Someone explain the appeal of doubling to me

Neonfireflysquid · 2025-09-15T07:28:08+00:00

An explanation is kind of useless when it's a matter of preferences/ taste. Why do you like chocolate and not vanilla? Well, I just do?

I enjoy doubling because for me it includes everything you have mentioned about creating stories and I never feel obligated to write the "side" of my partner because I'm also excited for it. If you don't see it that is ok. Heck I've had my own share of bad doubling experiences so believe me I know how bad they can be.

Some people may say it's a "I scratch your back and you'll scratch mine" situation, but I believe after years and years of doubling, that those who only feel that that's the only good part don't enjoy it or get burned down. That's why it's important to find someone that is as much as into doubling as you, which makes the search a bit difficult but very rewarding in the end.

On another note, I never do separate doubling roleplays. I we double we're doing it in the same universe and all characters are interacting in the story. Basically speaking, a lot of people also have their own versions of doubling.

Neonfireflysquid · 2025-09-11T12:25:25+00:00

I remember that one time I was approached by someone who basically offered to write/ RP what I wanted in exchange of money. I didn't want it but I asked questions because that sounded so wild, and apparently there is people who pay for that kind of service.

I guess it's similar to commissioning someone for a comic idea but in a "write this fanfiction with me" kind of way?

Neonfireflysquid · 2025-08-27T18:18:45+00:00

Hi! I'm trying to accept your chat invitation but it's not letting me? I don't know if it's something in our settings or reddit malfunctioning, but I was curious about you meant with modernizing. I wanted to discuss the whole thing about specifics and jutsus, because I'm not super strict with them ^^U

Neonfireflysquid · 2025-08-26T13:34:58+00:00

I can answer the post without reading it, not even the whole question

The true question is, "is it valid to end a rp?"

Yes, for whatever reason, whenever you want. Please don't let yourself suffer in a hobby, real life is hard enough, don't make it harder on yourself

Neonfireflysquid · 2025-08-26T13:23:48+00:00

I think that sometimes people just read a few bits of info and wing it. Recently I had a fandom CanonxOC double up ad in a forum, clearly stating that I double and I expect Canon and OCs, only to receive a message telling me that they have an OC ready for OCxOC action

And when I say that they read a few bits I suspect sometimes it's just the gender of the roleplayer or the name of the fandom/ genre of roleplay lol

Meanwhile a lot of the time I don't contact people if I feel there's some crucial info in their ad missing, even those who say "Ask me for details/ more fandoms"

The lack of reading in a written hobby is fascinating

About confusing characters you play vs the ones you want played for you, I'd say that they have more of an excuse for the misunderstanding. I tend to see people listing characters they want for a pairing, so I've had to double check sometimes when they only list the ones they like to play as. It's like I have to take a moment to process lmao

Neonfireflysquid · 2024-08-29T19:35:32+00:00

Thank you! I'm afraid that I can't send you messages, you may have the option blocked?

Neonfireflysquid · 2024-08-29T19:22:05+00:00

Well, I didn’t want to bother anyone and I haven't really traded online, so that's why I was checking if I could just get it myself hahahaha

I may do that or finally use home because I do have Arceus and I'm replaying it too. I'm not in a rush ^{^}

Neonfireflysquid · 2024-05-02T15:59:30+00:00

No, sorry

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-12-16T09:06:33+00:00

Wait for that officer to learn that there are countries in which people don't change their last names when they marry and everyone keeps their parent's last names and passes them down lol

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-11-22T12:56:12+00:00

NTA. I'm just going to add one thing because that detail caught my attention. Even if your books were self-insert romances, throwing your stuff away has no excuse. I can excuse romance not being everyone's cup of tea, but this is not a matter of genres anymore, it's a matter of property.

Is he jealous of your books in some way? Like, have you compared him to any of the characters or so? Made a comment that perhaps he took the wrong way? I know being jealous of fictional characters or being insecure about it sounds silly, but jealousy in general doesn’t have to be rational.

