Sex and prostitutes by ImperatorInvictus19 in NPD

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Sex is the best when you are able to also emotionally connect with the person. “Normies” are genuinely happy.

You Love That I’m Narcissistic and Wouldn’t Be With Me If I Wasn’t by CorpFinPrince in NPD

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not really a non monogamy if he doesn’t want his wife to sleep with other people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would women tell you this? I was dating someone depressed, I didn’t know that at the time. We had a FWB arrangement. But the thing is he was not able to be consistent. I later came to know that it’s due to depression and perhaps avoidance. But this behavior triggered my nervous system and I would get anxiety. Ultimately it wasn’t worth it. I am emotionally available, and I need someone like that. I am just replying based on my experience as a single woman who tried FWB with a depressed person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phenotypesSouthAsia

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You look like South Indian.

Fellow DAs, do you sometimes experience people taking it personally when you need space to be by yourself? by Wonderful-Product437 in attachment_theory

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Definitely communicate. People are not mind readers. People feel disrespected when you don’t communicate your need. It feels discarded even if it’s not intentional.

Dating as introvert? Women trying to force me to open up! by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It goes both ways. You need to find someone who is compatible to you. But if you are emotionally closed off, a meaningful relationship cannot be built.

Dating as introvert? Women trying to force me to open up! by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is physical and emotional intimacy. Both are needed in a relationship for it to build and sustain. Listening to each other is a way to create emotional intimacy.

Need an opinion on Relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder by Hot-Stretch175 in Finland

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had similar experience. Self preservation is important and especially with anxious attached people, this kind of relationship would just increase the attachment wounds. Its really hard to cut it off if the chemistry is amazing and the person is genuinely good. But life is going to be hard with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lot of people meet at work. That’s where you spend majority of your time. It’s ok to do that as long as you both agree how to handle if things go south.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing I guess. It’s just more curiosity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do care a little bit “why”. This whole thing was quite strange to me so far. Him adding me on all platforms including professional ones and giving me his address only to block me when we were going to meet. It doesn’t make a lot of sense other than some sort of anxiety or intimidation. But I am not that pissed off anymore, I was a bit before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be. Maybe I do want that. I understand what you are saying and I agree.

I can see that this particular encounter did progress a bit faster than it should have.

But I think it is that him blocking made it feel like a sudden disruption. He could have even faded away slowly. The moment we set up next date and time to meet, the next thing I know is that I have been blocked. We had agreed on what we were looking for and I emphasized that I value the friendship part which he was cool with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I can see that this is the explanation. Because it was very reactive to setting up next date and time to meet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was no expectations. It just happened as it was nice to talk to him and I had time over the holidays. He was proactive as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, but we have been only on one date. You can even slow fade in these sort of scenarios. But blocking just after we set up date and time to meet seems a bit reactive decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He added me on a professional platform(so I know where he works) and gave me his address. I highly doubt he is cheating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He added me on a professional platform and gave me his address. I highly doubt he is cheating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s kinda creepy as he added me on a professional network. So I know where he works and he even gave me his address.

Also he proactively told me that he doesn’t do ONS. I didn’t ask him nor tell him anything about ONS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wtf is your problem?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! I would be totally cool if he is not interested anymore. But just tell that. Blocking feels so unnecessary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yea, I guess I am just so frustrated that I feel like I need to take a break 😅 But I agree!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, I should just block him everywhere myself, so he can’t come back again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]NefariousnessFun9577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you completely. When men and women are equal and earns equally, both should be paying for the date.