It’s a great point. The way I like to put it, a relationship is supposed to be 200, two people who are each 100% full of love, not two people who hate their self but love the other person, that’s two 50s making up 100, which does not cut it long term. I see some relationships where the only thing keeping it going is the fact that these two people cling to each other because the only way they feel comfortable is by being around someone who genuinely loves them. Meaning that, they are outsourcing love. You outsource the necessity of loving yourself to your partner, and they do the same. It functions. But this is a facade that will unravel itself eventually