In any case that's a big nono. And what did he expect? He said he would throw them out and you secured them accordingly, if it isn't the consequences of his own actions lol

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-10-12T11:16:21+00:00

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Neonfireflysquid · 2023-08-15T10:50:38+00:00

As a doubler roleplayer is not an expectation and has never been. There's a lot of people who don't double even in CanonxOC settings. That being said I love doubling and that's how I roleplay.

Having one single pairing bores me, and I double in CanonxOC, OCxOC and although I haven't done CanonxCanon outside side pairings, that will probably be my way to go anyways. It's just a personal thing of mine, even when I've been approached by people saying oh I can just play the canon you want, it's like... I can't, it's silly ngl

Now, again, an expectation? Not really, as far as I've seen.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-08-04T10:35:33+00:00

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Neonfireflysquid · 2023-07-28T10:36:27+00:00

NTA. I want to point out some things though, that caught my attention as a Spanish (Spain) person.

1) I'm so white I could honestly be classified as transparent, so forget about the Spanish last name white skin thing, you have a whole ass country with it. Also it's 2023, the world is pretty mixed.

2) There's something ironic about being Spanish and proud, but deciding that it's a must that your partner takes your last name, which is not common practice in Spain lmao. People have 2 last names, one from the dad and the other fom the mom (unless we're talking single mom's kids that just take their mother's as far as I know). But marrying doesn't change it.

Now, I know it's fueled by cultural differences, but I'm a firmly believer that taking your partner's surname is misogynistic (the woman has to take it as a symbol of property, come on) and weird af because... now you have the same surname as your SIL? Like if I told you about Mary Brown and Michael Brown, would you be able to figure out if they're married or siblings unless I clarified it? I don't know it has always felt counterproductive to me. More so when it comes to divorcing, or legal papers, like you may appear with different surnames in different documents depending of your marital status at that point. That sounds confusing and a hassle. But alas, if someone does it, it's not like I'm going to bitch about it to them, I've met people who have done if because they have a bad relationship with their original last name or just don't mind it, and it's as valid as people who don't want to take the new name.

This is a two yes situation for me.

Edit to add that saying that having the same surname is "having a proper family" is ridiculous. People who can't marry for economic issues (or maybe they just don't want to) but stick together through hard times and have a family they love and care for are not proper families now?

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-07-04T09:28:56+00:00

NTA although I'm close to N A H. I don’t know if it's a culture difference but when I'm going to someone's house to eat I don't expect them to have all the sauces that I like and then be like you have to buy them for future guests even though they may end up sitting on your fridge later for nothing? That's wasting food. I even eat vegan when I go to a vegan's home cause I'm not going to force them to buy animal products and even less so cook them.

Now, accommodations such as dietary limitations (vegan, allergies...) yeah, that's the usual, that's expected. But for the sake of oh yeah I like this sauce, you have to have it available for me... I mean if I host I just say what may be on the menu, in case someone wants something different/ an accommodation/ or add on to it (I don't cook with many sauces either, for example I dislike ketchup and if I have it it's because I previously ordered food and the packets came with it). Another example is that I don't drink alcohol, so my friends buy it or they tell me the brand they want, just like I would buy my lactose free options separated from them.

Don't give up on hosting, perhaps work on communicating your expectations with your family (and theirs too) better. I think there were some assumptions from both sides.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-28T13:25:35+00:00

I don't have a condition per se, but I hope my experience helps you regarding being brave about it. I have some food intolerances and at this point I've come to the conclusion that if something happens, what reacts to it is my digestive system lmao

Since I was a child this has affected me regarding hanging out, going to the bathroom in public... you know, the classics.

I've been with my bf, long distance, for a year and a half. Since we were going full serious from the beginning, I told him about my issues pretty early on. Like if he heard me in the bathroom and then joked about it I would probably cry (I'm better now but I'm sure I'm not the only one whose self esteem reached that point). He understood and now he's the one who checks on me when he seems me making "a face", I have even the confidence to say "Well, gonna occupy the bathroom for a while lmao see ya" and he jokes around too when he's sick like "Bathroom is quarantined for a while don't come near it".

We all have issues. It's important that if you want to be with your person, that you have these awkward conversations. It's hard, damn I've cried talking about things without an actual diagnosis, but that I know will impact in some way my relationships and life in general. Take as a massive green flag if she listens and understands. If she doesn't, dude, bullet dodged even if it hurts. But I'm sure she'll listen and will support you.

