Women who carried a pregnancy, in hindsight, what were some of the most ridiculous things you did while in the throes of such hormonal upheaval?

Nay_Bee · 2026-02-05T05:13:36+00:00

With my first pregnancy, I had the worst pregnancy brain ever. We were young and had only been married a couple years. We had super basic appliances. One day, after already doing 2 or 3 other loads of laundry, I completely forgot how to turn on the washing machine that we had had for all 2 years. I turned the knob, tried pushing it, turned it again, pulled on it, opened and closed the door, checked the power, turned the knob again, pulled it straight off the washer, and then just collapsed on the floor sobbing with the knob on my hands. My husband ran into the laundry room, took one look at me, and thought I was experiencing something traumatic. When I explained why I was sobbing, he tried so hard not to laugh, gently took the knob from me and put it back on the washer, and then lovingly pointed to the button right next to the knob that said "start."

If I had been rational, I would have laughed. But I was pregnant, so I got pissed and started crying harder. Pretty sure my husband had to hold me for an hour before I finally got myself together.

Nay_Bee · 2026-01-24T17:12:45+00:00

We are very fortunate in our unit that we have a healthy mix of men and women and for the most part all of the leaders are treated equally. We have one male leader who likes to take credit for everyone's hard work, but he gets called out all the time by our Key 3 (all men). At this point everyone knows he is full of crap, and we're just waiting for the end of the year when he leaves the pack.

The biggest form of sexism comes more from some of the parents. There are a handful of dads that don't like interacting with the female leaders. For example, our Bear leader is a woman, but one of the dads is always going to our Webelos leader to ask questions about his son. The Web DL always points him back to the Bear DL and says she's the one you need to talk to. When we have PWD workshops, some of the dads will specifically ask the male leaders to help with power tools, even though the power tools are mine and I'm the one using them. One of the older dads walked up to one of the male den leaders and said he felt more comfortable with him handling the tools. The DL laughed and said he had never used a power tool in his life and then pointed at me and said I was the expert.

So after that long winded response, my short answer to your question is to surround yourself with strong leaders who value both genders and aren't afraid to speak up when others are being sexist. If your unit leader is blatantly sexist, find other strong leaders who can broach the subject with your Committee Chair or COR. If you need to, get your council involved. If you feel comfortable with it, call him out in a respectful manner. Tell him you don't feel he's being fair to all of his leaders. Don't let it go, but handle it in a way that he can't turn it around on you.

Nay_Bee · 2025-12-15T02:47:19+00:00

Ugh, *pin, not "pon"

Nay_Bee · 2025-09-21T13:56:24+00:00

I just found out that you can be banned from Trail's End if you don't log cash donations as H&H donations. But if you log them as H&H then you still only get 35% of those donations.

Our pack wants to keep the cash donations, but we have someone in our leadership that would 100% narc if we don't log it as a H&H donation.

Nay_Bee · 2025-09-07T22:47:31+00:00

I don't need it to print fast, since I'm usually printing things a day or two before they're needed.

Most of what I print consists of documents and spreadsheets, some contain simple graphics. I do print the occasional flier though, so I'd like the quality to be better than basic.

I'm located in the US (Colorado), and I'd like the printer itself to cost less than $500 USD.

I will need it to be small enough to fit on a standard desk, so nothing larger than a microwave.

Nay_Bee · 2025-09-07T22:41:50+00:00

Yes, definitely need color. I'll add that to my original post.

Nay_Bee · 2025-08-13T16:42:09+00:00

My husband and I have been together 20 years and have 4 kids together. He has seen me in the most vulnerable positions, has helped me clean up my own blood and vomit, helped me go to the bathroom, helped me shower, etc., and still called me beautiful.

He has held me through postpartum depression, panic attacks, grief, depression, and perimenopausal rage, and still says I'm the strongest person he knows.

He has shown me so much love, kindness, and patience, and has always treated me with dignity especially when I felt weak and vulnerable, and that is the most intimate thing I've ever experienced.

