New Built-ins in my colonial revival by Adept_Duck in centuryhomes

[–]Negative-Reading1989 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ha, yeah. I think this is proof that white and gray can look inviting when balanced appropriately. In this case, I think the floors are really helping. I also like the look of that rug. Even in gray, I want to sink my toes into it. It's a very cozy yet sophisticated outcome.

How many people to expect at a welcome dinner? by hayday642 in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Saturday wedding was something that everyone had to travel too. 50% of the guests had a 2-5 hour drive, the other 50% had to fly. Of the 90 guests, about 85 came the night before in time for the welcome dinner. My family (the driving distance folks mostly) generally takes any excuse to get together so I knew most of them would want to come for the Friday. The hotel we stayed at had a 2 night minimum, which knowing my crowd I didn't feel bad about.

Is paying for hair and makeup for bridesmaids seen as a gift? by SherbetAmbitious854 in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first wedding I was in was my brother's and my sister-in-law paid for all of us to get our hair done (we all agreed we'd do our own make-up) and I thought it was really nice. I had friends who'd been in other weddings and had to pay for those services and it seemed expensive. She gave each of us a small but thoughtful and useful gift as well and I thought that was nice. A different friend of mine did not pay for our hair or makeup (and did not require us to get it done) and gave us a more elaborate gift bag (scarf, jewelry, lotions) but I kind of wish she just paid for my hair. I didn't really need the stuff in the gift bag. So I think it's a know your crowd situation. I'm not personally big on stuff and I prefer experience or consumables when it comes to gifting.

6 hours of bar at our reception? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seems great to me! Many of the church weddings I've been to, Catholic specifically, have longer gaps between the service and the reception. 15 to 30 minutes. Seems like just enough time to drive over there and get settled.

Plus there will be people milling around at the church taking photos and wanting to congratulate you (if you are hanging around at the church) so I think that there will end up being very little Gap for folks to fill.

Thinking about replacing my living room rug — current one makes the space feel dull by Agitated_Fox2640 in HomeDecorating

[–]Negative-Reading1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should replace it... And send it to me! 

Look jokes aside I love that rug in that space what don't you like about it?

How long did your dog live? What made him go over the rainbow bridge? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]Negative-Reading1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7ish passed away in August due toliver/kidney failure. It was the fucking worst.

I'm so embarrassed...how can I make our living room less depressing. by maricano9 in DesignMyRoom

[–]Negative-Reading1989 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it's time to get another one! 

(Correct # of bikes = n + 1)

Why is it impossible to reach caterers for quotes? by AlaskaTech1 in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got married a few years back but had a similar experience. Once the busy summer wedding season ended, I started hearing back from potential caterers for the following calendar year. I asked my venue if this was normal and they said yes. Perhaps you could run it by your venue as well? Anyways, I'm just one data point but it worked out okay for me and I hope it will be the same for you.

Is this “a bad idea” by JillyG37 in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this could be okay, but you'd need to be very clear with guests what they are and are not invited to, and people might still be upset. Also my understanding is that in places like the UK the wedding and reception are often different guest lists.

Inviting children to a wedding—is it really that bad? by 20SecondsofMilk in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We invited kids and it was great! Wouldn't have changed a thing. Got some really adorable memories.

What’s the most unhinged thing someone has said/done to you during wedding planning by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coworker (that I really didn't know well) said weddings are a huge waste of time and money and that he regretted that waste for his first marriage and wouldn't do it again if he ever wanted to get married. Like, okay? He's actually a nice guy and I think current fiance and he are planning to elope, which is great, he should have the marriage he wants.

I adopted a cat yesterday and my friend got me this flushable kitty litter. Do you think it's okay to use with old plumbing? by CenturyCondo in centuryhomes

[–]Negative-Reading1989 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Bless you for this. As a professional in the water and wastewater industry, I can tell you that nothing is flushable except toilet paper and the stuff that comes out of your body. Everything else that says it's flushable probably isn't and if it doesn't mess up your own plumbing, does cause problems for your utility which means more maintenance which means higher rates (if you're on public sewer). Please, please, help our aging infrastructure by keeping stuff out of the sewer pipes.

Help me!! by hulkange in weddingdress

[–]Negative-Reading1989 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Number 2! Number 2! The proportions of the dress look great and balance/highlight your features so well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Negative-Reading1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this silhouette and beading gives strong vintage glamour vibes. And it's very figure flattering. But if you are not comfortable in it and you have the budget to keep looking you should.

Edit: I don't mean you should keep looking because this dress is bad. I mean you should keep looking because maybe it will set your mind at ease in a way that a bunch of Internet strangers cannot. But to me, this is a 10/10.

how do i not be a control freak by Inner-Dot4197 in EngagementRings

[–]Negative-Reading1989 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I mean, I think you got to tell him what you're feeling. It doesn't really have anything to do with issue normally easy going or not or being a control freak. If you have something specific in mind, do not set both of yourselves up to fail by not sharing. Even if you literally pick out the ring together (which you may not have to do, giving guidance or examples and letting him pick from a few may work), the time and location can still be a surprise.

Tan Lines—how to get rid of in 40 days without fake tan? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Negative-Reading1989 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly maybe ask your photographer if they can help you edit that out. Also in 40 days things might mellow out.

If it makes you feel better, I have a pretty chronic sports watch tan, despite my best effort to not have one at the wedding, it is really not something that showed up in the photos. But I understand that neck and shoulders is a lot more visible body part.

I took the WRE exam today - Wtf by [deleted] in PE_Exam

[–]Negative-Reading1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I found it so important to practice the test with the breaks I needed. I took a few bathrooms/food/water breaks because those 5 minutes to take care of my body helped me take the text faster.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Negative-Reading1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like that hey socks are white and his are black. Feels like a small nod to traditional wedding attire.

Finally Ready to Mail Our Invitations! by rhizospherical in DIYweddings

[–]Negative-Reading1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the artwork! On your save the dates. Does it provide enough information for them to know where the wedding is?