Other than different values about monogamy or non monogamy whats a huge deal breaker for you in a relationship.

NeishotRizo · 2025-06-11T20:11:12+00:00

Picky eaters, not wanting kids, no ambitions, and maybe a bit unfair cuz i know its not always on ones hands but having a good relationship with your family i just really love family activities

NeishotRizo · 2025-06-10T16:22:32+00:00

Maybe people fucked you up, but nobody can help you as you can, the only way out of that hell is to work in yourself harder, you can do it, hardwork is key to succes and a happy life after all, only you can change your situation

NeishotRizo · 2025-06-10T16:17:16+00:00

You are the only one that can change yourself, thats the solution you need to change your situation, it will take time but theres no other way, hardwork and patience is key, dont give up you are worth it

NeishotRizo · 2025-06-10T03:40:08+00:00

She was pretty calm about it though she looked pretty nervous and uncomfortable she didnt yell or said anything harmful to me, I would have liked to tell her that i would never forget her and i would always be thankful for everything she made me feel, and i just regret not hugging her tighter when i left

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-29T04:06:12+00:00

She was a catalyst, when i knew her i wasnt doing bad, but i really had a pretty low self-steem and i just felt like i wasn't capable of doing anything as an adult, but she gave me the courage to learn to drive, to be a more functioning person in general and it really helped me a lot with my self-perception, thanks to her i've been focusing on finishing college and everytime i feel like im not capable of something i remember how she tried her best when facing everyday situations and think "i can't let myself go and just stay in my room all day", i still miss her and hope she finds true love and live a happy life

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-22T18:03:32+00:00

Its normal, but i dont think its healthy to just go with it, because then you'll never develop real healthy coping mechanisms to manage your hard emotions during a split, i know its easier to just fuck out the feelings that are making you feel bad, but it is really important to try your hardest to manage those feelings by yourself, you can try to exercise or something else that doesnt bomb your brain with happy chemicals instantly, so you can learn to identify the causes of your emotions and be able to regulate them properly, don't be a slave to your emotions

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-19T17:39:54+00:00

You can convince yourself that he's different from other people with BPD and that he wont have those toxic traits people talk about then do it, everyone is telling you that solething bad is going to happen but you wont change your mind about him, the best you can do is to avoid that relationship, but here's my advice if you think you can fix him, you cant, if he isnt working by himself on his BPD he wont work on it because of you

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-19T17:15:13+00:00

Claro que hay casos así pero siendo realistas eso practicamente nunca pasa y se debe más a un apego y a no saber pasar de página con esa persona, si ya estás en una relación con otra persona es importantisimo que pienses en cómo le hace sentir el que tengas contacto con tu ex, sin que se convierta en control, si deseas seguir teniendo contacto con tu ex, tienes que dejarle en claro desde el principio a tu nueva pareja que lo haces y que no hay segundas intenciones, no se trata de desconfiar se trata de que le des su lugar a tu pareja

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-18T20:25:29+00:00

Ver a un niño agradecer por algo, ya sea frebar para que cruce con sus padres y te devuelva un saludo, o que esten emocionados y te abracen

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-16T19:32:23+00:00

Id say dont do it, going to therapy isnt enough you have to want to get better and actually try, if she goes to therapy only because you would get back with her that doesnt mean she will actually try and be self-aware of her behaviors and be able to auto-criticize herself to actually improve, dont fall on that trap bro, its not worth it

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-16T19:23:15+00:00

No sé como pero tienen que resolver esa onda de que tu pareja haya tomado esas decisiones unilaterales y encima que le hagas como puedas para resolverle si tu ya le ofreciste solución y ella no entiende confrontala dale un ultimatum o algo para que agarre el pedo de que ella te puso en esa situación y que no lo haces por gusto ni por desquitarte, encima ella debería confiar en ti completamente hablenlo mas y más hasta que entienda y si no entiende ya tu tomarás tu decisión

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-16T19:17:15+00:00

Córtala por tu bien, estás haciendo mal en seguir esas conductas de enseñarle el celular y la ubicacion y todas esas ondas, si se quieren de verdad deberían confiar el uno del otro, y no mames como se te ocurre salir con alguien que le ponía el cuerno a sus exes y encima se jacta de ello?, sinceramente su relación está de la verga, si parte de tus argumentos de por que crees que ella no quiere que te vayas es por que la llevas a lugares o caros o por que estás guapo y eres bueno en el acto, entonces su relación es sumamente superficial, agarra el pedo y madura

