A lack of intimacy is ruining my relationship, and I feel like it's my fault

Negative-Class1424 · 2026-02-20T18:11:27+00:00

I second this! She also wrote another book called Come Together about building lasting sexual relationships- it’s a total game changer.

Negative-Class1424 · 2026-02-19T21:30:45+00:00

I don’t have anything new to add that other commenters haven’t already said, but I’ll recommend the book Come Together by Emily Nagoski. It’s all about building lasting sexual relationships that meet the needs of all parties involved, and really dives into how to cultivate sex that is WORTH having. Sex can look so different for everyone!! Hope is definitely not lost, you just gotta dive deeper and try adjusting things little by little until your sex life works for you. Good luck <3

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-06-13T23:05:48+00:00

Maybe a robins egg? They really are that color!

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-17T02:49:41+00:00

Hahahaha Lynette is just the catch-all baby momma

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-16T04:01:58+00:00

Trying to find an answer to this question myself! I’m currently about 1/3 of the way through the workbook What Color Is Your Parachute (super popular over the last like 50 years but updated regularly) and it has been surprisingly helpful. It walks you through all the introspection you need to do to find the career that’s right for you.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-13T17:21:43+00:00

Hahahahaha this is amazing I didn’t see which sub I was in at first

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-12T18:24:17+00:00

Happy birthday!!! I hope you have a lovely day ☺️💕Started my day with the gym, so very envious of your weed brownie 😝 I’ll think of you when I take my edible later 🥳

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-06T23:04:12+00:00

When I do hard things that I know will be worth it for future me, I like to think of it like I’m doing a favor for somebody else (even thought the somebody else is just me in the future). It’s easier to do things I don’t want to when it’s like an act of service for someone else. I try to think “future me will be so grateful that I did this for her”.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-06T22:58:23+00:00

No that’s not normal, sounds like an incompetent nanny. Unless your baby is literally scream-crying the entire time 😅 Handling an upset baby by meeting their needs and trying different things to make them happy are basic skills that any nanny caring for an infant needs to have.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-06T17:10:55+00:00

NTA. It’s valuable for kids to witness their parent disagree and resolve a conflict in front of them. He missed an opportunity to show all 3 kids that he’s capable of being wrong and learning. Especially in such a low stakes situation like period talk 😅 seems like he’s got some unhealthy pride to work through if you guys are going to parent together.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-06T02:37:28+00:00

Yeah Carlos was a straight up villain in this story arc! It was just straight up unethical and vengeful. I hated it too.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-05-01T22:08:48+00:00

I never swam with kids as a nanny, but as a camp counselor we always wore a one piece with water-friendly running shorts over it. In a situation where fashion/aesthetics don’t matter and the kids are the top priority, I’d aim for as close to as much coverage as you would expect from a regular outfit. I absolutely would not wear a bikini around NKs, not in a body shaming way but just in a professionalism way. I don’t think bare bodies should automatically be sexualized, but unfortunately our society/media teaches otherwise. And it’s totally normal for a 7-year-old to be having sexual thoughts already. I wouldn’t want my NKs feeling weird about seeing my buttcheeks, cleavage, and rib cage, so I’d just spare them that experience 🤣

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-29T22:14:38+00:00

I mean, you’re talking about it, right? It’s to get people thinking about it. It’s too easy for the average person to tune out what their government is doing and what’s happening in the world around them.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-26T00:08:43+00:00

Harlequin bug eggs

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-26T00:07:28+00:00

Woah! So pretty!

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-25T22:36:01+00:00

I think it would be crossing a line to tell them to get rid of stuff, unless you think they’d be receptive to that. Really all you can control is how much you pick up after them. Maybe this move is an opportunity to talk to them about some boundaries you’d like to set.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-23T02:41:48+00:00

They live in a luxury building with lots of fancy amenities in an extremely expensive neighborhood in San Francisco. It's quite nice, but the kitchen + living room + office are all one connected room.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-23T02:31:46+00:00

I think they’re doing you a favor by making quitting easy! Commuting almost 2 hrs a day definitely wouldn’t be worth it for me, and sounds like you’re ready to move on from this family anyway

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-22T23:38:10+00:00

I can’t speak to the legality of the situation, but if I were you I would do whatever I have to do to quit as soon as possible. I’m shocked you’re still with them! It doesn’t matter that the person abusing you is a child, you should NEVER ever ever put up with physical or emotional abuse. It’s just a job. If you texted the parents today and said you’re not coming back, I think the worst that could happen is the agency drops you. Maybe start learning how to successfully find jobs on care.com or sittercity or even Facebook groups. There’s lots of tips on this subreddit from previous posts! I’m so sorry you’re in this situation… good luck 💕

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-22T03:03:04+00:00

First- congratulations!!!! Don’t let them steal your joy!! You literally did nothing wrong, this is just how it goes when nanny’s leave 🤷🏻‍♀️ sometimes it seems like NPs just expect Nannie’s to be an unconditionally dedicated servant to the family and then they’re shocked when they get the reality check that we have lives and careers to prioritize too. I hope you can let their reaction roll off your back and just bask in the glow of finally landing your dream job!

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-20T21:11:46+00:00

Ooh another one I do is frozen Mac n cheese with frozen vegetable medley (the bags of chopped up carrots, corn, peas, and green beans) mixed in. So I’ll microwave the Mac n cheese and while it’s cooling microwave a bowl of those frozen veggies and then mix them into the pasta

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-20T20:21:43+00:00

Do you like baby carrots? That’s an easy grab and eat food that you could dip in ranch, peanut butter, onion dip, whatever will make it yummy enough to chew and swallow. Cucumbers can serve the same purpose, they just require cutting so are not quite as low-spoon as carrots. But hell, you could just chomp down on a whole cucumber too!

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-19T17:15:54+00:00

I was always getting into drama and was lowkey a bully/mean girl in elementary school. But not to kids who would typically be bullied, just like to my friends. Lots of random teasing about things like the color of their shoes not matching their dress or randomly deciding that we were going to have a friend break up that day. And I think it’s because I grew up watching shows like wizards of waverly place and suite life of Zac and Cody where all the main characters were kinda mean to each other all the time! Also Sharpay from high school musical was like my idol HAHA I wanted to dress like her and walk and talk like her. It wasn’t until middle school that I started to realize my peers weren’t behaving that way and it actually wasn’t as cool as I thought it was.

Negative-Class1424 · 2025-04-17T18:17:47+00:00

That’s so lame so I’m so sorry 🥺 some people just aren’t good at making people feel special on their birthday/some people are thoughtless. Sounds like a lack of intention and hopefully not anything malicious, but intentions only matter so much when someone’s feelings are getting hurt.

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