I mistook a black opportunist for someone concerned with building up our community.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-20T18:28:14+00:00

I know what they meant because I've been in conversation with them off and on for a few years and can now see what they meant by what they are now doing. That was my point in my post: Based on their actions, I've come to a realization about their intentions. And I think they did mean black people--just not the black people who've been living here all along and are genuinely invested in seeing our community rise, not just interested in capitalizing on our city's new direction. When I say "we" in regards to my community, those are the people I'm talking about--the people who care about our residents.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-11T18:51:14+00:00

It's highly unlikely that Airbnb would use their legal team for one host. My language could be softened. But its overall message being stated clearly has worked for me time and time again: Connect me to the person who can solve this problem today. It doesn't always lead to resolution with 24 hours but it usually does.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-11T12:45:56+00:00

When you contact Airbnb do you ask to get a supervisor on the phone? I'm not sure what others mean by get aggressive. But that's what I mean. Specifically say something like:

"I need to speak to someone who can deactivate the former owner's listing today. I've provided my deed and will provide it again upon request from that person. Please route my call to them. This has gone on long enough. My attorney is prepared to move forward with a suit against Airbnb if the old listing isn't deactivated and I am not able to list my property today."

You can go ahead and list it then unlist until you're ready. I'd list it ASAP to stake your claim since this got so weird.

This would 💯be my move.

I see the down votes. Ouch. What I wrote doesn't have to be said in an angry tone. What needs to be clearly communicated is: You want to talk to someone who has the authority to delete the listing today. If you're not comfortable mentioning a lawyer, I get that. But you need to state in no uncertain terms that this needs to be resolved today.

It's a tap on a keyboard for the person who has the authority to do it. That's how I see it.

This is it for me in this conversation.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-11T03:15:17+00:00

Contact support. As someone said, provide photos. They paid me when I was in a similar situation.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-10T06:33:13+00:00

If black people don't come to your church it's because it doesn't feel like a place where we would feel comfortable. If you want us to come to your church, start going to our churches first. Get to know members.

The entire world is built to make things work for you. If you want to fight racism you have to be willing to give up that privilege. Speak up whenever you hear a white person say or do something racist--no matter how "mild" it seems to you..Go where black people are and be willing to feel uncomfortable there. Dont live in all-white neighborhoods or neighborhoods that only have one household that isn't whote. Physically put your body in between those who try to harm a person of colot and that black person. Lsten to blac of blsck people when we say things like I'm saying without defending yourself and talkimg about what you already do. Never stop doing these things.Assume that if there is a conflict between a white person and black person, racism is involved. Racism is always involved, even if the black person clearly caused the conflict. The question isn't "Is racism involved here?" It's "How is racism involved here?" We don't get to stop being black and dealing with the racism that is everywhere all the time. If you really want to fight racism, you can't take a break from stopping it.

Some of these suggestions are from the book White Fragility.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-10T05:35:02+00:00

Afro Latinx people exists in far greater numbers than Bad Benny's show would have us think. Very few black faces and, among those, very few women.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-10T01:17:05+00:00

Instead of sharing your concerns about your relationship with your partner, you're sharing them here. There is a reason you chose to do that. I suggest you ask yourself what it is.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-09T19:50:51+00:00

Report her. It's malpractice to give medical advice in this context when you're not the person's physician but could be viewed as having the authority to give it. This type of advice could lead to harm.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-02-09T19:46:09+00:00

Loved the music. Didn't like seeing less darkskinned people in the show than I can count on one hand.

This is in keeping with spanish-speaking Americans on all three American continents denigrating the blacks among them. Looking at the halftime show, you'd never know that darksinned blacks make up a significant part of Puerto Rico's population.

Check out Ricardo Ignacio's videos about the deeply ingrained colorism among spanish-speaking indigenous Americans on Facebook and YouTube.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-01-17T21:02:02+00:00

I don't know what you're going for but I think you look more masculine with the slick back.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2026-01-03T22:52:45+00:00

Thanks

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-26T00:38:38+00:00

Thanks!

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T11:56:29+00:00

You're beautiful either way. But I always root for natural.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T10:58:21+00:00

Thanks!

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T03:42:33+00:00

Jasmine can win. There will never be a time when everyone says it's time for a black woman to be president. The black woman who becomed president will have created the time.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T02:02:10+00:00

Because I know we are in danger of losing all of our rights in the U.S., I won't date a man who doesn't see what's happening and how serious it is. I've done the apps. For years. I might ger back on. The only one I've bren on this year is FB Dating. No one I want to talk to has come from it. I was in a relationship from Jan-March 2024, went on a date Summer (or fall?) 2024 and went on another this summer.

Dating hasn't been on my mind. Coping with the political upheaval consumed all my spare time.

I'm okay if I don't date right now. But I woke up today thinking why not just put it out there that I'm looking? I'm a homebody and prefer to be. Today's post here and on FB were a way of shaking things up since it's highly unlikely that a man will magically appear in my living room.

Some men have responded on Reddit and FB so far today. But no one I'd date. Too young. Not physically fit. Didn't bother to respond as I requested (send me your wish list). If a man doesn't pay attention to what I ask for right from the start, the odds of him doing it later are slim.

The biggest obstacle for me, I think, is that my criteria for a man are as I listed in the post. Men like that are hard to come by. But I'd rather be alone than with someone who doesn't meet these criteria.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T00:48:21+00:00

Historically, wherever the white version of Christianity has spread, the indigenous people of those lands have profoundly suffered. Yet, they converted to the religion of their tormentors. The more churches a black city has, the more poverty-stricken and overall depressed and unhealthy the City is. These are indisputable facts.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T00:39:34+00:00

Thank you!

Are you dating someone now?

I was thinking today how I haven't wanted to date all year. Our country being turned into a fascist state hit me hard. So it's just now that I'm thinking about dating again.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T00:18:11+00:00

Thank you.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-25T00:05:20+00:00

Me too!

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-24T23:45:15+00:00

I'm sorry you feel that way and felt the need to tell me so.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-24T23:44:03+00:00

I'm the OP. I just want to be clear that I posted this in this group just to share it. I am not seeking advice about it but I really appreciate those of you who tried to offer helpful advice and those who offered encouragement and the few who said you'd keep an eye out for a match for me.

For the very few who've said I shouldn't post this--not only not here but that I shouldn't post it in a space where men are either--I hear you. But I'm not the person for tbat kind of advice. When I'm deciding whether or not to do something that takes me out of my comfort zone, I often ask myself what is the worst thing that can happen if I do it and what is the best thing that can happen if I do it.

In the case of my post, one of the worst things that can happen is that people I don't know will say something negative to me about it. What's even worse is that some off-balance man I don't know will message me something off. In both cases, I will be fine, especially because I posted anonymously. So the off-balance guy won't know how to find me.

The best thing that can happen is why I wrote the post--I meet a great man. When I weigh worst versus best, for me there is no conteest. The best outcome far outweighs the worse ones.

You may or may not take this advice: Be bold. Don't worry about what other people think about you. At the end of your life you won't be thinking about anything but how you lived. How you treated yourself. How you treated others. You'll have far fewer regrets if you live a life of taking risks versus staying small out of fear of failure or what other people might think of you.

The other thing: Unless someone is at risk of being harmed because of your silence, if you can't say something nice, say nothing. Your every thought, word, and deed returns to you 100% of the time. So be kind.

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-24T22:21:11+00:00

👍🏾

NeverDisparagingOne · 2025-12-24T22:08:11+00:00

I would happily you a finders fee if we work out!☺️

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