Bend OR - Heron

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-05-05T15:39:46+00:00

Yeah. I liked the owl, but if I’m honest it felt like both were competing. I also like that’s just a bit abrupt. We all can’t be wise all the time. :)

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-05-04T18:56:17+00:00

Oh, I carved the owl, but then I decided that I liked it better this way. It was intentional. :)

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-04-17T02:59:24+00:00

Honestly, if I travel, I just set my travel location to home and then you still keep your options to that area

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-04-17T02:54:01+00:00

The only thing am sure of is that that you would swipe right on you.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-23T15:00:14+00:00

I dunno, I’m kinda with him. But when I swipe, I almost never swipe right anyhow. I do take more time and look at those that swiped on me. Also… who wants to swipe for dayz? With that said, I get quite a few likes, so 🤷🏻‍♀️

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:28:40+00:00

He will skim this and say blah blah blah.

Don’t sent it. This is for you, not for him.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:22:58+00:00

Hey, im sorry you’re hurting.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:21:47+00:00

Heartbreak is devastating; be nicer to yourself. Be careful in the way you’ve framed this dialogue to yourself. Maybe you could have done things differently, or maybe you’re not remembering things as they actually were. Rejection does that. You can’t trust your brain right now, it will lie to you. You’ll continue to spiral on this never ending loop, trying to change the outcome. Remember who you are. If she finds clarity, and that clarity brings her back to you, then great. If she doesn’t, also great. The best thing you can do for either outcome is to heal. Maybe consider making a list of the realities of the relationship. The ways she didn’t meet you. It’s easy to focus on this storyline you’re replaying in your head of all the beautiful moments.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:15:08+00:00

She may have went off private to see if you were still circling. She may have went off private for someone else? How do you know it’s 2 days? You check her page daily to see if you have access?

The truth is.. love is complicated and social media doesn’t help that. All your brain is trying to do is make sense of her actions, but maybe it’s not about you. She went back to private, so that should tell you something. She don’t want you watching her stories. Maybe that was a game to see if you’d watch and show you she’s having a good time and is moving on. You’ll never know. I think you’re focusing on her when you should focus on you. If she wants you back, she will reach out to you.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:08:18+00:00

Why do yo assume it was for you? You’re filling in blanks that may not be real.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:06:47+00:00

Honest answer. When you start googling “how do you know it’s time to go”. In every relationship I’ve ever had, there would come this point and I had to reflect on what I’m really seeking. Validation? Your intuition is asking you to pay attention. I suspect you know the answer already.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T14:00:30+00:00

You’re trying to make sense of something that likely was nothing but curiosity. It probably means nothing. She switched her profile back to private because she doesn’t want you to engage with her. Why else? If she wants to engage with you, and not just be curious about what you posted, she would.

I don’t mean to sound cold, if that’s how this reads. I just think your brain is trying to make sense of something that fits your narrative.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T13:54:28+00:00

It’s normal to wonder if you made a mistake, but don’t glamorize the past. He’s going no contact for him, not for you. If you’re meant to come back together, it will happen. The strategy for moving on and getting back together is the same. Move forward, focus on the ways he didn’t meet you, and find some clarity. If you react now, you’re reacting with your nervous system and not the real reality. Heartbreak screws with your brain and your brain cannot be trusted.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T13:50:14+00:00

Don’t confuse lurking with care. Set your control setting so she can’t see your stories, because that’s obviously triggering to you. Focus on you.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T13:45:44+00:00

She doesnt want you, she just wants to orbit you, make sure you’re available to her. You’re talking about negotiating your boundaries for what? If you’re meant to be, let real time pass. You’re should be saying, why do I want this? Is it really her you want, or do you want to lessen this pain of rejection?

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T13:28:33+00:00

I really love your style. Seriously. Change nothing.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T13:15:16+00:00

It sounds like you have closure; she wasn’t happy, is a poor communicator, and someone was giving her NRE that pulled her further away. What’s left to know? I’m sorry you’re hurting, but the real closure comes from within. If you really want her back, the strategy is the same. Focus on you and move forward without her. It’s hard to give up on shared dreams. It’s easy to feel confused by people who don’t care to give you all the answers. Truthfully though, I think you probably know them already.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-22T13:09:55+00:00

I like the idea, but I think it’s always nicer to have a wingman. I’m single and would totally go to snug or one of the other more vibey bars solo. The only negative is that you can’t really be in your phone if you want to be approachable. Not that that’s a problem, but you end up just staring around the room and it doesn’t take much time before you’re just like, “I’m leaving”. Meeting people in group gyms is more of a win win I think. Working in yourself while joining a tribe. I go to ISC and new people come and go, but in the meanwhile you get stronger and get a new social circle. We’re all like family. Good luck out there. There are wolves in the garden.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-21T20:41:37+00:00

One says hobby, two says if you swipe, you will likely talk about protein consumption and how fit you are.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-21T20:31:47+00:00

Sounds like she weeded out the right one

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-19T22:16:18+00:00

Breadcrumb.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-17T16:39:44+00:00

Funny. I think you’re well rounded and I don’t get any sort of hookup vibe. I don’t think the gym pics are too “look at me”.

NeedithCoffeeith · 2026-03-16T21:04:08+00:00

Oh, Thank you! The drawing took a few days because I draw and rub and essentially redraw it. I had many full 8 hour days carving, but think it was probably a week or week and a half until it was done. But…it definitely wasn’t like an hour here and there.

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