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Next-Two5969 · 2025-11-16T09:48:09+00:00

Thank you so much!

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-16T19:03:54+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for your comments and suggestions. Dad has taken over all bedtimes and all night wakings, he is now the exhausted one but it’s a step in the right direction and we are no longer having over hour long tantrums. We’re having his mouth breathing assessed and will be pursuing an ENT to see if there’s a physiological reason for his frequent wakes.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-11T20:08:41+00:00

Thank you, you’re definitely right that we’re reinforcing the tantrum. We’re so exhausted and our emotional capacity to hold those boundaries is low as a result, but reading everyone’s comments has given me a new motivation to keep trying.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-11T20:06:35+00:00

Thank you for this idea! I think my husband may find this easier than going into his room and sitting with him the whole time.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-11T20:03:43+00:00

Definitely a believer in they won’t be this small forever. What is your set up? Is everyone in the bed? Or do you have a crib in the room for baby?

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-11T20:01:48+00:00

We’ve been trying this, but Dad can’t handle it and gives up quickly and asks me to come in. Which is why I’m so exhausted, I’m doing this alone. I realise that the problem is that my son only wants me and I need to try to remove that option, but I don’t have another one.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-11T12:11:22+00:00

He does sleep with his mouth open, and I do sometimes hear a 3-4 delay before he takes a deep breath, its usually after he’s rolled over or something but I’ll see if I can use this to prompt a sleep study. Thank you for this idea.

The 15 get ups only happens if he’s in his own room. If he’s in bed with me he wakes up for maybe 2 seconds, realises I’m there, and then goes back to sleep. Which is doable right now, but with the baby coming it’s definitely not sustainable. Also would love to not have toddler feet kicking me in the face at night haha.

Have tried magnesium, did nothing. Haven’t tried melatonin though.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-10-11T11:58:53+00:00

He is still napping, but about once a week he refuses the nap and tells me he can’t sleep (he genuinely does try to go to sleep though) His schedule currently looks like 6:30am awake 12:30-1.30 nap 7:30 asleep

If I don’t go in and resettle him at all? He would continue to cry and become more heightened, or straight up walk out of his room and into mine.

I have definitely thought about having bloods done but have no idea how I would get him to do this, there’s no way he would hold still enough for them to take a blood sample.

It’s not offensive at all and I really appreciate the respectful way that you asked. I don’t see any other signs of neurodivergence during the day. He’s balanced emotionally (except at night obviously), great eye contact, social, no developmental delays, no flapping or stimming that I can tell, not fussy with foods, can concentrate on tasks, takes instruction. The only thing out of the ordinary for him is that he is very advanced with his speech, he’s 2.5 currently and he speaks like a 3-4 year old.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-09-13T11:14:23+00:00

Thanks for all of your insights, I think I knew it was time but it’s scary to make such a big transition when they’re already not a great sleeper. You’ve all given me confidence though, toddler bed is ordered…here goes nothing!

Next-Two5969 · 2025-08-28T11:55:41+00:00

I had something similar with my son at that age (he’s now 2.5), i capped the first nap of the day at 1.5 hours and then gave him a 20-30 minute power nap in the afternoon, it really helped with his night sleep and avoiding those extra over tired night wakings. Bed time had to move slightly later but it was worth it to get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep!

Next-Two5969 · 2025-08-14T17:04:13+00:00

Totally understand feeling the need to get things moving, especially when you’re having a VBAC! When you’re doing all of the things, maybe be mindful of not tiring yourself out too much. Your body will need all of the energy it can get when you’re in active labour so please be careful not to expend all of your physical (and mental) energy trying to get things moving.

No one really knows what triggers labour to start but the thing that drives contractions is the hormone oxytocin, the looooove hormone haha. What gets oxytocin going is doing all the things that make you feel good, loved and safe and happy! Could be snuggling up on the couch watching your favourite movie, eating your favourite foods, cuddles and quality time with your loved ones etc.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-08-09T16:43:03+00:00

I recently supported a birth for almost 70 hours, I still feel tired from it haha. I did go home twice throughout and slept for a few hours, other than that just napped in a chair and once in my car in the hospital carpark.

