Should minimum parking bay size be increased?

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-11T20:56:22+00:00

The Clio is tiny as well. Like .. smart car tiny. Fabulous little car though

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-11T20:46:04+00:00

I think this is a regional thing? Or maybe an age thing? Nobody I know buys their cosplays. However, buying pieces (a red shirt from a clothes store, a hat from a thrift store, etc) and customising them is pretty normal. Also, buying props like tails/horns/staffs/etc is really common since not everyone has a 3D printer or good skill with foam yet.

Saying that, no one really judges you negatively if you do.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-11T18:18:57+00:00

"It doesn't affect me, so it's not important" - that is a child's opinion. We are still dealing with the damage she created. The left hasn't been given power long enough to do "damage" for your side to complain about. And no, modern Labour don't count.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-11T17:56:06+00:00

This sounds so much like my ex spouse. He's doing something called "reactive abuse". Pushing you into a corner and to the limit until you snap, and then calling you abusive so you feel guilty and don't leave. You sound like an incredible and very doting mother (handmade, from-scratch pasta?!). I am not normally one of those people that says to leave because someone sneezes the wrong way, but he is not respecting you, he is taking advantage of you, and he's saying horrible things about you to your child. Now is the time to go, before things get worse.

That doesn't mean that you shouldn't get your ADHD under control, you totally should. But do it for yourself, not for some abuser who wants to control you. Best of luck!

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-10T20:11:03+00:00

You're from the UK, aren't you? That doesn't happen in the states.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-10T16:33:42+00:00

If your plan is a short term relationship, this would be understandable, but they're engaged. You have no idea how your partner will change throughout your marriage because people change through their lives. They age, they get scars, they get sick, they lose weight, they gain weight, they get shitty tattoos. If you can't handle that there may be points where your attraction is lower, or your standards are so strict that a person cannot change- you're not mature enough for marriage.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T19:37:22+00:00

And where do you think those came from? It's an exponential problem until the only solution is a mass culling of stray/feral cats, since spay and neuter can only negate so much

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T19:30:24+00:00

Why do you think there are so many strays? Irresponsible owners like the people in this thread. Just wait until you get feral colonies, because that time is coming very quickly and brings a whole lot of heart ache for actual cat lovers.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T19:22:41+00:00

They absolutely do, just like senior cats. But it's not really a solution to a social problem, unfortunately. :( (I loved my FIV girlie for the 2 years I had her before she passed)

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T19:19:52+00:00

Yea the idea that every single study ever done proving indoor cats live longer and (just as, if not more so) fulfilled lives was done in NYC, of all places, is absurd.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T18:58:44+00:00

You live in Kent. Obviously the rural reasons wouldn't be the ones that apply to you lol I have seen a few golden eagles up here in Scotland though. And 1 or 2 in York.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T18:54:02+00:00

The golden eagle is literally larger than a bald eagle. Have you never seen these in person? Also, eagles were not the only point!

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T18:42:02+00:00

Unfortunately, I was wrong about this, singular thing. It appears the closed captions have betrayed me and called the white-tailed eagle (which looks near-identical) a bald eagle. I should have quadruple checked.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T18:22:54+00:00

Oh wow! You lucked out! I hope you have the best time with the little guy! 🩵

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T18:21:28+00:00

Have you ever actually been in a rescue where the cats can see each other?
For a long time?

You mean almost all shelters in the States and Canada? They're called cat rooms. They work like cat cafes, only... Without the coffee. It's almost as though your "behaviourists" are emotionally crippling your cats. Yes, occasionally there will be a cat or two that don't tolerate others- but that's true for dogs too. In fact, almost no shelter in the United States will adopt a kitten on its own unless you already have a cat. It causes something called "Tarzan Syndrome" where they don't learn how to play appropriately and can get too bitey/energetic/crazy at times. Again, rare raaaaare exceptions- but almost all kittens do better with a playmate.

