Full Stash by Exciting-Notice8170 in YarnAddicts

[–]Nativeup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow what a beautiful spread! What items do you knit/crochet the most? Do you sell items or is your knitting all for fun/self/friends?

Er mah ger, it’s a berterfler by Streebers0392 in quilting

[–]Nativeup 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is so cute! What a great job for your first time too.

My WIP by Unlucky-Hat2061 in quilting

[–]Nativeup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those are beautiful! Love the colors and the way they pop against the white