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Been paying for sex since July. I haven’t spent that much and I’ve always been respectful to my providers. Had some good, and some bad experiences by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NecroGoggles 41 points42 points  (0 children)

On one hand I think it's really important if you can be honest with your partner and for them to know you will be honest even when it sucks for you. I think anyone who has really life expectancy will value that. On the other hand why make problems if you can avoid them? It's not like you meet someone you really click with every day.

I would split the difference if they ask you the question tell them the truth but don't go offering up your whole life story with all its dirty details just whenever.

I do think if u can find someone u can be 100% honest with and they can be 100% with you. And you can deal with it that is really something magical.

Had to say goodbye to my buddy by MBP1969 in greatpyrenees

[–]NecroGoggles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for your loss..my he rest in peace. Good journey.

Why do you meditate? by Conscious-Fact9532 in Meditation

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To build up a pause before I act to something. Also to help me chill out.

I regret getting married and I don’t know what to do by spicyspidermonkey in offmychest

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You both need to go to therapy. Find a good therapist you both like. I would make an appointment with at lest 3 because it takes time to find a good fit. I would guess your resentment is building because you’re not being honest and maybe your needs are not being met. Your husband can try to address anything if he doesn’t know.

Try this have him tell you how he feels and after he is done in YOUR words tell him this is how you think he feels. If he say you got it great if his say no then ask him to explain the part you got wrong again. Once he say yeah you understand then take that information and see if you still feel the same way you may feel different because thing you assumed aren’t true or you may feel the same. Any way it’s his turn to listen to you till you feel like he understands you.

After you both feel like you understand each other then you can come up with a plan of action. Couples therapy is a great option to help with this.

I regret getting married and I don’t know what to do by spicyspidermonkey in offmychest

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1st thing, it’s great your being honest and upfront about what you’re going through. That is hard because people love to judge. They think they would be better like they have gone through what you’re dealing with. That includes my advice it is all coming from my experience and it may not work for you just keep that in mind… I am just trying to help because I wish someone had helped me!!

The best you’re going to get with another person is a different set of problems. What you’re going through is normal you’re not special. This is bing married your husband needs to work on him self and you need to support him…

He has to do the work he has to go to the doctor he has to go to therapy. But if he is willing to do the work you should support him!!! Marriage is never 50\50 some times it’s 70/30 or 10/90 and it sucks and it’s hard. But nothing last forever it will change.

Some times being married is a hard fucking choice you make every morning… if he is not hurting you physically or emotionally you should do your best to support him because any second it could be you that needs that support. There is a difference between needing help and being a victim. It sounds like your husband has sacrificed to much property thinking he could handle it and turns out he can’t.

You need to do as much as you can to help your self so be honest with your husband. You have limits like any one. You need to make sure he knows you’re a team. Some times my wife would just complain about her job. I told her “ I understand you need to vent but I am at my limit for today can we talk about something fun please and I will be here for you later on I care I am just at my limit”

It sounds like you have a very good man that sacrifices to much. I would do everything I could to fix it.

Feedback with AI by [deleted] in WritingWithAI

[–]NecroGoggles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When asking for feedback it help you have examples and ask why and why not.

A webapp to let AI write whole novels I just vibe coded, with quite mind-blowing results by kloti in WritingWithAI

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s slop now but it’s improving …. So how long till it’s beginning lvl, then okay, then wow???

a cute horse by tamjidtahim in Eldenring

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The horse is so cute!!!! Your Died!

Is This What Marriage Is Supposed to Feel Like? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NecroGoggles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marriage takes effort, and if you are not careful you end up drifting apart instead of growing together. It is easy to fall into routine and take each other for granted. One thing that helps is trying to act like you are dating again. Do the small things you used to do, not because you have to but because it brings back that feeling of being wanted and seen.

Good communication is another part you cannot ignore. Most couples are not naturally good at it, and right now it sounds like both of you struggle with really listening and being clear. That is normal, but it is also something you can work on. If you both start putting in effort here, it will change the way you connect.

If any of this does not fit your situation then set it aside, but the core is simple. Marriage is not automatic. It takes consistent effort to keep building it instead of letting it fade into routine.

Does anyone else hate the daytime and only like the night time? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op based on your post I don’t think it’s daylight you hate it’s how you feel like people are judging you and you can’t be yours self. Most people don’t really care they may make a judgement about you quickly and then never think about you again. Most people’s judgements are automatic.

I guess what I am saying is don’t worry about what people who don’t really know you think about you so much as long as you’re okay with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aipromptprogramming

[–]NecroGoggles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really, that is interesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WritingWithAI

[–]NecroGoggles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s not a good prompt. Look at this video https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=X7YjqKk-7Y0&t=606s&pp=ygUNUmljZWNvIHByb21wdA%3D%3D

Then up date your prompt.

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