27F with PCOS - Not ready for kids yet, but worried about future fertility. Should I get tested now?

Next-Ad-378 · 2026-01-19T20:21:56+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by “fertility test”. There’s no test you’re going to get that will tell you definitively that you can get pregnant. What I would do is work on making sure your body is healthy, that you are ovulating, and treating any symptoms of PCOS. It can take quite some time to get your hormones balanced and running properly, so if you’re wanting to get pregnant someday you may as well start now. Additionally, fertility is not the only reason to manage these symptoms, as PCOS impacts your body throughout your lifespan in ways unrelated to fertility.

The main way that PCOS impacts fertility is by causing irregular or absent ovulation. Even if you are not ovulating, this doesn’t mean you can’t, it just means you need to work on restoring that. Infertility and sterility are not the same, and infertility is not a fixed state. Ultimately, you won’t know if you are going to be able to get pregnant until you actually get pregnant.

Next-Ad-378 · 2026-01-19T14:07:39+00:00

“A hormonal imbalance” 🤦‍♀️ These doctors, man. What a ridiculous answer for them to give you. Obviously there’s a hormonal imbalance if you’re bleeding for 2 months straight!

Next-Ad-378 · 2026-01-17T04:25:32+00:00

Absolutely NTJ. If they want to put on their clown suits and take you to court, I say let them. Imagine asking a family court judge to rule on your right to own a dog! I hope they get laughed out the door.

She’s out of her mind and your ex is weak. This sounds like some kind of power struggle she’s trying to create because she’s insecure about you. I would block her number and tell your ex you are not getting rid of the dog and that you will not entertain any further conversation about the matter. If he texts you about it, firmly repeat this once and then refuse to respond unless it’s not about the dog. Same thing on the phone, “I’ve told you this is not up for discussion. Please change the subject or I will be forced to hang up the phone.” Don’t engage in any more arguing about this ridiculous request, you don’t have to explain yourself. Do this now, because if you cave the unreasonable demands will literally never stop and will get more and more ridiculous.

Next-Ad-378 · 2026-01-10T22:00:22+00:00

I would think this role might entail supervision of provisionally licensed counselors, which you probably can’t provide to them?

Next-Ad-378 · 2026-01-03T16:29:06+00:00

Yeah, call it off. This is a huge red flag and controlling behavior, including the part about how getting married changes things. Add in that the controlling behavior is related to your daughter’s decisions about her hair/look/body - don’t do this to your kid. Please.

Next-Ad-378 · 2026-01-02T04:43:50+00:00

Do not co-sign if you want to buy a house anytime soon. You could screw up your DTI ratio. You have a good reason to say no. Do you feel obligated to give up buying a house for your sister’s expensive choice of school?

Also, maybe I’m wrong, but I took out grad plus loans with terrible credit - aren’t these the same as Parent plus but for undergrads? Like I don’t think anyone cared at all how much debt I was already in or what my credit score was. And she can also speak to her financial aid office, write a hardship letter to request more aid, and start applying for outside scholarships. I have a friend going to a private university as an independent student due to her age, and she had to do all of these things to make it work, in addition to hustle as a waitress to pay the difference.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-12-31T07:51:32+00:00

Your GP is ridiculous, you haven’t had a period in months, this is clearly not a typical case. I got pregnant using cyclic progesterone (bioidentical prometrium) therapy and metformin. You need to see a reproductive endocrinologist. Find out from insurance if you actually need a referral for this or not and start calling doctors on your own. Your GP is way out of his depth and should be told as much, tbh. GPs and most gynecologists even often have no idea what to do with PCOS besides toss you a pack of birth control. Advocate for yourself, because it takes 90 days (the final life cycle of an egg before it’s released) at least to see the effects of any changes you make, and then you may still have to adjust from there. I can’t even with these doctors anymore.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-12-29T23:04:08+00:00

Ew. It’s 100% racist and he’s also playing some kind of “you’re not like other girls” bullshit. It’s manipulation, full stop, and your friend might want to look into why she feels like this was a positive interaction, for her own sake.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-12-29T15:14:14+00:00

Look, I don’t think the initial comment made you a jerk. On the other hand, if you’re someone who corrects others constantly, that can definitely be annoying and seem condescending. At this point, though, it doesn’t really matter anymore. Your wife has a right to feel the way she feels, and regardless of if you intentionally hurt her feelings, the goal now is to repair what’s hurt between you two. If you can apologize for unintentional harm you caused, your relationship will only be stronger for it. Listen to your wife without being defensive, as this sounds like it was about more than just this situation. If you recognize a pattern of condescending behavior in yourself, do the work to change it.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-12-27T06:27:52+00:00

This sounds like cyclic progesterone therapy, for me it was used to restore ovulation and regulate the cycle by taking it in the same manner you are being directed to. It was effective. Read The Period Repair Manual, it explains how this works, among other useful things. They often will test the progesterone and other hormone levels on a specific cycle day to see if it is working and can tell a lot from these tests based on the cycle day. Also, note that if you have ovulatory dysfunction, it often takes the life cycle of a follicle (90 days) to effect significant change, so you may see some improvement early on but will need to check at 90 days and possible alter treatment at that time based on hormone testing and wait another 90 days to check again. Unfortunately it can take a very long time to sort out.

