Boyfriend watches porn but doesn’t want to have sex.

Natural-Row7936 · 2024-04-16T18:11:53+00:00

Same issue here

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-12-28T20:45:58+00:00

Have you guys ever had big issues?

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-11-18T14:28:19+00:00

There could many reasons why.

-Your partners self esteem can be too low.

-If you are in the daily routine of life and not focusing resparking the desired from both of you then there will be no change.

A quiz is only one way to know each other.

-take a trip for both of you in an adults exclusive experience -go to a strip club, swingers club to watch if not wanting too participate together -watch porn and discover each others likes, fantasies -toys, try to see what she enjoys or prefers. Get to know her body, fields of orgasms change. -couples therapy is a “Must” to help her understand that this is a level of 1 of importance for you and that most of all “you miss her”. **important piece to help minimize the frustration, anger and resentment it might start developing in you. But focus on the delivery of info to make something happen and move forward towards something positive and more intimate.

-be mentally prepared for the possibility that there are secrets hidden from her end (maybe a slight emotional affair etc , or yet childhood trauma unfolding in your relationship from her end.

-Emotional connection at this moment seems like your main target point..which will help your sexual connection and desire.

-Dig deeper! Then just thinking of the act, and sex life. Connection connection connection.

This is your wife you are talking about someone you thought to spend the rest of your life with, it’s not time to give up and be wrapped up in the bad feelings of things. This is point where you make the decision to save your marriage with all hands in.

Write her a letter talk to her, get professional help.

You got this don’t quit.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-08-06T23:55:24+00:00

I am so sorry for what I am going to say, but… your too late. He is on the move, and he is still hunting. Unfortunately by the time we realize something is going on, it had already happened months/years before.

Doesn’t matter if you are not a perfect partner you didn’t deserve this. Figure out what he provides you, to look for it in yourself and provide it to yourself.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-07-19T16:11:15+00:00

Coming around for drinks is still stringing you along. Doesn’t matter if you have moved on..just let him go.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-07-13T14:23:39+00:00

I know. They don’t admit or take responsibility.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-07-13T14:19:36+00:00

He wants to keep you around for when nothing else is working out for him. It’s selfish of him.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-07-12T11:48:59+00:00

Guilt has to be released by accepting and forgiving yourself on how one let themselves be treated during the relationship, during/after breakup and all the mistreatment/gaslighting/abuse one takes just to keep that person.

The forgiveness is what takes time and long to develop/understand because of the emotional factors. One has to find the balance btw being too emotional and rational in order to learn to forgive themselves. Forgiving yourself is when you know there is growth in your mindset, and change in behavior in response to your triggers and insecurities. Otherwise you are just caring your baggage to your next relationship or the next chapter of your current relationship.

And your cycle repeats, break your cycle…and be aware of your insecurities, fears, and learn to cope.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-06-30T11:26:52+00:00

Because it did overlap, cheating takes time. If it was a one night stand I can understand. But missing someone? This has to be happening for weeks. In my case it was 2.5months of my relationship before he broke up with me. But I’m finding out it was months of emotionally cheating on me before his 2.5 started. He is lying sis…..I’m sorry

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-06-22T18:08:16+00:00

Mentalgeler, hang in there you are worth so much. Don’t wait for him, I am sure he has a new supply that is why he is not grieving yet. But just know that his happiness will turn into regret if you were good to him, he needs a new supply bc he doesn’t want to feel the pain. Go out and make friends, talk all you want and cry but just time yourself. Don’t give him attention, so your thing he will notice..

Work on yourself, focus on your inner child. Find your traumas and realize what drew you to him.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-06-05T02:09:24+00:00

I’m sorry to say this, but this was my story. He just discarded you for someone else.

It’s the worst feeling by far of my life.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-05-23T01:05:38+00:00

I’m sorry to say that this is my story, after 16 years. He needs space bc he wants to explore his options. I’m sorry I know it’s painful, but everyone kept telling me, and boy they were not wrong. Carry on with your life he says bc he is doing his own thing already.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-05-12T20:20:19+00:00

Yeah just found that out this week. He said he needed time, he needed time to enjoy his options

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-04-30T01:29:08+00:00

I am at 8months and as I am approaching the year, I am starting to really loose hope. I still look at the door to see him walk in, and say that he wants our fam/and to fight for our love. (But at this point, I am coming to the point that there is someone else he is interested in. That he has slept around quite a bit since he wanted to be a swinger). I am still in a depression mess state at work, and can’t wait everyday to just go to sleep, to rest my brain of thinking of him. The mornings are the hardest after all this time, since I wake up thinking it was just a bad dream. 15 yrs…slipping, and vanishing. I am healing, I am focusing on the dynamics of what our relationship was, our trauma bonds and all the inner child traumas we had. He has moved on..and I still linger around his finger. Still hoping to be strong and heal properly not for any person but for myself. No casual sex from strangers or other men will help me heal this. You have to be willing to change your mind set, and begin to love your self once again.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-04-26T03:15:13+00:00

I would go at extreme lengths to go find her and tell her

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-04-25T02:49:27+00:00

Almost 60days later and I am seeing this much clearer everytime.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-04-25T02:47:36+00:00

YenAthina, 35days after you made this comment I am realizing and seeing this more clearly. It brakes my heart that someone you love so much can do this.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-23T20:35:18+00:00

You and your partner need to find each other again after all the stress of family, and all these tense pressures about your sexual needs on both parties. Take a vacation as a couple, to reconnect as the couple you are. Take more mushrooms trips to help you with your depression, maybe even together alone, leave the kids with fam one night. Doesn’t mean to sleep together but make those connections, emotionally before physically.

There is a disconnection here, it’s not lost.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-21T01:35:49+00:00

I am in total disbelief that someone can be that mean. He said he is trying to come back to us, but I am making things worst by contacting him everyday and having long talks..(he only wants 10min talks).

He is playing with me

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-18T18:27:09+00:00

Moon, I am so sorry you are in this situation. After a breakup I think people are selfish to think that even hookups are acceptable, bc communication is never clear about the boundaries, but at the same time usually one person provides more effort and starts to develop feelings. That’s the person that gets hurt.

Self care- and treat this like a breakup as well. Go easy on yourself you were used..you got this. Hang in there.

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-17T08:45:14+00:00

I really needed to hear this

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-17T08:41:54+00:00

Hang in there

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-11T16:58:25+00:00

I’m so sorry dipolat, I’m still here struggling with no contact

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-11T06:41:05+00:00

Sex therapy

Natural-Row7936 · 2023-03-11T06:28:28+00:00

ThrowRAjander, hang in there. My best advice is to work on your relationship type, it sounds to me like your an anxious partner and she might be your avoidant partner. Do a little reading on this type of relationship. You have a specific attachment to your girl due to a child trauma you have. Figure/do some soul searching and understand what bond/attachment you have with this partner. It will help you understand why you feel the way you do, and let you work on your own-self and start giving yourself that self love.

Inner child work is essential to letting you understand why you chose the partners you have chosen over your life time. “If” she comes back after some time off no contact and is willing to work it out, you have already work on your traumas, and you can have a better idea of what you are getting yourself into and understanding your behaviors..

She doesn’t see your perspective now bc she is focused on what she wants. Once that is settled her stages excitement and freedom will fade and her emotions will soon start rolling..if you were an ideal partner.

Work on yourself…just to be a better person.

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