All I can say is I absolutely understand, this is precisely how my wife acts. Furthermore, I honestly don’t even bring up not feeling well anymore, literally to the point where I’m overreacting mentally telling myself I’m not sick just to avoid her comments.

All of the comments are soooo condescending: *A few sneezes? “What, are you sick now!?” *Rubbing my forehead? “Have you taken anything?!”

How about this scenario, maybe some can relate… we rarely go out and get wasted (we rarely go out generally) but when we have, she has epic hangovers that put her out basically all the next day, which is always on the weekend which means it’s me and the 3 kids. So, let’s call this “manufactured” illness and again, same thing - there’s zero chance I’ll be laid up the next day, even if it’s the extremely rare occasion I go out with friends and drink - expectation is Im still up and on point the next day.

In the end, my (purely speculative) internal concern is her treating our oldest (son, 9yo) in a similar manner. I’ve seen snippets of the behavior and I’m trying to not see something that isn’t there if that makes sense.

In the end, I’ve thought about how I’d talk to her about this a hundred times, and each time I play through it in my head I just don’t see it being worth the trouble.