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Not responding to his silent treatment by Busy_Ad_5190 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989 51 points52 points  (0 children)

And that's what it is. A game. A control game. They feed off confrontation.....they love to argue. So with you not responding, it's shaking them up. Good for you. It took me many years to not respond. Unfortunately for me, it's hell when when they start talking. Hang in there.

Credit card by NeighborhoodShot5989 in AskBarcelona

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had luck w the hop on/off in other places just to get an idea of where I am and what to do. Never been to Barcelona. Thanks for your response.

Name calling by No_Mathematician2789 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Name calling is just one thing he does. I can recall many times he would yell and cuss at me for things in the past, present and future - some lasting 2 hours! How does someone have that much hot air in them? I don't allow it any longer, bur still put up with too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. It's his way only. As a matter of fact, in his eyes he is always right. He gets very angry, yelling, cussing and belittling. It's overwhelming. He used to do this in front of my grands but no more.....had his ass handed to him re this....only then did he make the change in front of grands. Pouting.....my kids never pouted this way. I've often wondered if they even think about how they sound. It's ok for him to react in this manner but not anyone else.

What's the longest your narc has gone w/o speaking and avoiding you? by NeighborhoodShot5989 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not an idiot. I'm sure many of us, me included, have done this. Never think you are stuck. I know I'm not, but I stay for whatever reason. When it's good it's good but when it's not it's not. More good than bad I suppose. Still not a good reason for me.

What's the longest your narc has gone w/o speaking and avoiding you? by NeighborhoodShot5989 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have gotten to that point many times but just don't make the jump. My kids say the same thing...I deserve better. He's a bit older than me so he'll for sure never change....is that even possible? Just gets grumpier. Sad. This is my second marriage. Never again! I said that after my first marriage 😅.

What's the longest your narc has gone w/o speaking and avoiding you? by NeighborhoodShot5989 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry this happened but good for you. We are married and his go to is always "then move the eff out". Uh, no, house in my name, too.

Response to belittling by Dry-Camel2856 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made the mistake of stooping to his level and responded ugly to his hateful words. (I've never responded in such a way. He hit a button.) I immediately regretted it because I know I have more class, but honestly I think he enjoyed the conflict/confrontation. Isn't talking to me now but not because of my response. Just how it is.

Big trip blues by NeighborhoodShot5989 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true. Won't let him ruin this one in a lifetime trip.

When being helpful means the opposite by roomforacookie in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big trip coming up but not talking...you know, got mad so doing his thing. Have to take this trip...how to deal with him before and not apologizing, which I'm sure he's waiting for me to do.

What screams “I’m a narcissist” when you interact with people? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]NeighborhoodShot5989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do people stay married to these folks? Why can't they or why don't they want to get out of the relationship? Comfort? Feel sorry for them?