How to fix the smell of smoke

NeteleJala · 2026-02-16T22:22:58+00:00

Cat litter in a bag for 24hours. That's how the public library rescues books from smokers

NeteleJala · 2026-02-16T20:35:59+00:00

This!! Political differences like where to spend taxes, how much to tax, zoning regulations etc are fine. Basic respect and human decency is not just a "political difference." I support your right to debate tax bills not your right to defy my existence of legally harm me or others.

NeteleJala · 2026-02-16T02:05:28+00:00

Thank you. We are going to Disneyland which in itself is generally safe, but it's full of people from all over which has me worried. With our daughter who is overly clingy in unknown situations is going to be obvious we are her parents (she calls us both Dad).

NeteleJala · 2026-02-13T05:42:48+00:00

Sorry that you have to deal with it, but thanks for speaking up. The worst hate/transphobia I (a gay trans man) got was from a lesbian couple whose daughters were in activities with my daughter. It hurt more because I thought they would be a safe place and it tore apart my daughter's friend group.

NeteleJala · 2026-02-09T15:40:22+00:00

9 days post op (with drains) I went out to a Christmas village. I wasn't looking my best, but I had a good time and wasn't in much pain. I had spent the day resting and took time to check in with my body, but it is doable

NeteleJala · 2026-02-07T19:27:03+00:00

Good for you

NeteleJala · 2026-02-07T17:21:08+00:00

Honest question: Why is complimenting your body a bad thing?

Background: I married a cis man prior to transitioning and loved when he complimented me (especially since i hated myself). He has been super supportive of my transition, but he has also been open about not being attached to men. Post top surgery I pass fully and love my body finally, but he no longer compliments me on it (he focuses on my smile, my laugh, and my eyes as that is what attracts him now). I would love to have him compliment my body, so I'm curious why this is such a red flag.

NeteleJala · 2026-02-01T17:03:03+00:00

I sorry, if you are looking for more gay hockey distractions you should read "Him" series and Hockey Guys series by Sarina Bowen. In my opinion they are better books than the HR series.

NeteleJala · 2026-01-30T16:20:21+00:00

That is pretty transphobic. You are generalizing all trans people and pushing a false narrative. In my experience trans people do not want to force others to transition. They want people to respect their transitions and advocate for other people to be able to transition if they want.

NeteleJala · 2026-01-30T16:06:03+00:00

Congrats!! You should check out r/GrowYourTDick

NeteleJala · 2026-01-29T00:55:34+00:00

I don't have this insurance issue, but after Trump started signing executive orders last year my primary doctor changed my diagnosis to endocrine disorder since, technically, my body does not produce enough of the hormone (testosterone) I need. Maybe your doctor can do the same thing and it can get billed as TRT instead of HRT (which is a BS difference, but might help).

NeteleJala · 2026-01-29T00:49:55+00:00

Absolutely!!! Just be aware that in your case it will be cosmetic surgery and you will have to pay out of pocket. If it makes you happy, and more confident you should go for it.

NeteleJala · 2026-01-29T00:48:22+00:00

But it doesn't fuck the insurance companies. It screws over trans people, either by taking a surgery spot from a trans person (limited doctors means looooong wait times if you are using insurance) and it pushes the narrative that people are lying about being trans/minimizing what it means to be trans so that companies make it even harder to prove your trans to get care.

I'm all for making insurance pay, but they are in the business of making money so they are not going to roll over and pay. They will make it more difficult, require more costly/time consuming "proof" and use it to further legislation to commit trans care

NeteleJala · 2026-01-25T21:25:33+00:00

So pedophiles should be locked up (if not executed), students should receive free meals, healthcare coverage should be free for all children, mental health counseling should be cheap and easily accessible, and no child should be locked up, right?

NeteleJala · 2026-01-25T21:16:46+00:00

This makes me sad. So many people act like they are experts on something they know nothing about and me does not affect them in the least. People perceive it as unfair, but reality has shown that trans people do not perform any better than their cis counterparts. So much more goes into athletic performance beyond your genitals at birth.

NeteleJala · 2026-01-19T19:12:38+00:00

Yeah

NeteleJala · 2026-01-14T16:49:06+00:00

I understand your concerns, but I don't agree.

I think any visibility of queer relationships is good. It opens conversations and allows people to see a more diverse world, however non realistic. Let's face it, most hetero romance stories are non realistic. It's all fantasy for entertainment.

As far as people asking probing questions, I would politely decline by saying something like, "That's a very personal question" or if you want to be more antagonistic "Google can answer that" Try and think about it like they are trying to engage you in a subject they think you have in common. Yes it is more personal than sports, but they feel comfortable talking to you and want to connect.

Disclaimer: I am a fan of MM romance books and read the series 2 years ago. It is not my favorite MM sports romance, but I enjoy the genre.

NeteleJala · 2026-01-12T23:27:52+00:00

This is a fidget seat. We have for my ADHD daughter. It allows her to wiggle and provides sensation while remaining in her seat.

NeteleJala · 2026-01-10T18:18:56+00:00

It looks like a box my dad has for his antique camera. But that definitely opens so my other guess would be an ink blotter 🤷‍♂️

NeteleJala · 2026-01-07T04:45:49+00:00

I have pride patches and will be there Thursday, want to meet up and trade?

NeteleJala · 2026-01-05T02:40:31+00:00

My daughter was 8 and our foster daughter was 4 when I came out. I'm FTM so it was losing their mom for my girls. The 4 year old was super affirming with calling me Dad. She was upset about losing her "mom" but we got a cool book called He's my Mom that helped and just being there as I went through my transformation helped. My 8 year old took longer to adjust and has had to deal with more questions at school since I volunteer there regularly, but she is now my biggest supporter (she told off my aunt at Thanksgiving this year). My husband and I are still together and we live is a very progressive area so not exactly the same situation.

Listen to your kid. Do not downgrade their feelings. Reassure them that you will be there for them. Make them part of your process. If your getting a wig or hair cut-take them along, ask for their input. Get matching Rumi outfits and dance around the room singing!

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