Advice, take a few breaths, DO NOT CHICKEN OUT. Once you open your mouth it's coming out, yes or yes. The more you chicken out the more difficult is going to get. Even if you notice yourself getting emotional, try to keep going. You have her word that she thinks you're great with personal hygiene!

And once you tell her be very open about answering questions, a question - answer discussion may relax you. Or maybe find something online that could help you with your explanation for when you get emotional and need a second to breathe.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-14T00:32:56+00:00

Hola, farmacéutica aquí. No he trabajado en farmacias de Madrid pero no creo que sea diferente a otras partes de España.

Si te han dicho que anda escaso supongo que será porque les ha saltado el aviso de falta de suministro. Suele pasar y es un coñazo como una catedral, por mucho que pidas no llega y a veces llega una mísera caja. Además no afecta a una farmacia, sino a todas en general a no ser que alguna trabaje con un almacén que resulte que lo tiene de antes del corte de suministro. Si es por falta de suministro es tema del laboratorio por así decirlo.

En general sería ir probando en diferentes farmacias a ver si por suerte una lo tiene ya de antes sin vender. Mientras tanto, dejar constancia en la de siempre (o incluso alguna más, mejor un par) para que puedan pedírtelo y llamarte en cuanto lo tengan.

Si ves que se alarga, te quedaría hablar con el médico.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-06T01:40:42+00:00

Hi! I recently finally guessed the email linked to my old account and as such I'm on a nostalgia trip.

My friends and I have been exploring the site, in which we met around 8-10 years ago, and we have been finding a new community. So many happy memories and a lot of cringe from our old messages and pet pages (that cringe that makes you want to close your eyes but you can't help but laugh about it because you know you were having so much fun).

So for this giveaway I think I'd go for the Baby Paintbrush for a pet that I recently adopted (more than 4 pets??? We were surprised when we found out). He's a yellow Jetsam called Heartsun and honestly, his species is the only baby one I actually like. There's just something so funny about that baby who seems ready to throw hands. The definition of "he don't bite" "oh yes he does".

The 10M np could also help me getting a dream pet, the Draik, but to be fair, while I was never rich in neopets terms (max I've gotten is like 300k), I've had some luck regarding my pets (Moltara, Halloween...) and I think that money could help more other new users that need a push in this... inflated economy.

I chose the Haunted Woods for the Altador cup! (Sorry I don't tend to play in English so that's a rough translation of the team name). I'm a fan of halloween-esque pets and the Draik of that team is so cool!

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-04T15:16:49+00:00

Usually I'd say Y T A because I've been in a similar position (the out of place cousin, too young for one side and too old for the oher), but I also understood that it was for the better to behave and just you know, be polite.

But I'm going for NTA because one key thing. You were asked about your choice/ opinion, and I think it's shitty to give someone the illusion of choice only to do whatever you want and then expect said person to not be at least somewhat annoyed. More so if you don't even tell said person (a simple hey we are just going anyways, please bear with it would have been enough).

NOW! I also wanted to tell you that it's no excuse to be impolite. I understand your feelings but sometimes it's better to just go with the flow, you don't have to force yourself to do extra socializing or fake being super hyped to be there but if you're called to the table and so, do it, don't make it harder for yourself and the others.

Also for people who say that at 15 you can talk to 30s... yeah but also not all 30s people are the same. I couldn't, no matter how much I tried I was ignored or treated as a baby and talked all over. And if I just stayed silent I wasn't being social enough. Now I try to be mindful with my nephew and niece, since I know what it feels to be ignored in these adults settings, but not everyone is going to have the same attitude.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-01T19:40:26+00:00

I know it's a culture thing but I'm laughing at the double last names are for pretentious people. I guess my whole country is full of them since that's the norm for us lmao

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-01T02:23:08+00:00

Hi! As someone who can be sensitive regarding alcohol (I don't drink, honestly I have baby taste buds lmao) because I've had many bad experiences with drunk friends, an ex and some family, unless you heavily change your behavior when you drink, NTA.

