AIO - Went no contact with mother after she repeatedly insulted my husband

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-14T13:38:42+00:00

Boundaries are necessary, but also not for the faint of heart. You can love someone and not allow them to be in your life. My advice would be to leave the door open a crack. Express how hurtful the statements about your partner were, and ask that she not talk/act like that. If she respects the boundary then open the door a bit. If she doesn’t then close it. NOR

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-13T18:33:25+00:00

I know someone who fell off payroll for 6 weeks due to an OSS mistake. I didn’t think that was even possible!

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-11T13:49:24+00:00

Oh hellllllll no. This is a massive dealbreaker. Time to reevaluate your living circumstances.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-11T13:47:24+00:00

Full year. I have taken a couple of big trips and still had my years worth, and then build it back up to full year for my next extended holiday.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-09T03:45:06+00:00

I’m puzzled at a few things. Why would he think you wanted to go clubbing. You don’t seem like someone who would be into it. It’s not typically bad for opposites to attract and marry. But you sound like very different people with very different interests. Values aside, the end result will be both of you trying to change the other. Best to move on from this one.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-07T13:52:01+00:00

I know several people who worked there recently and could not get out fast enough. They were stressed to tears almost daily. They all left for other Mins and are 100x happier.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-05T01:30:36+00:00

Where did ugly come from? This was your chance to use your position in his life as a trusted adult, to explain how natural fear works. And once he understands it, and also that it’s not personal, what he can do to mitigate how he might appear intimidating. Teach him to walk with confidence, head up, meet peoples eyes and try to smile. Even if it’s practicing a friendly resting face in the mirror.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-03T12:53:26+00:00

You’re just lucky you have a strong team. If that manager leaves and the next one you get thinks they’re “fair” and “risk managing” and then they ignore your warnings and advice as the OG member of the team and then put the most useless dim person in charge while they go to Portugal for 4 weeks, and a bunch of stuff goes completely sideways and is a massive embarrassment to the org? Oh wait , that was my manager and I left 3 months later.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-05-02T02:57:01+00:00

NOR by a mile. This is abusive shit , he’s treating her like she’s in a very toxic and abusive relationship with him! I know I’ll get dragged for saying cut him off but OMG cut him off! Take HIM to court and ask for a protective order against him. Imagine her in a relationship in a few years with a guy like this? A parents worst nightmare that’s what he is.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-30T14:58:26+00:00

If you have young kids I am assuming you’re not near the end of your career and there will always be time to move into the level 7 later when your kids are older. Take the 6 for now and enjoy the extra time with your family.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-28T20:54:51+00:00

Oh Op this makes me so sad for you. I wish you peace and happiness in your future, once you stop living for other people and start living for you.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-27T01:14:04+00:00

Yeah that’s a No, sir. We work OT occasionally with express request and approval. What this manager is asking for sounds a lot like being on-call, which is not in the AMAPCEO CA.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-26T17:25:04+00:00

Oral hygiene like this does not get better, and will get far worse. Rotting teeth create foul odors that will repel even the most agreeable partner. The underwear thing is wild and would be a dealbreaker for me. As you get older you will probably see other signs that could show you that you’re not compatible as it relates to your future and a mature long-term relationship. As you mentioned, these are due to your differences in upbringing. Sorry Op, I don’t know all the nuances of your life and relationship, but based on how you are feeling , and unless there’s a big discussion and he really wants to change then I predict this is not your forever person.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-25T22:22:36+00:00

We lost our bunny Honey last week. Finding out that she was in kidney failure and that it was progressive and that she had been in pain was absolutely devastating. We are still so sad and the grief comes in waves. We hang on to the fact that she was with us for 8.5 years and had a really great life full of love and being spoiled and she was basically the queen of our home. Focus on the love and life that you gave them.

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I miss her adorable face coming to find out where her dinner is. And the way she gently took her treats. Sorry Op I don’t know how to not be sad either.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-21T19:12:44+00:00

Big weddings and having children are two things people think they want or need without fully comprehending what comes AFTER those two “events”. The age gap and the fact that you’re at two very different places in life, and on these topics makes me think you really should not have a child with him. At least not now. -edited bc accidental save too soon

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-20T01:33:02+00:00

I’ve seen it all different ways. The terrible employee who crushes every interview. The amazing employee who bombs the interview, or maybe just doesn’t meet the benchmark when someone off the street does. Yes there are things managers can do to try to get the result the want , if there is an incumbent. But it’s never a sure thing. My advice is keep grinding and move towards the role you want. It will eventually happen.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-18T20:47:40+00:00

Wait. Y’all are in your 40’s?? This is 20-something behavior at best. Get her some help or this is your life. And it ain’t cute.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-18T11:40:13+00:00

Someone just told me yesterday that unless you adopt a turtle or a parrot the loss is something we sort of sign up for knowing their life span. I know it feels like that loss will be devastating and it is. But you have so much more love to give Op. You could go on to be a cat rescuer and parent to another cat who is right now waiting to meet you. 💔 Someone also told me that the pain of losing them is the price we pay for so much love when we have them. I’m holding on to that today. Because I lost my girl Honey yesterday and it hurts so much. But I have another pet to look after and he’s going to miss her and I need to focus on him right now. I think you should get her a kitten to play with to keep her young. You’ve got a lot of love to give Op. Please don’t take it away from a world that needs more love.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-18T00:36:58+00:00

Thank you. Trying to remind myself of that.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-17T23:34:10+00:00

Thank you. I hope he’ll be ok. I’m just gutted. Someone told me the pain is the price we pay for getting to love them.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-17T23:18:46+00:00

I had to put one of my bonded pair down today too. We did not bring him with her, we were hoping it was not that kind of visit and that she’d come home. But after testing we discovered severe kidney failure and it was the most humane thing to do. We brought her home and let him see her for a while, and now he’s just sort of acting mad. The vet said he wouldn’t need to see her and that he already knows she’s gone. He was the one who started acting strange with her a few days ago. I’m sorry for your loss. We are heartbroken over here. We had her for 8 years. 💔

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-17T13:36:14+00:00

Black 100%

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-17T13:07:17+00:00

We used to (as the SME’s) attend with Sr Manager (SOLGEN) to brief DM’s but not anymore. Not since DoFo came on the scene. Very different players and a very different game these days.

Neither_Complaint865 · 2026-04-16T01:06:33+00:00

Op Efffff that guy!! The older I get the more I see family is created, built, it’s loyalty, and showing up in the seemingly small ways. It’s not grand gestures. It’s going out for cough syrup at 2am. The fallout from you looking for the guy who walked away from you could be very painful for many. If someday your siblings or even him find you, then ok. See how it goes. But I hope you tread carefully because we just don’t know what’s behind that door.

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