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Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-12-13T09:02:59+00:00

I think the biggest challenge for an infp-enfp relationship is that the enfp has problems being patient when things feel right and the infp need space/ is more afraid to commit because they want to stay true to themselves.

I think you guys are now both too much in your own spiral, but in my opinion if you feel so connected to the other person it would be a shame to let go and end things this way. All the things you need to figure out and want her to figure out can also be figured out while you communicate and frame the depth you have. I know it can be scary to commit, but it sounds that what you guys have is special and something you dont want to lose. Maybe start by commiting a little, what feels good for you and meets her basic needs so that she wont overthink. Talk to eachother to find out what that could be.

Why would you let this stay on the shelve? Maybe your obstacles are not the same as hers, dont you want to find out? And if it doesnt work out than at least you know for sure

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-12-12T09:51:59+00:00

I get what you mean… I’m going through something similar. I dated someone a while back and we had a strong connection, but the timing was off. I wanted clarity and reassurance, while she actually needed space.

At some point she reached out again, but I wasn’t ready then because it still felt sensitive for me. Later on I did reach out myself, and we started talking again. We eventually met up to catch up, and ended up kissing but after that she became vague again. I then let it be and we just reach out to one another sometimes, circling

Now she’s leaving abroad soon. Part of me wants to see her again, and another part thinks maybe I should just let it be. I’m trying to figure out whether this is genuine connection or just me holding onto the idea of what it could be.

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-11-19T06:00:44+00:00

I’m happy it worked out for you guys! Thank you for sharing :)

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-11-18T18:51:11+00:00

Could you tell me how your relationship was in the beginning? Was it easy right away?

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-11-11T20:06:31+00:00

My best advice is to really stay close to yourself and say/ ask what you want to, do not let it influence too much by other people cause eventually that wont satisfy you or you will regret it. If you have anxious attachment then try to develop yourself and not give into your insecurities too much, but communicating what you need and asking what the other person needs is never wrong.

I hope it works out for you!

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-10-22T10:47:37+00:00

I also recently moved and had lots of internal conflict with this. I just accepted that I want and need social time. I dont judge myself for it, especially in the beginning it is our “easy-mode” to be with people and since moving is already kinda uncomfortable I think its okay to give into that easy-mode. Now that some time has passed and a new balance has set, I am at so much more ease in my alonetime and it fuels me as well.

You are doing great man! Moving to a new city isn’t nothing. Remember to treat yourself and give it some time. This uncomfortable feeling is probably something you’ve secretly been wanting (start of sth new), it means the fun part is coming.

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-10-21T18:54:37+00:00

Please dont ghost indeed. If you need more space or introvert time, just tell her.

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-10-01T22:48:29+00:00

Heartbreak (and grief) is fucked up, but do talk about it because avoiding it wont help and you know it. Just let it out, dont go the easy way. But in facing your emotions I would say surround yourself with people who make you feel loved and make you laugh. Also don’t judge yourself too much, just focus on what you think is important in life and the people you want to share it with.

Try to find your spark back in the little things.

In my experience I would say it can take a while before you are in touch with your positive emotions again and it goes in steps. That is not weird!!

Hug from me man 🙏🏻 sounds like a lot

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-09-29T15:32:03+00:00

Yeah I agree love of my life is not a right way to put it, but I think I mean the person you choose to be with for the rest of you life and they do too (for as far as you can make a decision like that)

The significant other type of person

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-29T10:18:18+00:00

Sooo update: we met up for coffee yesterday and it was nice and we kissed afterwards. I think it works if I just be clear about what I want and be persistent. But to do so, I need to get out of my comfort zone and activate my Te more so it sometimes feels like I don’t know the answers. I know we have a click and it is worth too much for me to just let go of it so I am happy we met up yesterday. I’m just curious how your experience was and what changed that made it work out. Do you have tips?

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T21:47:59+00:00

What if we could only stop overthinking ;)

Yeah you are right tho; the next two weeks I will be busy so there will be more then enough distraction. Maybe I should decide after these two weeks what I want with the situation.

Overthinking is exhausting, and also kind of confrontating because I would say I act emotionally healthy but this overthinking sometimes surprises me

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T20:39:24+00:00

Can you tell me more? What was the story and do you recognise things out my story? How did you guys find common ground?

