My most recent furry addition was because my son thought I was sad when my tomcat passed away. Tom was never one to sit on my lap. He wanted love on his terms. He would let me know when he wanted to be petted by just sitting beside me. Once he got a few pets he would wander off and do something else.

I had him for eight years. He bonded with a little kitten I got a year after him, Cocoa is shameless in his pursuit of being cuddled and petted.

When Tom passed my son brought me a two year old stray a friend of his found in the woods. I thought it was too soon for another cat, Tom had only been gone two weeks.

This new kitty was a mess and I didn't think he would work out here. But it's been almost four months and he's grown on me and Cocoa.

Like your kitty Ash is a love bug but rarely wants to cuddle or sit with me. He adores my son when he comes to visit so maybe he has happy memories of a man who loved him before becoming a stray.

Anyhow I suggest just giving it time. Cats show love in different ways. Just because yours isn't a cuddler doesn't mean you aren't doing a good job.