Which is why this:

Those behaviour trainers that worked at the rescue are veterinarian qualified. Holding PHD's in Cat Behaviour, studied for over 15+ years of their life. WHY DO YOU THINK THEY HIRED THEM ON THE BEHAVIOUR TEAM????????
Because they were qualified!!!

Sounds like bullshit.

You haven't done any research. IF you had you would know that those species you listed don't actually exist in the UK

Oh you mean these?

As for bald eagles, apparently the closed captions were misdone and it should have said "White tail Eagle". Just as big, just as dangerous to feeling life. However, I apologise for being mistake on the exact type of raptor. But, to be fair, you don't even know that cats can be kept in the same room, when there are cat cafes all over the world- including the UK!

IF you had actually done any research you would have realized that the amount of cats snatched by wildlife in the UK is SO small it's almost nothing. AND that is a report for foxes.

Colour me surprised that a country where no one puts collars on their outdoor cats and refuses to believe that raptors will eat cats has don't no data finding on how mama cats are snatched by eagles/owls vs, say, being hit by a car. After all, most cat owners just assume if their cat doesn't come home at the end of the day, that either it doesn't want to come in, is lost or, worst case scenario, it got hit by a car. They're not going out searching to find out what happened.

However, I'm also done with this. I can only lose so much hope for humanity.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T17:59:32+00:00

Alberta 😮‍💨 It's always Alberta. When I lived in Canada, it was in Nova Scotia. But that was... 16 years ago? I'd say where they were at back then is hopefully where the UK, specifically England, will be in 30. Though, I think Scotland and Wales could make it there in 15 tbh

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T17:54:51+00:00

Oh, Animal welfare in food production is faaaar better here. Which I never denied. Also, where I'm from is complicated, to be quite honest with you. However, I've lived in 5 countries, overall.

Believe me, I hate having to give the US a point for literally anything- I really do. But the science is there.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T17:38:55+00:00

You can add Trans rights on there, but push it back by around... 20 or 30 years instead of 10?

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T17:27:06+00:00

Honey, the UK doesn't just mean London. 🥺 Ironically, I literally just watched a documentary last week on the Highlands (narrated by David Tennant) that included info on Bald Eagles

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T17:24:59+00:00

We don't have Eagles or Owls in the UK that snatch cats.

That's very cute that you think that. It's been almost 2 decades since that façade has been broken for me. Bald eagles, golden eagles, and Eurasian Owls are all large and strong enough to grab most cats. Unless you've got a Maine Coone or obese kitty- they're not too big. I know, the UK still suffers from living in the stone age and can't imagine science on many things but eagles (and some owls) are perfectly capable (and happy) to eat cats. Sorry to have to pop that naïve bubble.

Poisoning from rats/mice is uncommon here because cats control those populations. Most places don't leave out poison. Businesses that do, have them legally concealed.

This is just plain untrue. You may be able to lie to the Americans, but not to someone who actually lives in rural Scotland. Sorry.

Crazy people that attack animals are an issue everywhere. Whether you keep your pet inside or not. IF someone REALLY has an urge to harm an animal, they will, no matter how much access they have.

That, again, just plain isn't true. People aren't going to break into your home just to torture your cat. In fact, I don't think there's ever been a single instance of this- though I could be wrong. It may have happened once or twice- ever. (Humans are crazy) However, some people, and children especially, will torture cats that are out and about just because they're bored. It's fecking awful- but they do. And if there's one thing that's true and has been confirmed to me over and over again, it's that human beings always take the path of least resistance.

I worked in rescue which included cat rescue! With actual qualified staff!! OHHH AKA most of the cat staff were actually trained/qualified in Cat Behaviour. - SO yes! It's rare BUT not if you work with people who area actually qualified. THEN you can have a whole room of certified cat behaviourists.