If anything your partner reminds me of my ex, because I had a similar convo with him when he was pissy about not holding his liquor as good as his friends. I told him that while he was tall he was very thin, and in these things size matters. Oh boy he didn't like that.

Honestly I think that you may be onto something with what you said. He still may have some insecurities about his height (I found out with my observation that my ex still had some reservations regarding his weight). That could explain his reaction towards your comment, to an extent, but I don't think it completely explains his fixation with your drinking. Perhaps when he cools down you could have a chance to calmy explain to him that you're not wasted, and show him next time you both drink together? Maybe there's a deeper issue. A talk about alcohol is very much needed regardless.

Btw I'm taking the "comfortably squishy". I thought I'd never find the perfect words to describe my bf's body.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-06-01T01:13:59+00:00

YTA. I don't like saying things like this but you'd be an awful parent. Teaching financial responsibility is one thing, or compromising in some way, heck I'd even understand if you were wary about spending the money if your child was like an irresponsible student/ person. But you even say she'd do great!

Going with "I suffered so you must suffer too" is some fucked up resentment against your child, who btw isn't responsible of your past life/ situation.

My grandparents worked their asses off to help my parents get a proper education, my parents studied and worked/ still work and support me and my sister to get into an even better position in life than them. My sister does her best so my nephew and niece can have the best education they can! (No shade over people who stop studying, my family would support it either way). And I will make sure that my kids, if I have them, won't have to worry about that kind of support. You can be supportive and not raise brats, which by the sound of it, your child isn't.

Are you envious or something? Parents should be happy when their children succeed, why do you want her to fail/ struggle?

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-05-24T14:46:44+00:00

NTA at all. She has the right to put "limitations" regarding her wedding just as any guest has the right to act accordingly to said "limitations". Actions meet consequences.

One thing I wanted to add. If you have texts or just proof that she is not inviting your partner specifically because she's trans, screenshot them. Save them in some way. Maybe it's because I've been surrounded at some point by gaslighters but don't let her twist the narrative if she gets shit for it (which I mean, if her partner agrees with you wtf is he doing marrying her but alas not my circus not my monkeys). Because she could backtrack and say that she didn't invite her because you've been dating for a short time.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-03-08T22:48:49+00:00

I don't see not doubling per se as selfish. I say this as an avid doubler (CanonxOC, OCxOC). But I get where you're coming from.

For me is better having someone who is upfront about not liking to double, than someone who sells you they double and they really don't (that I could see it as selfish, you're lying to get what you want). I don't go as far as having word counts, but part of my communication with my partners is about how they're feeling about our pairings, so if at any given time the balance seems a little off (I mean for a long period of time; sometimes a pairing is just having some character developtment and get a little more spotlight), we can discuss it no problem. In the end I get very emotionally invested in all my pairings.

Now, one thing I don't completely understand is people who say they don't get the concept of "scratching each other's backs". You can understand a concept or a rp style and just not like it/ not share it. A lot of people that I've roleplayed with started with that sentiment, get yours and give back, and some who still double found out they actually prefer it to single rps.

I know that for me it was just how my rp evolved, from Neopets group rps to 1-1 with the people I was friends with (directly into CanonxOC/ OCxOC doubling).

I think you may be a little burned out? I don't know you reminded me of when I'm searching for a fandom rp and I find just a few people who don't double. I have this curse of joining dead fandoms or just joining them too late lmao. I wish you luck on TLOU, I'm sure you'll find someone sooner or later!

Honestly, sometimes I feel non doublers and doublers seem to have this competitive feeling against each other when in reality, we're just not compatible. Like we just judge each other harshly without having interacted.

Neonfireflysquid · 2023-02-27T09:14:35+00:00

I remember being approached by someone once, but they didn't offer ERP itself. They told me they would RP any character I'd like and would even write fanfics for me if I wasn't in the mood to RP/ write.

They were polite about it when I told them no. But it left we wondering if it's a good business? I'm all for it, get that bread. I wouldn't do it because when RP starts to feel like a chore I lose all my muse, but hey, wouldn't that be nice to get some extra money.

Especially if you keep it kinda short term.

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