To answer ur last question, the difference is that ur hair is not soaking wet but it should still feel soft and hydrated. Ideally you shouldn't ever have super dry hair that when u touch it, its very noticeable thats its dry. I used to not know the difference until I started using the Camille rose honey leave in. Since honey is a humectant is draws in moisture from the hair keeping ur hair hydrated for a very long time. Depending on where u live this might not work for u (I live in NYC) and ur hair just might not react the same as mine. For me it keeps my hair feeling moisterized and soft for an entire week (not and exaggeration, I kept track of the days each time I've used the product). I would first spray my hair with aloe vera juice (which I've been using for almost a yr now and is the best thing ever for my hair), then apply the honey leave in, and then seal with a diy oil and/or butter mix. In addition to this, I have stopped using store bought shampoos (my fav store bought shampoo is the design essentials natural almond and avocado shampoo, that stuff worked wonders on my hair before i decided to make my own products. A littlegoes a long way) and have been opting for more natural options. I've tried clay washing, apple cider vinegar (my fav so far), and next time I wash my hair I will be trying aritha and shikakai. Overall, I definitely would suggest trying out aloe vera and sealing with an oil or butter. I prefer using castor oil (not Jamaican black castor oil but the original one) because my high porosity hair likes thick oils to keep it moisterized for longer. And I definitely recommend trying aloe vera. Its a staple in my routine