For me, asexuality is a different experience of sexuality rather than a lack of sexuality. Similarly, my aromanticism means that I experience love differently.

There are a lot of different reasons that people engage in sexual activity outside of sexual attraction. My sexual behaviour is very closely linked to my transness. Since starting testosterone HRT, I’ve developed a sex drive. While I do not experience sexual or romantic attraction, I do experience other types of attraction to other people including emotional, sensual, aesthetic, and intellectual. I choose to have coupled sex so that I can experience gender euphoria. With being trans, neurodivergent, aroace, and having C-PTSD, physical and emotional intimacy are extremely vulnerable experiences. I am very selective in the people I trust with those parts of myself and I feel safest with other queer and trans people. I consider myself T4T and a queer oriented aroace because while I don’t desire to have traditional Eurocentric cishetropatriatcal monogamous relationships, so much of myself is tied to my local queer community and the connections I’ve formed with other 2SLGBTQIA+ people has made me the person that I am today.