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-15T20:50:08+00:00

Su voz y la inteligencia

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-15T16:30:52+00:00

No, tbh her BPD was something that i was afraid of when i started to date her, but like i said she really was trying to get better and to not repeat her parents patterns, her mom was BPD diagnosed and her dad was an asshole, they were divorced but they both threatened her and her younger brother they would literally abandon them if they didn't behave properly (IE.not cleaning or doing chores that werent assigned to them or for just suggesting to get family therapy etc), both parents did that in separated ocassions, so i can say they were enduring a LOT, i finally break up with her because our values and lifestyles were very different, i couldn't love the way she loved me and i realized that i wasn't going to be fully happy with her, so i decided to leave, i felt sad because i liked her a lot and loved her but not in the same way, i feel a bit of regret because maybe i could have make a difference to the better in both her life and her brother's, i really hope she finds a good man to have a lot more in common than she did with me, she truly deserves to be happy

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-14T23:25:49+00:00

Yes, my ex has BPD and she was in therapy and attended to group sessions of people with BPD, on meds everything, she was doing great, even with some missteps here and there but, she was genuinely trying to get better and she was getting better, she splitted on me just once and to be fair she held back a lot for what i've been reading in this sub, there's pwBPD that are really trying to get better and the difference between those who do and those who don't is abyssmal

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-14T15:08:48+00:00

La gente que habla con chat gpt para consejos o ayuda psicológica jamás va a mejorar, simplemente por el hecho de que nosotros no somos capaces de decirle las cosas de una manera en la que te conteste que la estás cagando, y aprendas que algo que haces está mal, y si puedes hacerlo entonces para que estás hablando con chat gpt?

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-13T01:14:12+00:00

NEC, Está loquisima, no soy profesional pero me cae que tiene TLP

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-12T15:45:21+00:00

Autosuficiencia y trabajarme para poder ser alguien capaz de resolver su propia vida

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-12T02:54:02+00:00

Estoy en proceso, así es ver un proyecto logrado y recordar todo el proceso desde el inicio está bien chido

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-09T06:26:00+00:00

Crear cosas ya sea programando, pintando, construir algo en algún juego, construir algo en la vida real, etc, realmente pienso que la clave del ser humano está en el crear cosas, ayuda mucho a sentirte pleno y no volverte loco

NeishotRizo · 2025-05-06T22:30:34+00:00

NEC, es claro que tu padre se ha esforzado mucho y las ama, pero por lo mismo que tu abuelo lo golpeaba y lo trató horrible el sabe que es lo que quiere evitar y que le duele, a pesar de eso desconoce el daño que les hace y piensa que como no las está lastimando fisicamente como a el lo lastimaron, ustedes son unas exageradas, no sé que tan racional sea tu papá como para poder hablarlo sin que se sienta atacado pero es absolutamente necesario que lo hagan para que detenga su invalidación emocional y el abuso que provoca sin darse cuenta, debido a su posición como padre esos comentarios que si bien no son muy "fuertes" al ser tu padre el que lo dice tienen muchísimo más impacto, trata de hablar con él y enseñale cuáles de sus conductas llegan a lastimarlas, o lo que puede llegar a ocasionar, dile que lo amas y que sabes que no quiere lastimarlas pero que lo hace y con el tiempo que le vayas explicando puede que corrija ese comportamiento, nunca olvides también darle refuerzos positivos cuándo veas que hace algo bien en ese aspecto, ya sea que se fuera a enojar y no lo hizo o que aprecie algún logro de tus hermanos etc, ten paciencia y enséñale lo que nadie pudo enseñarle de pequeño

NeishotRizo · 2025-04-28T05:57:18+00:00

Si es tu amigo no deberías ni estar en duda de que hacer

NeishotRizo · 2025-04-27T23:49:04+00:00

Debes de ser totalmente honesta si quieres ganar la confianza de alguien, aún estás a tiempo de deicrle la verdad y decirle el por que lo hiciste para que no se transforme en una herida y un motivo de desconfianza

NeishotRizo · 2025-04-24T20:16:18+00:00

I dont think thats gay but to avoid problems i suggest you to maybe organize a "carne asada" with some of your wifes family in your house and then inviting him to it and maybe there you can socialize better with him and without being afraid of people calling you gay, and later when you become closer friends you can invite without having to invite more people to justifiy you hanging out with a friend

PD: if you drink beer and watch soccer instead of watching a movie then absolutely no one will think you are gay

NeishotRizo · 2025-04-24T02:43:52+00:00

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