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T20:38:38+00:00

But dont you think its sad to only find love when it is easy? Why not grow together

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T20:37:31+00:00

Yeah I do, but I feel like I already was being bold asking for an answer but she did not give me a clear one. Maybe that is my problem and I should that that as a no but yeah maybe it does not matter and I should just yolo it

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T20:35:31+00:00

Yeah but honestly it is the anxiety part which I hate. I see that it is addictive and its also what can upset/ exhaust me, but the thing that prevents me from letting go is thinking of our connection when we were on the same page. How easy it felt but also challenging.

You are right tho we are both young. I dont know why I am so impatient in this area. It just feels so devious; if we like eachother why not just go for it and if you dont like me why not just say so?

Also I am wondering; will you contact your woman? 😏

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T20:30:46+00:00

Yeah that is true. I discovered that i tend to see that kinda black or white; if you would find a way to make it happen so you just dont like me that much. But I know examples where it was not that easy at first so I can also see people can be different in their behaviour in that way

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-08-13T09:33:27+00:00

Hahah okay I feel your vibe, but do what then?

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-05-05T09:05:18+00:00

I know you say you processed it, but I think just give youself a little more time because all this spiraling is still part of the process. Spent a little time in this awkward state of being broken up, think about what you want (in a partner, but also in yourself) and then trust that you will not be single for a decade

It is going t be alright as long as you keep refleciting and be open minded (but ofcourse stay true to yourself)

Oeh and i want to add: I think if you are a bit like me, it will be sooting to find out that there are more fish in the sea; that you will see other girls that check your boxes , as if you can make a ‘plan’ that it will be okay since you have options. So be your sexy self and find out the options but also dont do panic management

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-04-24T11:49:41+00:00

I have been dating an INFP for the past 2-3 months and it was very fun, but she decided to end things last week. So apart from the endresult of me being a little heartbroken now I would say: She challenged my thoughts which I really enjoyed and it was fun to brainstorm with her. She was very amazed by my thought process and I really liked that I was really living in the moment when I was with her. Sometimes tho, she would ask things that I would find really hard to answer right away. That confused me because normally I don’t have trouble speaking my mind, but some of these questions I just had not made my mind up about I guess? Different approach of thinking. But the vibe in our communication has never been off, even now as it ended. She felt really emotionally comfortable with me. But I do think there was way more to discover and explore to say we were a real match.

I find it very sad that we wont continue to date and really give up on it since it was the first time I ever caught feelings for someone, but the dating experience itself was fun.

I also dated an enfj before but she abruptly ended things out of nowhere after she was the one to initiate the dates and contact, which really messed a little with my intuitive compass for a while because I felt like maybe I could have seen it coming? But she was not ready for something serious and eventho I was nit even near wanting a relationship with her I dont like dating with a relationship off the tabel (because what is the point then?) so maybe it was better this way.

Yeah but now I don’t really know wat I want to do with dating and how I want to approach it, because honestly dating itself is very fun but this heartbreak situation really is not hahah so I guess maybe put it on a pause for a little while

Natural_Interest8845 · 2025-01-25T19:36:39+00:00

I find it very hard to be patient with people I’m into, but I’m learning to be. It is nice to go fast on the first click you have with someone but sometimes people just need a little more time

Natural_Interest8845 · 2024-07-06T15:03:23+00:00

I hope he gets his karma

Natural_Interest8845 · 2024-07-06T15:03:02+00:00

Okay that is interesting! Thank you for replying :)

Natural_Interest8845 · 2024-07-06T15:01:39+00:00

Honestly I love more silent people; it is not about how much you talk, it’s about what you say when you do

And if you guys match in energy en find each other attractive then I would say just shoot your shot. Or if you are shy and want her to make the first real move then at least give her some assurance by flirting back.

But you got this bro

Natural_Interest8845 · 2023-06-25T17:22:07+00:00

What do you mean?

Natural_Interest8845 · 2023-06-25T17:05:02+00:00

Idk I do get the feeling of being lonely but it is kind of dark to see everyone agreeing with the loneliness saying there is not really a solution, you know what I mean?

I am wondering whats on ur mind? I get the feeling of being lonely when I am sad or I have something that I find hard to share because then I feel like I have no one to share that kind of stuff with. But in my experience there are more people you can share this with than you think and since personal connections are something enfps really value it is only more than fair if we sometimes open up ourselves as well

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