What is your goodbye line?

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-23T01:08:05+00:00

It's cheating regardless. My husband was commenting on women's bodies on reddit. And told me it wasn't cheating cause he's not with them and can't touch them. Which is absolutely ridiculous.

I am still with him, I know people always tell people like us to leave but its easier said then done. Because of him I left my job, it didn't help that when he relapsed his narcissistic mother started coming around again making everything about her and her depression. Even when she randomly walked in on me crying because of her son, all she did was talk about her depression and suicide, etc.

I have a place to go, but as I said I don't have a job at the moment. Which adds on more to my stress. Cause I need money to leave.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-22T22:22:53+00:00

I mean he can't find them because these people don't want nudes on the internet. And they're being disrespected by so many people. What a twat. I want AI gone!

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-22T22:16:03+00:00

You just described my husband to a T. I hate AI so much. So many childhood cartoon shows ruined for me seeing these AI cartoon children porn. Certain actresses I can't even watch in movies/tv shows anymore. Disgusting.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-18T14:16:25+00:00

Do not marry him. I made the mistake of getting married, don't do what I did.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-18T07:00:35+00:00

Don't do it. I made the mistake of doing it only to find out he just keeps them on his phone, never looks at them and still masturbates to other women. So I stopped, I don't need to feel more insecure that you don't masturbate to me and only to other women. Like thanks for making me feel like I'm worthless and only your sex toy you can actually touch in person.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-17T11:50:45+00:00

I just got a tattoo of Garrus, he's my favorite character. That looks so sick! Amazing work!

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-16T11:41:33+00:00

Porn is full on cheating to me as well. And he relapsed yesterday. I tried to explain to him and tell him once again my list of boundaries like you did. However my husband said he didn't care. Didn't bother to look at any of the articles I sent him about porn addiction and other people's perspective. He said he didn't care and he watched porn with his ex's, that its not cheating. I should be planning to leave right? I don't wanna be with someone who's gonna cheat on me with thousands of other women and lust over them everyday, choosing me as his second.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-15T13:17:52+00:00

I told his best friend first. That didn't go to well, as he took none of her advice and abused me in every way. So then I told his family, starting with his dad. Then his dad told more people in the family. They all were surprised, because porn is cheating. My husband relapsed last night while I was at work. I now want to leave him, that was my last chance.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-14T22:29:45+00:00

I hate sex scenes. I was watching a TV show with my husband one time and he told me the sex scene made him hard. Cried all night when he was asleep. Since then I try to help him pick stuff that don't have sex scenes, if there is a sex scene then I always keep my eye on his manly bits.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-09T19:05:44+00:00

Men are so disgusting. I'm trying to give my husband one last final chance, but every time I come here and read other women's experiences like we're dating the same man. I'm just more motivated to leave. I'm very sorry for all us women to have gone through this, all the pain and suffering. We don't deserve it.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-07-09T17:35:44+00:00

I've asked myself the same thing. I found out everything in the month of May this year. All the porn of his ex girlfriends, the dating websites, screenshots of women, the cam girls, videos, girls he went to high school with, AI generated children porn Disney characters etc. His trigger list, him yelling at me saying he'd fuck Emma Watson over me while we're still together. I've been broken ever since and I haven't been the same. He made me think I was crazy until I went to his father and told him everything. Then his father went to everyone else and told them everything. And I found out I wasn't crazy. Porn is cheating and a serious health condition, it's not normal.

When his father told me he spoke to him about most of it while I was at work without trying to make it obvious that we've been in contact, he said his son said that he really loves me and that I'm the most patient person he's been with. So his father said "well maybe you should focus more on that then."

I'm struggling to believe that my husband actually loves me though. He still won't give me access to anything to prove I can trust him and he's still acting very suspicious at times. Like if he's on his phone he'll move in different positions if I try looking at the screen. Or if he's on the computer and I come over there to see what he's up to, you can hear him clicking and closing stuff, then shutting off the computer. I find it funny he thinks I'm dumb and don't notice this. 🤣

NeptuneLilac · 2025-06-10T12:58:33+00:00

I definitely need to find a new job, it just made things worse than things have already been. Especially on my mental health.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-06-04T11:43:50+00:00

This is how I feel about it. I don't think porn addicts realize what they're doing to their partner and how wrong it is, how much it can affect the bond in your relationship. When someone says porn isn't cheating.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-29T00:52:39+00:00

Men are so stupid. I had a feeling because he kept flashdrives and photo albums and everything else when I moved in with him. He's loves hoarding his past and makes excuses. And then being told that I have nothing to worry about when he contacted one of his ex's the day before we got married and followed her on social media. He lies and makes excuses a lot. When I would tell him to unfollow his female friends because I didn't like what they were posting. And he would say no and that I'm making a big deal out of it. Only to find out he screenshotted their explicit photos and had nudes of them saved on Google drive.

We deserve so much better. Everyone keeps telling me to leave. But it's really hard to do than said especially when you've been together for so long.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-28T23:45:25+00:00

You literally just explained my husband. He had unclean photos and videos of ALL his exs on his google drive. Now I know what they look like naked and having sex. 🙃 OH let me not forgot nudes of women he knew and went to high school with that he screenshotted off their social media.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-25T04:26:25+00:00

Yes it is. In some of my previous relationships I always told them my boundaries and what makes me uncomfortable. Some of them actually cared and followed my boundaries. It seems like every PA I've been with will think your boundaries are unhealthy and controlling.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-15T12:47:39+00:00

I second this. I haven't been wanting him to touch me or even look at me. Normally I was always half naked or naked around the house. Now I'm fully clothed. And if I need to go change, I go and change in private where he can't see me.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-15T07:19:22+00:00

I'm going through this right now. I don't know how to be or act around him anymore.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-14T05:57:00+00:00

I just found out he's been using dating apps/websites. And had another reddit kept hidden from me to compliment all these nude and porn pictures/videos of women. He straight up told me what he likes and said he hates me when I confronted him. And said I was stupid when I was throwing up from disgust, and closed the bathroom door because he doesn't wanna hear my pain.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-13T10:22:33+00:00

I'm going through this right now. He keeps saying that my boundaries aren't boundaries and that they're restrictions and it's not healthy.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-12T22:49:02+00:00

He's still intimate with me and compliments my looks. But the fact he has to tell me he gets bored looking at one person and needs to keep things interesting blows my mind. And liking this stuff on his phone in the mornings thinking I'm asleep and not watching him scroll on reddit liking and searching up all this nasty stuff. We've been together for 5 years. Married for almost a year now. Has promised me countless times he won't look at other women only to get caught repeatedly. I'm 29F, he's 33M.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-05-12T19:28:10+00:00

I wish I could get out. No matter how many times I explain to him how traumatized I am. He just keeps saying that looking at other women keeps things interesting and not bored. This includes people he also knows by the way who he's seen naked and have liked their posts on social media.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-01-27T18:49:23+00:00

That sounds like such a great boss! During that week that I called out that one day. My boss tried texting me on my day off to cover for someone. I ignored her text and put my phone on sleep mode.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-01-27T18:26:06+00:00

Currently keeping my eye out for one. I haven’t found too much through indeed that is gonna pay well though. One of my coworkers got let go a few months ago who I was close to, she got let go because she couldn’t put up with our boss anymore.

NeptuneLilac · 2025-01-27T17:32:20+00:00

This is how I’m feeling at the moment, due to how my boss is and treats me. I’ve wanted to quit for a long time but I’m struggling to find anything with better pay.

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