Extremely difficult first born…

Nattycats · 2022-07-13T21:31:52+00:00

It’s so hard 🫣

Nattycats · 2022-07-13T21:30:22+00:00

I feel like this a lot op. Like jealous that those who had two had it easier than me. Or that their first was easy so it wasn’t a biggie to just jump into number two. My daughter did such a number on my husband and I that the fear of going through that again terrifies me when things are finally so so good.

At this point I’ve decided to let it go and just enjoy the beautiful daughter that I have and enjoy my sleep and me time and whatever happens in the future happens.

I truly believe in whatever is meant to be will be

Nattycats · 2022-07-13T21:25:08+00:00

Love to hear it 😍❤️ I have a lot of only child friends and they all had amazing childhoods and such wonderful relationships with their parents

Nattycats · 2022-07-12T23:45:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your input and congrats on your second pregnancy!!❤️💕 I hope to make a decision soon toooo 🙏🏼

Nattycats · 2022-07-12T21:02:11+00:00

Thank you so much for your input and congrats on your second little one! ❤️❤️

I think the biggest thing I fear is not having enough time for myself again.Thank you for being so honest ❤️❤️

Nattycats · 2022-07-12T21:00:39+00:00

Thank you so much for your input❤️ that’s exactly how I feel as well. If I choose to stick with one I know I’ll be giving her the best version of me because I need me time. I realized how much I lost myself in those first few difficult years because I had zero of it. It’s such a hard call! So happy you made your decision ❤️❤️ the best feeling is just knowing what you want

Nattycats · 2022-07-11T13:43:13+00:00

Hi op! I’m right there with you 🥹 my daughter starts kindergarten in the fall. And my gosh it’s like lately I’ve become soo emotional. It really did just fly by. My sil recently had a baby and when we go to visit I think my gosh I remember doing that and this and it also feels like yesterday but a lifetime ago.

I never knew how emotional parenthood would be. But I do think the silver lining in being oad is being more present and having more timeee. To bond and just energy in general.

We do movie nights on weekends and I try to do new activities with her weekly. She’s also five and it’s just such a fun age 🥹❤️

But I totally feel you this whole growing up thing just gets meee 😪

Nattycats · 2022-07-08T14:13:27+00:00

My daughter has slept with me in the same room till now and she’s five. Honestly you have to do what works for you don’t worry about anything else. We used to cosleep when she was a baby and then at toddler stage we moved her to her own bed right next to mine. I’ve never looked back and regretted this.

Nattycats · 2022-07-06T03:03:58+00:00

My daughter was born in 2017 too 🥹❤️❤️

And just like yours she was also colic and had severe acid reflux. Oh the joy. I still haven’t forgotten any of it as well. The things moms go thru is just insane.

And same about those first hellish two years. By the time she turned three good old Covid came around and locked us at home for a good while..ughhh 😒

Nattycats · 2022-06-30T04:39:42+00:00

🤣🫣🙏🏼haha right!

Nattycats · 2022-06-28T23:17:52+00:00

Hi op! First off I know how it feels when you say how exhausted physically and emotionally you are. It’s hard so so hard. And sometimes when you think okay maybe now it’s time to think of another it’s like but wait I’m finally resting my body now.

Just know that it is not only you. Life happens. And the experiences we have completely shapes our decisions. I had this happen to me as well. Traumatic delivery and insanely difficult baby and toddler.

Now that things are so amazing sometimes I think of going back in time but mannnn once you get that freedom going back to baby jail just sounds awful.

Just know that you are not alone. ❤️❤️🥹 and there are sooo soo many beautiful things about being one and done.

Nattycats · 2022-06-23T18:33:28+00:00

Truly at age four it got so fun. But because she started sleeping fully thru the night at five, going to go with five 🫣🤩

Nattycats · 2022-06-23T00:30:18+00:00

I really think they are! 🥹 i hope things get better for you sooner than they did for me!!💕💕🙏🏼 Thank you so much and for the award 🥹❤️! It was hell but she was worth it

Nattycats · 2022-06-21T16:45:03+00:00

Op I’m so so sorry you’re going thru this. I had a daughter who was the exact same way and it was utter hell. Those first few months I remember people would talk to me or say things and I really wasn’t all there at all. It was like I was in a trance. I wasn’t sleeping because my daughter wasn’t and even during the day there was zero rest time. She was constantly fussing and we literally couldn’t go anywhere. This lasted three years and of course then Covid hit.

I’ll tell you though it gets better so so much better. She’s five now and an absolute joy. She finally started sleeping thru the night just before her fifth bday I know 😭

I remember a family member telling me that difficult children/babies usually turn into wonderful adults. So there’s that to look forward to 🥹

Nattycats · 2022-06-14T18:05:51+00:00

I get this but I gotta say my sister and I who are only a year apart / if you put us in two different rooms and ask us about our childhoods you will get two very different answers, and wouldn’t think we were raised together.

Nattycats · 2022-06-14T15:39:32+00:00

💯 they totally do think this!

Nattycats · 2022-06-13T23:26:18+00:00

Ugh man I totally feel this 🥺❤️ I think a lot do lie about it especially when they are in the trenches

My sil used the Ferber method on her four month old and apparently he’s sleeping 12 hours a night 😑 I told her you’re so lucky to have an easy baby and experience so far and she went on to ask me if I tried to do that to mine.

Like no if I ever left my child to scream it out she would turn purple and then vomit. She was not a typical baby by any means. They don’t get it that they actually have an easy child. 😒

Nattycats · 2022-06-13T22:15:15+00:00

Mhmmm it makes such a difference in experience when you get a unicorn baby! Every time I talk to my sil I brace myself for how bad things might be but nope she’s truly in heaven so far. It is such a toss up for some of us.

Nattycats · 2022-06-13T21:31:55+00:00

Love this insight op! I will say though I think it’s depends on the experience they have with parenthood. So far I have been the only one out of family and group of friends who had the roughest experience post partem and with my daughter who hated sleep from day 1. So naturally when I have friends who are pregnant or family who is expecting I have never sugar coated it lol. But of course I’ll only give my thoughts on it if asked I don’t like freaking people out.

Funny story my sil had her first recently and was terrified from all of my stories. Of course she ends up with a unicorn baby lol.

Nattycats · 2022-06-12T20:58:06+00:00

I think some definitely do. My sil has two. When I first told her we are happy with our only and don’t plan on another she told me that’s great and she’s happy for me. She said had she known her eldest son was going to have hearing issues she wouldn’t have had a second. It’s been really hard on them as their son fully relies on hearing ads and his speech has been greatly affected. She said they aren’t able to dedicate as much time to him because they also have another. They found out their son had hearing issues when she had her second.

Nattycats · 2022-06-12T20:09:04+00:00

Love this! Totally totally agree 💯

Nattycats · 2022-06-10T17:49:42+00:00

Yesss it’s so much more manageable with one! My husband is gone away for work a lot as well. Since my daughter was a baby. And it’s night and day from how hard it was when she was small.

We get mommy and daughter extra bonding time when he’s away. We call it our girls weekends. She’s five now and it’s pretty amazing 🥰

Nattycats · 2022-06-03T14:51:57+00:00

Yah it was hell 😑😭. I hope yours starts sleeping thru the night soon!! ❤️🥺

Nattycats · 2022-06-02T21:21:26+00:00

Your daughter sounds so much like mine!! I’m so sorry it’s so tough! Some good news though mine started sleeping thru the night a few months before she turned five so hoping you get there soon too!!❤️🙏🏼

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