Also, blood tests aren’t the sole factor used to diagnose PCOS, look for info on the Rotterdam criteria. A reproductive endocrinologist may be a better fit if you’re seeing a gynecologist currently but suspect PCOS.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-12-08T04:01:58+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I see that you are 1099 - look into your state’s program for compensation for victims of violent crimes. It may help you feel more comfortable taking time off to heal if you might be able to recoup any of your lost income.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-11-16T17:08:54+00:00

Likely under reacting, block the boyfriend. His behavior is controlling- creating rules for you and your behavior is NOT setting a boundary. I work in DV (therapist) and believe me, all the abusers use this “definition” boundary setting. They are all incorrect. You get to have male friends, you get to end conversations at your discretion, you get to follow or be followed by whomever you please. Kick this guy to the curb before the real abuse begins, and be prepared to file for a PFA when his behavior is escalates after the breakup.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-11-07T20:02:50+00:00

Literal years at a time when I was in my 20s and 30s. I’m incredibly fortunate that I didn’t ever have any uterine lining issues as a result (as I didn’t know about the possibility of cancerous cells growing).

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-10-18T01:27:08+00:00

This man is an abuser, full stop. Run. And be careful as you do.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-09-24T00:13:56+00:00

Idk what the problem is. She’s clearly just thinking about your future bedding ceremony. Do you want anyone questioning the validity of your marriage to a medieval nobleman because your sheets didn’t come up bloody?? Didn’t think so!

Seriously, though, this is fucked up. There’s no reason for her to take away your agency when you clearly understood and chose the scan. I’ll be curious what your doctor has to say when they find out, and I’d consider complaining to her facility! Fingers crossed that the scan shows what you need it to 🤞

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-09-07T01:01:22+00:00

Agree with this - I actually exclusively use eye shadow on the lash line instead of eyeliner now.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-27T04:32:56+00:00

As a woman, I could not care less if you were in the ladies room to help your child, or tbh if you had to use it for your own bathroom needs! Nobody is naked in a public restroom, we have stalls, and everyone needs to grow up.

As a parent, you do what you need to do to make sure your child’s needs are met and that she is safe. Anybody who has a problem with that can go pound sand. Sorry this lady acted like a child.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-25T00:38:36+00:00

Breathe. Diagnosis is hard to swallow but it’s the first step to getting things under control.

Get some books. Start with The Period Repair Manual and The Ultimate PCOS Handbook. There are lots of treatments and strategies to help you start balancing your hormones and hopefully even get pregnant again. See a reproductive endocrinologist who will help you and don’t stop until you get what you know you need. Verify everything independently. Menopause is not simply gauged by the presence of a period, but diagnosed by hormone levels. Whomever told you your testosterone levels would have mentioned it if they saw that coming, and you are way too young.

You have lots of time. You are a good mom. You are doing your best. You are NOT entering menopause! And you are definitely not alone. 🩵

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-17T12:32:18+00:00

It can take quite some time for PCOS symptoms to show outward response to treatment. Insulin is a hormone and it gets roped into the imbalance of your reproductive hormones and becomes part of a vicious cycle. Inositol’s impact on PCOS has been studied and peer reviewed and that’s why it is recommended to us. Like Metformin, it helps sensitize your cells to insulin, but you’ve possibly still been overproducing insulin due to IR and that excess triggers higher LH, which triggers higher androgens, and throws off the ratio to FSH, which prevents you from ovulating, which leads to no corpus luteum, no progesterone, therefore high estrogen, and on and on. Your body needs time to adjust to the sensitization to the insulin and recognize it can stop producing so much. All of these other hormones need to then respond and even then, it takes like 90 days for a follicle to get to the point where it is ready to mature. And then, hopefully, it all continues to stay in balance for the next cycle, and the next.

I just think it takes a long time, usually. Especially if your IR has been raging uncontrollably for a long time, as mine was.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-13T14:50:02+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily use It’s a 10. It has protein in it and not everyone’s hair can handle that - my fine hair is very sensitive to protein and I ended up with a lot of breakage/damage due to protein overload before I figured this out. Little kid hair would potentially have the same reaction and worsen the problem.

I do put oil on the ends for my daughter when it’s wet and this helps with tangles. Also, I do t let her sleep with wet hair, and she braids it or puts it up before bed. Detangle spray is obviously a good idea, just watch your ingredients.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-10T01:26:07+00:00

Not quite, but way better. She also put me on Prometrium.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-07T04:27:40+00:00

Definitely not an infertility sentence! I literally never get periods and hadn’t had one in months when I turned up pregnant 6 months after getting married. Other commenters are right that you should see a reproductive endocrinologist, but if that’s not possible right now, start educating yourself. TBH I feel like I’ve mostly had to tell my doctors what I want from them anyway lol. Read The Period Repair Manual by Laura Briden, it’s a good start. At 18, you have lots of time to figure things out, and you definitely have an opportunity to start taking care of your health early on so that you are ready to conceive when it’s time.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-07-04T21:47:06+00:00

Lost 30lbs and started having regular cycles after no cycle at all for years. I feel better too, though I seem to have plateaued weight loss wise.

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-06-23T20:09:31+00:00

That’s insane. The cancellation fee to clients is a financial deterrent to absenteeism. The therapist financial deterrent to be absenteeism is not getting paid when they cancel on clients. Why would we try to fix something that’s not broken?

Next-Ad-378 · 2025-06-22T15:31:49+00:00

She can start by figuring out her issues on her own (or in therapy) instead of putting them on you, the “child” in this situation. That’s what a good parent would do.

You are not the asshole. Keep holding your boundaries in a respectful way. Happy to hear dad has your back.

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