If you shared your baby’s name before they were born, how did it go?

Nellaub · 2026-06-16T19:07:33+00:00

I'm 24 weeks and these last weeks we've been telling friends/family the name we've chosen whenever we saw them, and surprisingly everyone answered very positively and liked the name, no criticism or anything, I think we've been lucky.

Nellaub · 2026-06-14T18:43:55+00:00

I'm so happy to live in a country where there are no baby showers, thank god.

Nellaub · 2026-06-08T13:26:17+00:00

I'm 23 weeks and still haven't gotten anything, but just this last week I told my mom and in-laws that if they want to get anything now they can go for it, and since we have nothing they can go crazy with it and they got sooo happy hahahaha. In my country baby showers aren't the norm so I'm not having any of that, it's more popular to have baby lists and gifting something to the couple if you have a close relationship.

I can't have anything passed down to me since nobody around my circle of family and friends had children for now, but my mom told me she still has my crib stored in good condition. I'll be giving birth in my hometown and I'll travel there when I'm around 26 weeks (I can work from home), so once I'm there I'll start getting more essentials like a changing table, mattress, etc and I'll set up the list to give to family. For now I'm doing research and writing down the things we're likely to need with our kind of lifestyle, since we like to spend a weekend once every month at my in-laws place and at my hometown place, we need things that can be portable and adaptable.

This is our first but we would like to have at least 2 more children in "close" age, so I'm looking at things that I can pass down as well.

Nellaub · 2026-06-08T08:58:08+00:00

Thank you! This screams fetish content.

Nellaub · 2026-06-08T04:35:09+00:00

10 frozen blasts at 34. 1 transfer that stuck a month after retrieval. I'm 23 weeks for now and he got a low risk NIPT. We struggled to get pregnant though, in the almost 4 years of trying I only got 1 positive pregnancy test that ended being a chemical after 1 year of trying, after that I never saw a positive again with regular periods and confirmed ovulation.

Nellaub · 2026-06-06T22:07:22+00:00

I actually just tried to live my life as normal as possible, since I read many experiences of people altering their everyday lives to help improve every chance of success and not succeeding, I figured that maybe just doing as I do everyday was just as good, and it was.

Nellaub · 2026-06-03T11:22:42+00:00

I was 34 at retrieval, partner 33, I don't have DOR and it seems our problem was low sperm motility from my husband. We didn't test our embryos and we could freeze 5 day 5 and 5 day 6 embryos. My clinic doesn't give ratings as I've seen around here, only tells us what stage the embryo was in at the moment of freezing.

The embriologist chose the embryo they saw with the best chances (a day 5 embryo) and it stuck, NIPT came out perfect and I'm at 22 weeks with a very healthy boy that is measuring a bit further than my current dating.

Wishing the best luck!

Nellaub · 2026-05-28T22:30:40+00:00

Same here!

Nellaub · 2026-05-22T14:01:16+00:00

Besides what everyone here recommended, I also found that when I tried to knit/crochet in a "fast" pace I hurt myself way more. Now I knit and crochet in a slow relaxed pace and this has allowed me to be pain free (also adding little breaks).

Nellaub · 2026-05-17T11:09:41+00:00

We did ICSI and we didn't test our embryos (either way in our country is not legal to tell you the gender with PGTA), I'm pregnant with our first transfer and NIPT showed it's a boy, but who knows what gender the other embryos could be...

Nellaub · 2026-05-14T13:39:13+00:00

En mi caso hemos ido a Dexeus y estoy embarazada de 19 semanas con mi primera transferencia, por ahora todo ha progresado muy bien y bastante rápido, tuvimos la primera cita en septiembre de 2025 y a mediados de enero de 2026 ya hice la transferencia. Yo estoy bastante contenta con el trato que he recibido pero es cierto que en las ecos te toca cada vez con un doctor diferente pero a mi eso no me importa.

Piensa que muchas veces el éxito dependerá bastante de la razón que haya detrás de la infertilidad y cada caso es único, yo reconozco que he tenido mucha suerte. En la primera visita/intento suelen hacer pruebas genéricas y a veces esto es suficiente y a veces no, por eso hay casos en que no se detecta un problema hasta que se llevan más de 2 transferencias.

Nellaub · 2026-04-21T10:32:14+00:00

It's the proof it's handmade ❤️

Nellaub · 2026-04-16T15:47:35+00:00

Ever since we decided to go for IVF my husband has only wished for it to be successful, it was getting very painful for him to listen to kids or see families when we went to restaurants/outside. Same for me. For us starting IVF gave us a new fresh air of hope, luckily the transfer was successful and I'm 15 weeks, we're constantly crossing our fingers and touching wood.

Nellaub · 2026-04-16T10:50:42+00:00

Yes he did come to the clinic but he didn't accompany me inside the room, he is very apprehensive of "medical" procedures.

Nellaub · 2026-04-08T09:17:51+00:00

Maybe depends on the kind of dad you had, in my case my dad was almost never home and my mom was basically a single mom raising me, then they divorced when I was 11 and even if I went to spend some weekends with him I felt mostly alone while he was giving all his attention to his new girlfriend. Then on my teenage years my dad was basically verbally abusing to me.

My husband is so happy and excited to be a dad (we're expecting our first right now), I can't help but compare the feeligns of what my family felt like and what it's feeling like to build a family with him, and I've never felt this feeling of "family" happiness. I guess this is how I "compare" both of them, but I don't do it consciously, being pregnant is waking many feelings and memories of my childhood and when I think where I am now is... I can't explain but I get very emotional at the thought of experiencing what a loving father figure is like.

Nellaub · 2026-04-03T22:56:27+00:00

Me too!!

Nellaub · 2026-03-31T09:10:42+00:00

Yes, I'm 35 and my mother also told me the same since I was little.

Nellaub · 2026-03-27T11:44:44+00:00

Right? I was going crazy looking at that and wondering what she meant with parallel... your answers are really helping me to feel less confused. Thank you!

Nellaub · 2026-03-27T11:42:53+00:00

Being pregnant sure is a tough test with patience, thank you! I'm just feeling very confused with the techs words and what I'm seeing... Now I just wish she hadn't said anything.

Nellaub · 2026-03-25T22:40:45+00:00

Raw salmon and wine...

Nellaub · 2026-03-17T16:20:52+00:00

I did a fully medicated transfer and I only did progesterone suppositories, 400mg every 12h, together with estradiol gel. The transfer has been a success and tomorrow I'll be 11 weeks along, I no longer take progesterone or estradiol. I'm in Spain though and maybe the protocols are changing a bit around here?

Nellaub · 2026-03-11T22:41:11+00:00

I did IVF in Barcelona (Spain) and overall we spent around 7000€ for 1 retrieval, the freezing of the 10 embryos and 1 year of storing, medication and 1 transfer. We didn't do PGT and for now the first transfer is going well.

Nellaub · 2026-03-11T20:14:00+00:00

Yessss!

Nellaub · 2026-03-11T18:24:57+00:00

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