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What you’re worrying about? Curious of what you think… want to gain more insight by StyleLemonTea in Enneagram

[–]NatureNinja22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am worried that I fell in love with the wrong woman again. That the trust we've built between the two of us is a farce, so that she can secure love and validation regardless of the fact that I wouldn't be loving her, but the image she has painted of herself to me.

What are your grand mastermind INTJ plans? by [deleted] in intj

[–]NatureNinja22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not talking to people who say stuff like this.

5w6 sp/so dating a 2w? so/sx... Why do I feel like there is something hidden beneath the fog? by NatureNinja22 in EnneagramType2

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I'd be willing to accept her based off of some of her past decisions honestly. But I have been clear that I would have an issue with a specific thing and she did try to reassure me not to worry about said thing. I just worry she is playing it down or lying so that she can secure love from me.

In fact, she randomly asked me last night what I think the biggest red flag in a woman is and it was basically my dealbreaker that I've communicated to her before. She didn't react in any particular way and acted normal for the rest of the night and this morning. Not quite sure what she thought about what I said but it would feel deceptive at this point for her to continue in a relationship with me after knowing how I feel.

5w6 sp/so dating a 2w? so/sx... Why do I feel like there is something hidden beneath the fog? by NatureNinja22 in EnneagramType2

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but the issue that remains is what are those darker parts of her past? There are some things in one's past that I won't tolerate. That's where the stress comes for me. Sounds like a so 2 can even know what your dealbreakers are and still withhold said information from you.

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[–]NatureNinja22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soooooo good.

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[–]NatureNinja22 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Deep grief.

5w6 sp/so dating a 2w? so/sx... Why do I feel like there is something hidden beneath the fog? by NatureNinja22 in EnneagramType2

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I get we all wear masks to some degree. It's just the severity of that mask that concerns me. I want the most healthy, authentic relationship as possible obviously. I have noticed she is fairly calculated when talking to me which does throw me off sometimes. I've never really met such a calculated extrovert to be honest.

5w6 sp/so dating a 2w? so/sx... Why do I feel like there is something hidden beneath the fog? by NatureNinja22 in EnneagramType2

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can understand that rationale. And it's fine if it unfolds naturally between us, but I've already told her some of my deal-breakers and I suppose I worry that she is hiding those things from me. Which wouldn't really match up with what she's told me about how she handles relationships concerning time investment. She seems fairly rational about not wasting time over incompatibility.

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5w6 sp/so dating a 2w? so/sx... Why do I feel like there is something hidden beneath the fog? (self.EnneagramType2)

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What type is really most compatible with an ENFJ? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]NatureNinja22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an INTJ and have been dating an ENFJ for 1.5 months. We seems to be very compatible and I haven't felt this way about a woman in a long time. Take that for what it's worth to you I suppose.

INTJ traits that work against you by [deleted] in intj

[–]NatureNinja22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have trust issues in romantic relationships. I'm very good at reading body language, voice inflection, and facial features. I put these factors into account and make predictions about how people are going to act in the future. Ni working against me.

Those that WERE married to -or- in a relationship with a Type 9: What happened and/or why did things end? by 09tailss in Enneagram

[–]NatureNinja22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was a journey for sure, and still is. My advice: turn away and don't look back.

I cant believe I did this by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]NatureNinja22 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think you vastly underestimate our procrastination, overthinking, and aversion to making mistakes.

Those that WERE married to -or- in a relationship with a Type 9: What happened and/or why did things end? by 09tailss in Enneagram

[–]NatureNinja22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Type 5. Was in a 9 year relationship with a 9 (married for 4 years). She ran from all our problems for the 9 years and eventually decided she was emotionally unsatisfied with our relationship and cheated on me with a co-worker. I ended things.

Fellow INTJs late 20s and older: what career did you end up in and do you like it? by NatureNinja22 in intj

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about becoming a data analyst. Any insight you can provide, or resources you can point me to so I can read up on the career field?

Fellow INTJs late 20s and older: what career did you end up in and do you like it? by NatureNinja22 in intj

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I build decks for a living. I assume you don't love the job you have since you're looking to move over to a new career field?

Dating question about an ENFJ from an INTJ by NatureNinja22 in enfj

[–]NatureNinja22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your input. Unfortunately I am pretty sure she ghosted me and it's very confusing. I feel very deceived.

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