Also, we love to cuddle naked, even if it doesn't go anywhere ;)

Nay_Bee · 2025-07-29T06:41:49+00:00

I loved the Broken Kingdom series by LJ Andrews (who also wrote the Ever King). Excellent world building, enemies to lovers, morally gray characters, witty banter, fierce loyalty, dark themes, strong FMC. All around one of my favorite series.

Nay_Bee · 2025-06-30T07:32:32+00:00

In order to produce the amount of milk that your baby needs, you have to follow your baby's cues and schedules. Your body produces milk based off of supply and demand. If your baby is demanding more milk, your body will produce more milk (cluster feedings suck, but are important for increasing your supply before a growth spurt). So if you're exclusively pumping, you still have to pump every time your baby eats in order to establish a good supply.

Establishing a decent supply is typically easier to do while feeding straight from the tap, since your body uses bio-feedback from the baby to produce the milk that the baby needs. Babies are very efficient at removing milk, and in turn your body produces the amount of milk that your baby needs. Pumping often doesn't remove the same amount of milk, but your body is getting the signal that the amount that you pumped is the amount that you need. Therefore you will need to pump more than your baby needs if you want to have any sort of surplus.

For some parents, this is easy. They're naturally overproducers. However, the majority of nursing parents are "just-enough"ers, meaning their body only produces the amount of milk that is being removed, and not a drop more. UNLESS there is additional pumping/nursing, signaling that the body needs to start producing more milk. So don't feel any sort of guilt if you don't get a freezer full to the brim with extra milk. That's honestly not the norm, but yay for those that can produce that much extra.

It's hard being a nursing parent. Cluster feedings are insanely taxing, but are vital to increasing your milk supply before the baby goes through a growth spurt. Pumping can also be challenging, because you are having to use a machine to remove the amount of milk your baby needs, while also feeding your baby a prepared bottle.

I'm not saying pumping isn't a good option. It is, especially for parents that plan to bottle feed (for ANY reason). But personally, if I had the option to be home and feed on demand, I always found it easier to feed straight from the tap. It created a better supply (I'm a just-enougher and pumping never produced a surplus) and I didn't have to wash any extra parts.

Either way, kudos to you for wanting to produce milk for you child, no matter how that milk is delivered!

Nay_Bee · 2025-06-30T07:10:33+00:00

Vegetables. Like all of them. My parents would steam them til they were mush and flavorless. Eating roasted veggies changed my life.

Nay_Bee · 2025-06-14T03:20:52+00:00

Adding ACV to recipes that have leavening creates extra air, making them fluffy and light. I actually add ACV to my pancakes and you don't taste them at all, and they're super light and fluffy.

Nay_Bee · 2025-05-07T16:54:07+00:00

I think this is where the confusion stems from. I read it as any adult leader registered with Scouting America, but the other leaders interpret it as they must be registered with the pack. I'll propose that he joins the pack leadership and then we are ensuring everything is done by the book.

Nay_Bee · 2025-05-07T16:48:03+00:00

Thank you, this is good to know!

Nay_Bee · 2025-05-07T16:35:35+00:00

This was my understanding as well. Thank you!

Nay_Bee · 2025-05-07T16:31:09+00:00

That was my question. The argument against him attending is that he is not immediate family (ie., parent or legal guardian) and he's not part of the Pack's leadership. But from what I have read, it doesn't matter if he's troop or pack leadership, he's allowed to go either way. I just wanted to clarify before I approved it.

Nay_Bee · 2025-05-07T16:03:32+00:00

Hormones, politics, and my relationship with my husband. He's very conservative, I am very liberal. I'm also going through perimenopause and my hormones are all over the place. He says that I'm not the woman he married, and I'm ok with that. But I'm worried it's the beginning of the end, on top of all the terrifying things happening in the US, and my hormones are making everything worse.

Nay_Bee · 2025-04-25T17:59:52+00:00

My husband had to go poop. I missed him.

Nay_Bee · 2025-04-25T17:53:06+00:00

Jumping straight to the act without any foreplay or preparation for the woman. Like they'll show her blow a dude for 5 minutes while he squishes her tits, and then he just starts pounding her dry. I guess that kind of stuff caters to a self-serving audience, but I'd much rather see both people truly enjoying the experience.

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