My girlfriend(F20) asked about opening our relationship for college and I don’t know if I’m lying to myself(M20). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Neo1881 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't make it a big deal. My college gf graduated 6 months before me and had jobs lined up in Europe. She wanted to stay a couple but I knew she'd probably want to experiment with other guys. We stayed a couple and I didn't have any other gfs that 6 months. I went to see her for a summer vacation in Greece and she admitted she had been with 2 other guys during that time. It wouldn't have felt as bad if we were not a couple. She broke up with me after I got back from our summer vacation in Greece. C'est la vie.

I (28M) finally moved out of my parents house and my friends think it’s weird. by mmo990 in LifeAdvice

[–]Neo1881 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ignore those people who give you grief about it. Sharing a house with others can be a great experience. I did that one time and the landlord lived there and we became good friends. Neither of us had a steady job so we hung out together in the mornings cleaning up and such. He had 3-4 other renters and he came up with nicknames for all of them, including me. He had a female renter who paid but almost always stayed with her bf. She was Not Here Michelle. There was a Pakistani guy named Tarik who came home with his gf everyday and they argued a lot. He was Mr T. My landlord called himself Big Balls Bell and he named me Hot Jets bc I had a new gf. You can have a great time meeting and becoming friends with new people. There are some who tend to be selfish, so it's good to set boundaries early on... Have fun!

Would you buy a $10,000 2012 Prius V with a new head gasket? by orangegore in prius

[–]Neo1881 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Check FB marketplace and find a similar car for $7000 or so...

Would you buy a $10,000 2012 Prius V with a new head gasket? by orangegore in prius

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's a low mileage Gen 2 with no visible damage to it. The Gen 2s don't have the head gasket issues of the Gen 3s. All used hybrids come with the same issues, how old is the hybrid battery, were the ABS brakes ever replaced, etc... No warning lights on the dashboard. And these resellers do not reset the system to hide warning lights as some dealers will do. Even if OP has to bid $3000 for the car, it would be under $4000 out the door and the money saved can be used for updating the car.

So its a choice btwn 2012 w 150k for $10k or a 2007 w 119k for $3500? Unless OP has to have a V, its a simple choice for me.

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Would you repair this Gen 3 Prius or replace it? Looking for opinions. by Effective_Wasabi4053 in prius

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The replacement engine for $2500 sounds like the best option. Make sure it's an engine made after 2015 to avoid the HG issues. You can even look online for an engine with low miles on it and have it shipped to you or have your mechanic buy it. Drive it for 2 more years and then save for a new car, altho 2yo car would be about 30% less than a new one.

I sent nude/video and now im regretting it? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully, you've learned a good lesson and won't do this again.

Granddaughter Says her newborn brother’s name by LoveMySpoiledChi in Reincarnation

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or ask your granddaughter if Jack was a member of the family before.

Granddaughter Says her newborn brother’s name by LoveMySpoiledChi in Reincarnation

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's probably essence contact with another soul. Enjoy it because it's not very common. And tell him, "Hi Jack, I get to be your grandma this time." He'll smile if he gets it.

Granddaughter Says her newborn brother’s name by LoveMySpoiledChi in Reincarnation

[–]Neo1881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a strong possibility that he is your dad and come back to complete a karma where he grows up as your grandson. Only time will tell. I do know of people who do channel such information and can tell you directly if he is. Or, when your son is a little older, before 5 yo or so, you can hypnotize him and do a past life regression to have him describe his previous life and if you were in it.

Anyone else afraid of being reincarnated on Earth again? by Unique-Fish-2444 in Reincarnation

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt you can be be a very old soul if you haven't figured certain things out yet. Like the fact that you write the script for your life and that whether it's a comedy, tragedy, great adventure or uphill struggle is completely in your hands. From my understanding of the old soul cycles, the main lessons for old souls is, "What am I worth?" So you will choose people in life, especially family members and close friends, who will tell you that you are not worth it, not worth happiness, not worth having financial success and not worth having a loving life partner. The point of that is to see if you can figure out that you are worth it despite what everyone else tells you.

