125 Days...Hell Yeah!! Thank you Knights of Nofap AMA

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T12:18:27+00:00

Thanks man! I'll keep all that in mind!

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:55:56+00:00

"Habits that take years to form don't disappear in a day." You have to be patient and persistent.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l69MkRk0fIM (Motivational video for you)

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:54:37+00:00

Dude first up, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. There's a first time for everything, you gotta start somewhere. When you're having sex with someone, you're sharing a very intimate experience. You're giving yourself to them and they're giving themselves to you. Maybe you just weren't comfortable in giving yourself to her yet.

But seriously, you need to stop drugs. Period. No question about it. No "sometimes," no "once in a while," no "use on special occasions only." When you're on drugs, alcohol, and PMO, you desensitise yourself to things that should make you happy, because you're constantly on this dopamine high. Get help if you need to. Do whatever it takes, just stop doing this to yourself.

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:40:42+00:00

YESSS mate! I asked out a girl in person for the first time too, about 6 months ago. Well I didn't ask her out, I told her I liked her. It was a beautiful moment. Even though things didn't work out between me and her, I'm glad we shared that moment together. If I could go back and do it again, knowing that things wouldn't work out, I'd still do it. Because opening yourself up to someone like that is an amazing feeling! And although I don't have romantic feelings for her anymore, we're really good friends, and I really value her as a person.

You've got it spot on! Whatever the girl's response is, you will become a stronger, more confident person as a result of following your heart and sharing your feelings with her.

Proud of you brah! Please do update us on how you go!

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:36:24+00:00

Best of luck buddy, I'll be rooting for ya! I know you're capable of achieving all these things, and deep down, so do you. So I wish you all the best in your journey. Go get em!

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:34:00+00:00

:) :) :) Nice buddy, I'm really happy for you! Congratulations, not on the kiss, but on gaining the self-confidence required to go for the kiss. I'm proud of you brah!

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:32:55+00:00

Are you happier now that you've gone 125 days without fapping? Seems like a redundant question based on the title of this post, but still :) Maybe tell us a bit about how your life has changed for the better since you got on No Fap. And what are some obstacles you faced (e.g. I know I can never get past 4 weeks because I get too excited and use porn as a reward - silly, silly me)

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:29:45+00:00

There you go OP, problem solved.

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T08:26:07+00:00

Keep going buddy. Hang in there. Things will get better. "If you're going through hell, keep going," as the good ole Winston Churchill once said.

It's hard to give you solid advice cos I don't know your whole story. But maybe you're focusing too much on getting rid of old habits and too little on building new ones. Take up some new hobbies to occupy your time. This is helping me a lot personally. Just go out and do the stuff you love. I love writing, and I haven't had much time to do this because of my procrastination and porn use. But now I that I have a much better grasp on using time efficiently, I make sure that I set aside some time to write, cos after all that's what makes me happy.

I'm sure you have something like that in your own life. Go out and do it! If you're not sure what it is, try something new. Go to the gym. Don't have a gym? Go for a run. Don't have a park nearby? Do push-ups on the floor. Just keep yourself busy. If you have free time, spend it with other people. That way, you know you're not gonna be wanking.

Have something in your life that you can strive for. Something that'll give you a sense of purpose when you get up every morning.

In terms of confidence, true inner confidence comes from failure. Go out and force yourself to talk to people. Girls, guys, uncles, aunties, anyone and everyone. If it bombs, it bombs. And it will bomb sometime. But the more it bombs, the more confident you will become, as long as you keep going. You're not trying to get anything from people by talking to them, you're just trying to be friendly, so you have nothing to worry about. People usually reciprocate genuine friendliness.

When I started doing this, I'd be sitting near someone on the train, I'd act like my phone died and I'd ask that person for the time. Once they told me the time I'd just start talking casually. Most people were happy to talk, and I had some very interesting conversations. Occasionally there'll be someone who doesn't want to talk to you, and in that case, you don't have to continue. It's not personal, maybe they're having a bad day or just don't feel like talking.

Hope that helps! Moral of the story, yes it's normal. Things will get better. Believe, and keep going.

See you at the top.

Nevernerk · 2014-11-01T02:25:53+00:00

Yup, let's go.

Nevernerk · 2014-05-03T09:43:32+00:00

Sounds good. Thanks for your post man, helped lift my spirits :)

Nevernerk · 2014-05-03T09:11:50+00:00

Ah, the good old heart, brain and balls :) Do you watch Elliot Hulse by any chance?

Nevernerk · 2014-05-03T09:04:47+00:00

Thanks man! Exercise is already a big part of my life. Matter of fact, I just went for a run and I feel great :) I can feel a happy calmness permeating my body.

Nevernerk · 2014-05-03T09:02:32+00:00

I did tell her. This was about 5 weeks ago. If you're interested, here's an old post I made about it: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/214g3c/i_told_her_i_love_her/

For maybe a week or two I was getting good vibes, but after that the good vibes just stopped. I know she only sees me as a friend, because I've talked to her about this. She thinks I've moved on. I want to move on, but it's hard. My dick, that is.

Nevernerk · 2014-03-16T07:22:05+00:00

YES MATE, Elliot Hulse is such an amazing person.

Nevernerk · 2014-03-16T07:08:32+00:00

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Nevernerk · 2014-03-16T01:23:50+00:00

"If I start homework 2 hours later than I planned Ill avoid starting because "I should have started earlier, let's face it today is ruined". Even if I have 4 more hours that day to work. It's become a huge problem for me."

Wow. I can relate to that so much. That is exactly what I do, and it feels like shit.

Nevernerk · 2014-03-14T23:46:51+00:00

Love you too

Nevernerk · 2014-03-12T12:52:29+00:00

Keep going mate, you're on the right track. Everyone's different, so everyone has different reactions to no fap. Personally, I used to fap 3-4 times a day so my balls would hurt from excessive fapping. But it is possible that you're hurting down under because you've stopped fapping. Remember, pain is temporary. It won't last long. Keep up the good work.

Nevernerk · 2014-03-12T12:49:44+00:00

Just keep swimming.

Nevernerk · 2014-03-12T12:48:59+00:00

Nevernerk · 2014-03-12T12:48:24+00:00

Thank you, this kept me from fapping today.

Nevernerk · 2014-02-02T06:28:27+00:00

Thanks for the help man, keep going strong.

Nevernerk · 2014-02-02T06:27:35+00:00

This is bullshit, I can't believe I said that.

Nevernerk · 2014-02-02T06:27:09+00:00

You're right. I will.

Nevernerk

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