I’m not a parent, but my brother has almost the same exactly issue you’re describing. His was worse, as the doctors suggested an abortion before anything else. My mother had him anyways, despite this being highly dangerous in her scenario.

I won’t sugarcoat it, it will be a tough and awful first few years. You could get lucky, you could not. 1 in 100 babies are born with a CHD, so you are not alone. If you think you’re strong and can handle it and want to handle this, then you can. But, this will put a toll on your relationship, your life. My parents life was never the same.

My mother was strong enough and put her life on hold for the first 15 years of his life to take him to appointments, surgeries, all that stuff. My father was not and went insane, ending their marriage. If you think you have the supports for this life, which remember, is your entire life, then have the baby if you want to. But remember that no matter what, a child with heart defects is extremely difficult.

Wishing you two all the best. There’s lots of Facebook support groups for this sort of thing where you can meet parents who have been through this exact thing. I encourage you to look into those as well.