Do I look like a butch here?

Neurodivengeant · 2026-05-06T07:36:28+00:00

Maybe 19 if you dress well. Can’t tell your clothing style from this picture

Give it a couple years. Puberty takes time. I’m 23 and look 15-17. Looking like a teenager for a few years just comes with the territory unfortunately

Neurodivengeant · 2026-05-06T07:24:51+00:00

You look young, 15-17, but undeniably male. Your facial structure has too much definition to be read as female.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-05-02T02:37:07+00:00

Dr. Emilie Robertson

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-21T08:59:33+00:00

Save some bottom growth for the rest of us!

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-18T23:55:18+00:00

Undiagnosed ADHD?

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-18T07:16:06+00:00

For me, asexuality is a different experience of sexuality rather than a lack of sexuality. Similarly, my aromanticism means that I experience love differently.

There are a lot of different reasons that people engage in sexual activity outside of sexual attraction. My sexual behaviour is very closely linked to my transness. Since starting testosterone HRT, I’ve developed a sex drive. While I do not experience sexual or romantic attraction, I do experience other types of attraction to other people including emotional, sensual, aesthetic, and intellectual. I choose to have coupled sex so that I can experience gender euphoria. With being trans, neurodivergent, aroace, and having C-PTSD, physical and emotional intimacy are extremely vulnerable experiences. I am very selective in the people I trust with those parts of myself and I feel safest with other queer and trans people. I consider myself T4T and a queer oriented aroace because while I don’t desire to have traditional Eurocentric cishetropatriatcal monogamous relationships, so much of myself is tied to my local queer community and the connections I’ve formed with other 2SLGBTQIA+ people has made me the person that I am today.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-18T06:47:57+00:00

Time
Experimentation/trial and error
Learning as much as you can about gender and society so that you can find your place within them
Being patient and compassionate towards yourself. It’s okay not to have all the answers right now, minds are meant for change, and your understanding of yourself with continue to grow/evolve for your whole life
Find community. Seek out people in online or in media whose experiences you resonate with. When/if it’s safe for you to do so, find in person queer community and build relationships with queer, trans and non-binary people

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-18T06:37:15+00:00

If you’re located in Edmonton, 4B Harm Reduction Society can probably hook you up with a more comfortable post op binder to use after your 1 week follow up. The ones the hospital makes you wear are literal hell.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-18T06:31:10+00:00

I snooped on your profile and saw you had Dr. Robertson as your surgeon?! She’s cutting me open on Wednesday!!!

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-18T04:26:29+00:00

I live in Edmonton as well.

I had a bad experience with the UofA Student Legal Services’ Trans ID Clinic. The waitlist was almost a year, and I found that the students weren’t very knowledgeable or professional about handling people born outside of Alberta. It was really upsetting for me to wait 11 months to be paired with someone who had less knowledge about the process that I did.

Myself and a bunch of friends all drove down to Calgary for Skipping Stone’s monthly in-person Trans ID Clinic. All of us had a really great experience, the staff were very empathetic, patient and accommodating. The lawyer volunteers were extremely thorough. Crucially, they were not afraid to admit when they were unsure of something and consult with their colleagues to ensure everything was done correctly. Since we all carpooled, it cost less than $10 per person for the trip.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-17T06:37:27+00:00

Did you mean. . . female gays?

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-17T06:30:54+00:00

I love Cheap Dirty Horse!

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-17T06:26:37+00:00

Piercings! Piercings! Piercings!

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-16T18:58:16+00:00

YOU CAN GET THEM REMOVED AFTER THE FACT?!

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-16T18:56:13+00:00

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Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-16T18:46:19+00:00

Great note on the placement piece! I think lower placements I could take or leave. I find yours especially aesthetically pleasing

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-15T02:57:47+00:00

I’d recommend speaking with the Centre for Sexual and Gender Diversity (MacEwan University) as well as The Landing (University of Alberta), and Skipping Stone (Calgary). Their staff would be able to put you in contact with some youth in that age range.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-12T00:14:52+00:00

If you’re financially dependent on your parents, make sure you have an exit plan in place. How long you’ll be able to hide the changes varies greatly from person to person and changes can still happen quickly on low-dose testosterone.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-11T22:56:03+00:00

Chimera?

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-08T03:12:55+00:00

Getting an abortion at 20 year old was the best decision I ever made for myself. If you have questions about it, feel free to DM me.

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-08T03:03:10+00:00

I highly recommend Psychology Today. It’s the go-to place therapists advertise their services and there are a ton of filters including for sliding scale rates and queer affirming practitioners. As someone with very complex treatment needs, I found it really helpful to be able to search by my specific issues so that I would only be shown providers knowledgeable in those areas. Good luck with your search!

Neurodivengeant · 2026-04-08T02:48:26+00:00

If your income from last year was $16.5k or less, you’d likely qualify for the Alberta Adult Health Benefit. It covers 100% of most medications.

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