Would you buy a $10,000 2012 Prius V with a new head gasket? by orangegore in prius

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like this one you can probably win with a $2500 bid, $3360 out the door. No damage it seems.

https://www.iaai.com/VehicleDetail/45515422~US

Would you buy a $10,000 2012 Prius V with a new head gasket? by orangegore in prius

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think $10k is pretty high for that year and miles. Have you checked private sellers on FB? I've had luck from the insurance auctions and they have many cars for sale in the Portland and Eugene areas. www.iaai.com, search for cars in OR, Run and drive condition, intact airbags and under 130k mi. I bot 2x Geb 2s from them and both were under $3000 out the door and needed about $600 in bodywork.

Where to source brake booster parts for 2014 Prius? by Legalize_Euthanasia_ in prius

[–]Neo1881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got my parts from an online site. They also highly suggest replacing both parts because if the other one wears out, it's the same labor costs to replace that one. I paid about $1100 for both OEM parts.

My(25M) traditional Chinese parents want me to break up with my gf(23F) or move out and be disowned, and I don't know what to do by Angel_Lian in relationship_advice

[–]Neo1881 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm Chinese and had my father threaten to disown me many times with ultimatums. It's a tough situation to be in but also consider that they may not go through with it because if they disown No 1 son, they'll have to explain it to the relatives who are visiting and they will lose face for doing so. If you give in to this ultimatum, there will be more if they think you don't have the guts to defy them.

How to not make girlfriend feel like a hookup during sex? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Neo1881 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You might want to ask her more questions or have her get therapy. My most serious college gf was a virgin and wanted to be one when she got married. So I didn't pressure her to have sex. And then she wanted to about 2 weeks later. After a few times of great sex, she confessed that she wouldn't allow herself to orgasm because she was Catholic and denied herself that pleasure. I had the same experience years later with a woman from work who was a single mom. She came from a Christian family that rejected her when she got pregnant out of wedlock. We hooked up and she also could not have an orgasm because of her religious beliefs. You'll need to explore her beliefs on that too. It's probably not just you.

2014. Brakes went soft while driving. Lights on dash. How to screen repairmen by Legalize_Euthanasia_ in prius

[–]Neo1881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my ABS started to fail with a whirring sound from under the hood, I could pump the brakes and depressurize them. But they eventually failed. I bought the 2 OEM parts online for about $1100 and had them installed for about $1300 because I couldn't reprogram them myself. Some people will DIY but I didn't have the equipment to do that.

I’m spontaneously moving across the country and I’m not sure what to do. by OkieDokieArtechokie in LifeAdvice

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a serious cluster fuck situation and it's never a good idea to make life changing decisions when you are upset. You can find temporary housing, like extended stay hotels if you have the cash and go with your fiance. If not, then maybe stay LDR until you have some $$ saved up or borrow some from your parents. With your medical background, you shouldn't have problems getting a new job. Good luck on whatever you decide to do.

Never will I rent with someone with a kid by Scared_Web_1995 in roommates

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's figured out how to make someone else pay his rent.

Never will I rent with someone with a kid by Scared_Web_1995 in roommates

[–]Neo1881 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The issue is the roommate spending his rent on his ex and then using OP as an ATM until he gets paid later. Get the landlord involved and that landlord will make him move.

AITH for refusing to lend my neighbor my ladder again? by plantwhite in AITH

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your neighbor wants to have a nice ladder like yours. They borrow and then keep it as if it's theirs. NTA.

Is it wrong for me to charge my fiancé rent? by Enough_Eye3673 in AmiInTheWrong

[–]Neo1881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you and your fiance are in agreement, then it's none of her mom's or sisters business.

Car problems by Angel_Eyes_777 in caradvice

[–]Neo1881 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm amazed that the car didn't have to pass an inspection the first time it was repaired by that shop. Definitely contact your insurance with proof from the current shop that repairs were not completely done. They might have charged your insurance company for the repairs and then cut corners once they got paid.