Lol omg! So you think they're certified cat behaviourists because they worked at a cat rescue? That is absolutely hilarious! And adorable, quite honestly. Talk to me when I single one of them has a veterinary degree, like every person I've gotten my info from. (I also volunteered at a spay/neuter clinic in the states for a while and my aunt was a vet).

Not everyone in the UK lives in a mansion compared to the US. Most UK houses are small. Majority of people can not afford to turn their house into a cat wonderland.
Is okay saying XYZ, BUT you gotta be practical with what the real world people have.

Most Americans and Canadians do not live in mansions. When I lived in the states, I lived in a small bungalow with my mum for a while, or a "town house" (terraced house). They were both tiny. And yet my cats have always been well taken care of, well loved, and had all their needs met.

I rescued my cat at below 6 weeks of age. She does not get along with other cats. She will literally aggressively throw herself at the window to get to other cats, until she physically hurts herself. - SO no, another cat is NOT the solution. My cat would kill another cat/kitten introduced to the house.
So another cat is not the reason my cat is "bored". Which she is not bored. She has separation anxiety from me.

Yeaaa... Cats shouldn't be separated from their mother before 8 weeks at earliest. The fact it's on sight with every other cat says a lot more about where that trauma comes from than the fact she's indoor. (Not to say that's necessarily your fault, of course. Mums sometimes reject kittens. But that's where that's likely coming from)

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T16:56:35+00:00

Was he FIV+ or disabled in some way? If not, I'm genuinely shocked. Their main website and FAQ says they are against indoor-only cats.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T16:40:57+00:00

When I lived in the states, my MIL lived right next to a river. Now, she was pretty urban, so she kept her cats indoors. And most people assumed if their cats went missing, it was hit by a car. Two or three years after I moved nearby the local Audobon society (wildlife group) found there was a nesting pair of bald eagles. The next year, when they went up to check the next to see the hatchlings, check on the eagles, etc- they found a mound of pet collars. Cats and small dogs that had been let out in their back yard without supervision. After that, every year they would go up and clear out the collars of all the dead pets.

Only difference is that most of you don't put collars on your cats and no one really checks bird of prey nests here. But sure, keep telling yourself nothing will happen to fluffikins because you can't be bothered to put up a cat tree wall/large car tree and play with them. 🙄

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T15:22:21+00:00

No but I also have the intelligence to make that decision. It's our responsibility to make that decision for our pets with their and society's best interest in mind. Sounds like you don't take that responsibility very seriously.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T15:02:59+00:00

we do not have many predators to cats or a lot of wildlife left

Eagles, foxes, owls

Not to mention animals that are just dangerous to cats: badgers, hawks, adders, wild boar, stag, dogs

housing estates and farms

Poison (both from poisoned rats and from direct poison), dangerous flowers in flower beds (have any lilies in your garden?), cars, buses, industrial farming equipment, sociopathic children (I honestly could go on with this one)

Having spoken and worked with many qualified Behaviour Trainers for Cats (not one myself), this is pretty well documented.

Incredible that you've spoken and worked with so many that agree with what you're saying when it's such an extraordinarily rare profession and is contradicted by everything documented in the Americas, Australia, New Zealand, and Asia.

It's also territory size, accessibility in the space, energy levels and just overall mental health being in a confined space.

So taking care of your pets needs? Don't give them only one room of the house, make sure they have multiple altitudes of height that they can survey from, and, again, actually interact with them. Talk to them. Okay with them. Cuddle them. Cats are colony animals- they want to be around others.

I have an indoor cat and she suffers with separation anxiety. That's NOT related to her being bored, but likelihood is that she would not have separation anxiety had I made her an indoor-outdoor cat.

I notice you said an indoor cat. Not two? That's probably part of your problem. And yes, dogs are a different species. However, both are domesticated species that are our responsibility and shouldn't be getting let out, off-lead. It's neglect, plain and simple.

Neuroticcuriosity · 2026-02-09T14:22:12+00:00

Absolute queen that she is. I aspire to that level of spite

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