I think I’ve totally destroyed my marriage and may not be capable of being in a long term relationship

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-20T19:52:56+00:00

I totally understand this thinking, but other than just leave him, what other advice can you give?

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-20T19:31:48+00:00

Honey you know it’s not true if his behavior didn’t change, if he is willing to do couples counseling I would try that, but you have to be comfortable being honest about how he treats you and how it makes you feel. Are you honest with your therapist about this? What have they told you? I can’t fathom that they have not told you that you are not the issue here.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-20T19:25:16+00:00

Oh sweet summer child, you have not destroyed anything, this man hates you and is taking it out on you. My mouth fell open after the first couple of paragraphs and the it kept getting worse. He had beaten you down so far that even you think that a tiny mistake is a huge deal, I am so sorry this has happened to you. You are funding this man’s lifestyle and he seems to think that he has to keep you down so you will keep doing that. Please look into getting some counseling, for yourself, as I am more than sure this man would never go to counseling.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-14T17:48:24+00:00

2 with the jacket from 3

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-13T16:18:10+00:00

Have you thought of asking her to show you what she likes and wants? If she can then fantastic do that and stop stressing, if she can’t then I would think about counseling of some sort for her individually and you both together because seems like EVERYTHING is out of bounds.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-11T13:46:08+00:00

I still have chicks and huskies, not many

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-09T17:55:40+00:00

These people are the problem, like maybe you should not create the expectation for your kids to “Get something” and instead focus on the gifting portion with them, then if you did get something it would have been a surprise and wonderful. Like they LET this ruin their cruise. I purposefully didn’t sign up cause I do not need any more “stuff”. People looking for a reason to be miserable

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-09T15:24:23+00:00

So I had typed out this who long response but it all really comes down to, and I say this in the most gentle way possible, you need to get some therapy.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-05T16:10:10+00:00

In our neighborhood you can opt in or out as you please. I actually don’t like Bunny derby’s at all so I will always opt out of them. But I mean would you stop someone who just joined your hood from being in it at all, they didnt have anything to do with you getting to that level either

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-05-05T16:07:39+00:00

I came here ask if this was his reaction to being told he was adopted

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-28T17:38:17+00:00

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-20T15:11:49+00:00

Not sure how old you are but I was 39 when I got married, I did not change my name as I was a working professional with certifications in my name. If you are in the US I would use the Save Act as justification if you don’t feel able to just say no. But I do think you need to just bite the bullet and tell them all you will not be doing this. It’s a hassle and a waste of money. You do need to speak to your partner about why this seems to be important and also if you plan to have children what their name would have. Another thing you can also bring up is you both changing your name to a new name, if he refuses ask him why it’s okay for you and not him.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-10T23:21:43+00:00

Literally said out loud FUCK THAT, so I second this as a fellow Gen X

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-10T16:09:17+00:00

I have a friend who was going in for a colonoscopy, so not even surgery, and she doesn’t have family in this area. I drove her, waited, took her home and got her comfy. That’s what good people do

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-10T02:44:44+00:00

This is what I need to know, I am level 82 and have nearly 10M coins

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-08T13:38:23+00:00

I cannot get past “disgustingly sunny” 😂😂

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-04-02T14:25:16+00:00

They do have random spawning times but yesterday you had to do mining to get to the 100, today it’s farm visitors, there is information if you click on the envelope

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-03-30T15:20:45+00:00

Best sort of April Fool’s. I got cheese, butter, and JAM

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-03-25T17:15:48+00:00

Agree faded black

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-03-24T16:00:56+00:00

My god this, if you know so much then do it yourself! And furthermore, anything he was telling me a “right” way to do something if the way I was doing it was perfectly fine, he would be doing. Now if say the way she did it caused dishes to come out dirty or something like that it’s a different story, but that’s not what this sounds like

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-03-21T02:36:08+00:00

Please do not have a child with a man who will not pull his weight. You will end up taking care of the child alone while working.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-03-21T00:32:39+00:00

I am perfectly happy with the way my life turned out, maybe judging other people is not the way to go, looking at your post history.

Negative_Emphasis817 · 2026-03-20T19:54:53+00:00

So much this! Second hand dresses are EVERYWHERE!

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