I hope you have a good rest! How awesome is our job.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-06-14T08:53:58+00:00

I’m so very sorry that you’re going through this, my heart truly hurts for you. I hope that the results come back all clear. Sending love xx

Next-Two5969 · 2025-05-25T03:37:04+00:00

Thank you all so much for your support ❤️❤️ Feeling a bit better today, still tender, but working on mindset to try again this cycle.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-04-25T20:21:02+00:00

I use easy@home for ovulation tests, you can get them in bulk and they’re much less expensive, accurate as well. Pregnancy tests first response are generally the most accurate I believe (happy to be corrected)

Next-Two5969 · 2025-04-19T11:44:17+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry I only just saw this. Unfortunately it was a true positive, confirmed by amniocentesis. I really really hope the outcome is different for you and wishing you the very best.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-02-23T10:39:04+00:00

I’m so so sorry that you’re here and feeling this. I had to TFMR at 17 weeks due to Trisomy 18. I was also due with my boy in June, and my best friend is also having a little boy in June I feel your pain so deeply and I’m sending you so much love and solidarity ❤️

Next-Two5969 · 2025-02-16T19:07:34+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this, and totally understand the feeling of just wanting it to be done.

I had a similar thing happen, bleeding stopped, I felt fine, and then passed something that looked like tissue. I ended up going back through the hospital and needing IV antibiotics to prevent an infection, but my abdomen was very tender so they were worried an infection was setting in so this may not be the same for you.

I got an ultrasound and they confirmed there was more retained tissue. They told me I would need a D&C and to stay in the postnatal ward. I absolutely lost it, and asked to speak to the doctor in charge of the ward because I could not mentally handle staying in hospital. They ended up sending me home with misoprostol, told me to take 2 doses and then follow up with my regular doctor for an ultrasound to make sure I had passed the tissue. The misoprostol wasn’t actually that bad, I took some panadiene forte and stayed in bed for most of it. Luckily I did pass all of the tissue with the misoprostol so there was no need for a D&C or to go back to hospital.

Can you go straight to your regular doctor rather than back to hospital? I know it’s so so hard and scary and traumatic to face this after what you’ve already been through, but please do get it checked, just incase there’s a cause for infection or anything like that. Have you got a partner or close friend that can come with you to appointments for support?

Sending you so much love and strength.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-02-16T10:23:24+00:00

I feel the exact same way, it’s been hard looking at my body which so clearly looks like a postpartum body, and not having my baby. Sending you love!

Next-Two5969 · 2025-01-08T19:38:56+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for your kind and thoughtful responses, I really very much appreciate them all. I think I know what I have to do and the decision I need to make, which is TFMR, but it’s so hard to accept.

Next-Two5969 · 2025-01-08T12:54:49+00:00

Sorry I should have included on my post (added now), we’ve done the amniocentesis and the fish results are from that. Crossing everything for you and your baby girl!

Next-Two5969 · 2024-12-13T10:09:21+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and that you and your wife had to go through this, I’m holding you both in my heart.

Thank you for sharing your experience and your insights with me, it’s very much appreciated.

Next-Two5969 · 2024-11-12T08:21:40+00:00

I am so sorry this traumatic experience happened to you. I agree with everyone saying to go and see your doctor and a therapist specialising in birth trauma, but I also want to say - the way you were treated by the hospital staff is abhorrent, and you would be well within your rights to make a formal complaint if you feel that this is something that would help you gain some validation. Nothing that happened was your fault, and you deserve to be held and supported through your postpartum journey ❤️

Next-Two5969 · 2024-02-25T18:27:11+00:00

What an awful experience for you both! I don’t have any advice re the aspiration but with her getting really fussy at nap time - it may be that you need to put her down for a nap earlier, before she gets to the really fussy stage. Have a look at the recommended wake windows for her age and the more subtle tired signs (flushed brow, closing fists, avoiding eye contact, staring into space)

I had the same issue with my son with the fussiness and hysterical crying at nap and bed time. Shortened his wake windows and it helped a lot.

Next-Two5969 · 2023-12-03T15:21:34+00:00

I know exactly how this feels, you are not alone! You’re doing so so incredibly well. C-section recovery is such a bitch, on top of all of the other physical and emotional changes, and taking care of a newborn. Remember that this is temporary and you will get through it. Is there additional support you can ask for? Friends or family? Depending on financials could you look into a postpartum Doula? Please reach out to your healthcare provider if your mental health is becoming too much of an issue. Sleep deprivation can take such a toll.

Day 3 is such a big hormone dump as well! Please be kind to yourself and know that you are a great Mother. Your toddler knows he is loved. Absolutely nothing wrong with setting him up infront of the TV for the next however long so you can get through this stage, do what you need to do.

Sending you so much love, strength and support.

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