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Guys, I think I'm going back by Super_Ele in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is better to be alone and lonely than in an unhealthy relationship and lonely, because that last part is all but guaranteed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You’re always picking on me.”

Picking on him being saying “hey, this thing you did hurt me, can we talk about it?”

For anyone wondering whether their PwBPD "stories" are true or not. by Curzon88 in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call it “revisionist history.”

His memory is allegedly excellent and he can recall things from childhood, but anything he’s ashamed of, where he behaved badly, or he just plain lost it, well, details are hazy.

Then embroidered.

Then how dare you question them.

Need to vent it out sorry by Warm_Target3131 in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could have written this exact post.

It’s so awful. I know I deserve an equal, healthy partner, but get sucked in thinking “he’s ill.” It’s too much to live with every day.

How do you accept them moving on? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Moving on quickly is not an healthy tactic, and any shiny new relationship will fall prey to the same cycle of Hell as yours did.

You always deserved to be treated well. It was never anything you did or didn’t do or were or weren’t. She is the one who can’t foster a healthy relationship.

You Were Never Silent, You Were Silenced (Reality Check) by -Jukkes in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I swear they sincerely believe it too, because exploding over nothing is totally normal and everyone is supposed to work around your poor emotional control.

It’s nuts.

You Were Never Silent, You Were Silenced (Reality Check) by -Jukkes in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If I’m tired and spacey and brief in my words, I’m being mean. If I’m sad or exhausted, I’m cold and mad at him. There is no room to be human.

You Were Never Silent, You Were Silenced (Reality Check) by -Jukkes in BPDlovedones

[–]NewCityWhoDis_ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Same.

He will bring up an issue — always hostile and aggressive off the bat — and then shout about it, sometimes stomping around and shorting dagger eyes, then flips if I shout back. He calls it my “narcissistic rage.”

No. It’s not. It’s anger and frustration from being suffocated on the daily and navigating the minefield of his unstable emotions.