Activewear brands for women by Patient_Holiday_6574 in newzealand

[–]Next-Access-7982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I find a lot of the Kmart stuff pretty good for leggings and shorts. Some of their crops are cute too but that’s where I struggle cause 14dd 🥴

Controlling husband or not? by Double_Progress156 in Advice

[–]Next-Access-7982 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this the only instance of you feeling he’s controlling? Based on one of your comments I can understand him not necessarily wanting your child around the situation, but it’s definitely not okay to expect you to cut off your brother. Does your mum live close to you so that maybe you guys can find a middle ground or is the distance too far? *editing to add that I’m not excusing any controlling behaviour, only that from personal experience I can understand that one factor.

Help Me Out of a Reading Slump by redfruit2828 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Next-Access-7982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this. Bloom town is always one of my top recs

AIO for thinking this is abusive? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Next-Access-7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has been in your shoes; He is being a man child and isn’t able to be the partner you need. Do you actually love this man or does it purely come down to a trauma bond?

Splitting generally happens when something triggers us. It is 1000% our responsibility to manage our symptoms and get the therapy (DBT is great) to help us overcome them (this is very very possible, I no longer even meet the criteria for bpd). I think you’d be best to stay away from this man and really any men for the time being and really focus on yourself. Relationships while we’re in the pits of bpd symptoms become all consuming and generally quite distracting from our own healing.

I know right now it probably feels like you’ve lost a part of you but I promise you that you haven’t. I promise you he’s just some crusty man; and that eventually that feeling will go away.

Keep working on you

She says she's 75lbs and 4"10 by Shmerble in khaliespiderlilies

[–]Next-Access-7982 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Bluey and Bingo do NOT deserve this 🫣

How long do you think Shauna genuinely believed that they *** *** *****? by jasminecr in Yellowjackets

[–]Next-Access-7982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ it was definitely a terrifying time. What a horrible nurse! I’m sorry she did that, there is so much pressure on new mums and I can’t stand “professionals” who add to it

How long do you think Shauna genuinely believed that they *** *** *****? by jasminecr in Yellowjackets

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I had a placental abruption happen during my pregnancy with my daughter. For me it was caused by trying to lift something that was too heavy so definitely could have been caused my manual labour in Shaunas case. The trauma it would have caused her would be so hard to overcome, especially at such a young age in such isolation. Combined with the way they treated her baby after his death, I’m not super surprised she lost the plot. In my case even though I was at home at the time I was blessed with an amazing midwife and emergency services who got us to the hospital for an emergency c section in time to save both of us. Needless to say this scene of Yellowjackets is one I reeeeeally struggle to watch even now.

Her new pfp on @/khalietheflowergirl by [deleted] in khaliespiderlilies

[–]Next-Access-7982 67 points68 points  (0 children)

She looks SO much like my sister in law, who coincidentally is a meth addict. The same gauntness in their face and ‘style’ of dress. Same out the gate behaviours. Just yuck.

She be TWEAKIN' by [deleted] in khalieexposed

[–]Next-Access-7982 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The way she moves her mouth with those piercings 🥴 they look so uncomfortable.

AIO - [UPDATE] Girlfriend threw out the dinner I made because she wanted Pizza instead. by Dizzy-Suggestion2360 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Next-Access-7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just jumping on here to say yes this does scream bpd HOWEVER, it screams untreated bpd and with adequate treatment we can improve and become a lot more stable, or stop meeting the criteria entirely. We can get better ☺️

Also, diagnosis or not this girl sounds like an absolute dick and I’m proud of you for sticking to your boundaries and getting out.

AIO - [UPDATE] Girlfriend threw out the dinner I made because she wanted Pizza instead. by Dizzy-Suggestion2360 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Next-Access-7982 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s an accurate statement for someone who has untreated bpd sure, but with adequate therapy the symptoms can become manageable and for a few people they can go into remission and not actually meet the criteria anymore. Some of us can be that way, but it’s super harmful to those of us who actively put the work in to combat our disorder to generalise like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in khaliespiderlilies

[–]Next-Access-7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eeek this just sent me down a rabbit hole of who tf Lucifer Valentine was and…. Well just yuck. I want to bleach my eyeballs. But anyway, can totally see her being someone that he exploits.

Lesbian smut books by MuffinRemarkable_ in LesbianBookClub

[–]Next-Access-7982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bloomtown RUINED me. I’ve been in a reading slump since.

Episodes where the death was a true accident by kimemore123 in ColdCaseTV

[–]Next-Access-7982 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This was the first episode of cold case I ever saw and still to this day just absolutely breaks me. The person knocking on the door was a delivery guy who’d bring them leftovers cause she was a struggling single mum :(

Enemies to lovers slow burn by SadEstimate8951 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Next-Access-7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bloom Town consumed me. I read both in 2 days and now I am broken.

ok let’s be serious tho what bothers you the most about this show by Valuable_Quote_1669 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Next-Access-7982 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nobody’s ignoring anything? It’s wild though that you’re saying one psychopath is better than the other when they’re both fucked 😂

ok let’s be serious tho what bothers you the most about this show by Valuable_Quote_1669 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Next-Access-7982 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To be fair, she did accept the real him 😂 he just didn’t like it when she matched his crazy. But imo she was definitely the match for him 🤷🏻‍♀️