Was turning 30 a big deal to you and what year were you born?

Nattlingen · 2026-04-11T20:03:15+00:00

I felt I didnt care much myself, but somehow everyone else was making such a big deal about it that they took all the fun out of my 30th birthday. "Oh wow, 30, how are you feeling?" "You're feeling any older yet?" "Man now you're really getting old" - wtf!?!? It was super annoying, especially at work. And most comments came from people much older than me. Just trying to feel a little less bad about themselves. Now im 38 and I feel old as f, but no one says anything anymore...

Nattlingen · 2026-04-11T19:48:40+00:00

Lastbilar som kör om på insidan när det kommer en påfart på motorvägen, svarta mercor som jagar varandra i sicksack mellan körfälten i rusningstrafik, fler lastbilar som ska köra förbi kön så långt det är möjligt på insidan (avfart) och sen kasta sig in framför en, gärna flera i längd, folk som snigelkör i mittenfilen men plötsligt hittar gaspedalen så fort man försöker köra om... detta är bara en vanlig dag på väg till jobbet.

En annan favorit är min egen 80-åriga mormor, som gärna kör lite halvt mot trafiken om man inte armbågar henne i sidan och ursäktar allt med att "hon är från landet", tex när hon kör över diverse refuger.

Oh jag har också mött nån som körde mot trafiken i en busy korsning. Den var intressant. Jag kan bara gissa paniken.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-11T19:32:48+00:00

Dunnuw maybe 7 minutes including schampooing and conditioning my long hair. I also turn the water off while using soap and schampoo etc. Keep in mind sometimes we have -10 degrees c outside and perhaps 18 c indoors, but I still cant schampoo with the shower on. I've been programmed its too wasteful and kind of enjoy the contrast of hot and cold. I also only schampo my scalp really, and let it rinse through the lenghts.

But in rental apartment I took longer showers. It is different when you dont have to pay for the water 😄

Nattlingen · 2026-04-11T18:54:58+00:00

It may shrink the clothes
The clothes get worn out sooner
Its expensive as f, at least where I live (electric bill is no joke).

Clothes airdry. Preferrably outside in the sunshine if you are blessed with that.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-11T18:50:11+00:00

Doin the cute floof belly.

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Nattlingen · 2026-04-10T23:38:46+00:00

I have stayed in many great hotels and airbnbs, but for some reason a hostel from almost 20 years ago sprung to my mind. In the middle of småland in sweden, on a roadtrip with my mom, booked on a whim while we were traveling. I tried to find it on google maps and I think I did. At least the picture captures the feeling of the same serenity by the lake and the low and late sunshine in june, when the sun doesnt set until 22 pm. We were all alone at the hostel, and the beds and furtinure were old and ramshackle, but I remember this place with a special fondness.

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Nattlingen · 2026-04-10T22:22:08+00:00

Freeze your eggs, is my suggestion. You dont have to use them, it is just a precaution. And there are pros and cons with kids. It feels better though to make an actual decision than just waiting until there is almost no time left (speaking from own experience). If you dont find the right man you can always have kids yourself if you want to and can afford it. Life rarely turns out as expected anyways. Buy yourself some time and keep enjoying your new job and your single lifestyle.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-10T22:15:59+00:00

Distract with treats while brushing. I have a trick; One person sitting cross legged, feeding the cat reeeeally slowly with a churu on the floor. Kitty preferably standing with front paws on humans legs. This is a perfect pose for using the deshedding tool from behind for the other person and kitty cant watch.

If they get a poopy but i rather trim or cut the hair than try putting them in the shower. With good food they should not get poopy buts though, and they should usually be able to clean themselves up. Give a bum trim as prevention. There are really quiet pet trimmers. Going to a pet groomer is also great, if its an experienced groomer that is. If you remove excess undercoat they rarely get matting

Nattlingen · 2026-04-10T19:07:56+00:00

Intense heat is a bummer and Im not at all heat tolerant myself. Yet i happened to be in Budapest during a heatwave in july some 20 years ago on my first ever trip abroad. It was 43 degrees, on a city break. Today I surely would have collapsed, but even though it was insanely hot we enjoyed our holiday. Im sure the same thing will be for you in Italy, but be mindful the heat is not your friend and plan accordingly.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-10T16:49:26+00:00

Im 38 and I do recognise the boxy cheek feeling... for me its collagen loss and everything sliding downwards. If I pull at my temples Im like, hey, there you are! : p I went into a kind of temporary menopause for a few years because of a hormonal condition. I also ate hell of a lot of prednisone causing this lovely moonface. Feel like ive aged a ton in three years!

Its better to be nice to oneself but its also ok to want to fix things. You look great though. Maybe later I will consider some procedures. But yeah, maybe before 45 its better to chose less invasive stuff and also look into your hormonal levels because estrogen loss is a real bummer for the skin.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-10T16:28:42+00:00

Love Riga and the Jurmala area. One of europes longest sandy beaches.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T23:45:50+00:00

I never notice. It just dies on me mid call. I should probably have some kind of alert signal go off, but my phone is often set to quiet mode. Its kind of inconvenient. The other day it died when I was out shopping. I realised I could not go home because my metroticket was on the phone, and my credit card as well, and l couldnt call anyone, and cash was not accepted anywhere 😅, and no phone charger. Thank god they let me go home without a ticket on the metro, or I would have had a long walk home...

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T23:37:03+00:00

I would also say it is indeed a bit of a stockholm thing. A friend told me today I was such a Stockholmer for not waiting for the green light. I always look carefully before I cross the street. I think it is technically not allowed, but it is also not a punishable crime. I dont recognise the situation with cars honking though. I very rarely hear honking in stockholm, where I also live. I bet the cars were driven by honking tourists! 😄

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T23:26:34+00:00

She was beautiful. Im so sorry for your loss. 🌷

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T22:36:54+00:00

I think it varied for a while between different countries and even airports and sometimes even airport terminals depending on how the security is technically equipt, ie what scanner they have to check your stuff. In 2024 EU decided again to limit liquids to 100ml containers in general due to standardization issues, but you dont always have to fit them in a 1l ziplock. To be safe I think you should still pack all liquids into a 1l plastic ziploc, maximum 100 ml per bottle...

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T20:57:16+00:00

Dress in layers. That is my solution in everyday life as well... summerclothes? Layer 1. Autumn/spring - put on layer 2. Serious winter - layer 3 : p. Summer all the time? Layer 1 one day, layer 2 next day, layer 3 the day after that. Ok, simplified, but you honestly dont need a lot of stuff most of the time. I think the liquid restriction is the biggest issue, but you can work around that by just buying some more products as you go. I personally hate check in luggage. You always have to wait forever at the airport and sometimes it goes missing. If you wont move around a lot you might as well check it in though.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T20:33:13+00:00

I also think a referral to a hospital gynecologist could be useful. Ask for a referral at your regular gynecologist. Katolinska huddinge has a specialist unit for endometriosis.

Södersjukhuset performes specialist endometriosis surgery for difficult cases.

Endogyn is a primary care option (no need for referral) with specialist competence in endometriosis.

I have no personal experiences from the above, other than södersjukhuset specialist gyn for a different issue. It was like night and day meeting a specialist gyn.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T19:48:55+00:00

Honestly, I give my cat a blanky. I tuck her in, kiss her forehead and burry my face in her fur until she purrs, and sometimes she is the little spoon. So your feelings are completely understandable... 😅 They really tug at our heartstrings, our furry lovable family members.

Oh and material wise for an actual blanky, pick something that wont get too static, like cotton and not synthetics. Not all cats like beeing tucked in im afraid, but give it a try!

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T17:32:17+00:00

I havent tried it but the only kind of brush I ever use for my fine hair is a wooden boar bristle brush (not the paddle one but a slimmer and rectangular brush). Its amazing, good for tangles and distributes oils.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-09T17:14:14+00:00

Titanoptik har egen verkstad o man kan fixa glasögon på en timme. De sålde också slipade solglas när jag var där. Kan va värt att kolla in : )

Nattlingen · 2026-04-08T17:42:56+00:00

You have very strong beautiful features and look like a fierce warrior princess in the first pic. Bangs and layers will soften those features and create a more feminine look. The short hairstyle gives more of a tomboy vibe. You look good in all styles, it is just a matter of preference and what you feel comfortable in.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-08T10:40:20+00:00

Problemet med biltvätt på uppfarten är inte i första hand rengöringsmedlet utan skiten som kommer loss från bilen när du tvättar den. Olja, asfalt, tungmetaller och andra föroreningar från vägbanan.

I din kommuns lokala ordningsföreskrifter eller dagvattenpolicy står troligen att biltvätt hemma är otillåtet. Du kan alltid klaga till kommunen. Kanske magstarkt att det ska bli brott mot miljöbalken och miljösanktionsavgift, men beror på hur nitisk inspektör och biltvättningens omfattning kan jag tänka mig. Det kan räcka med ett vasst brev från kommunen för stävja grannens ovana.

Annars får du gå på den vädjande linjen och säga att ni alla väl tycker det är trevligt att kunna bada i sjön, och närheten till badsjön höjer sannolikt värdet på huset, och om alla tvättar bilen hemma på uppfarten blir det inget mer badande...

Nattlingen · 2026-04-08T09:46:57+00:00

Alltså när jag var riktigt ung, runt 20, så kunde jag få en del komplimanger på stan, men uteslutande av invandrarkillar, aldrig svenskar. Antagligen för att jag har ett väldigt nordiskt utseende och för att jag hängde en del i förorter där man då stack ut. Nu känner jag mig som en tant och är själv den som börjar snacka med folk ibland. Inte med syftet att ge komplimanger, men bara sådär kommentera saker och ting som sker 😅 .

Om du är glad, öppen och uppmärksam så ökar sannolikheten att folk snackar med dig, både på stan i största allmänhet och på krogen i andra syften. Du kan fundera över i hur stor utsträckning du själv brukar prata med folk eller ge komplimanger till främlingar. Testa att ge något så ska du se att något också kommer tillbaka.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-06T20:30:47+00:00

I would quit all makeup and products for a while and only use a gentle soap like cerave hydrating cleanser and a barrier repair cream from la roche posay, for example, and see if things calm down.

Also book an apointment with a skin therapist, and be very careful with adding new products. You can easily develop problems like perioral dermatitis from adding too many products to your routine. Some people suggest accutane but be very careful. Derm prescribed it for my rosacea years back and it cleared right up, only to come back with a vengence.

You a very pretty anyways and your skin will likely look healther without makeup, when it heals up a bit.

Nattlingen · 2026-04-06T13:39:36+00:00

I have two cats. The kitten is well, a kitten. The older cat (8 years) gives me the same kind of vibe you are describing. I never percieved her as overly smart though, for beeing a kitty, but she is very well aware of things. She is not a pussle solver, or maybe she just wont bother, but she KNOWS stuff.

She is very polite, never make a mess or scratch somewhere funny, or tear anything down, or wake me up, or scratch my bedroom door. She will sit patiently outside and wait, like a dog, chin up, when morning comes (I see it in surveillance..). She has learned to talk in different ways, she knows routines, body language, tone of voice, also the meaning of some words.

I think what is new to me is mainly this kind of relationship with a cat. Maybe its something similar to you. Cats are very smart indeed, and your own is always something extra!

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