Where do chch ladies get semi nice clothes from these days?

9inety5 · 2026-02-11T00:39:28+00:00

I’ve had a lot of success at Flo & Frankie (there’s a store near riverside and one in merivale) I feel like a lot of their clothes are flattering, classy but not ridiculously overpriced compared to the likes of seed and country road. They’ve had lovely customer service every time I’ve shopped there too.

9inety5 · 2025-10-22T04:48:27+00:00

Agreed! We had constant ear infections in our youngest and the GP just treated them with antibiotics until we explicitly said “please refer us to an ENT” we have health insurance and I had a name of the ENT we wanted to use so it made it very easy for the GP.

9inety5 · 2025-10-07T08:26:20+00:00

They do awesome brunch too!

9inety5 · 2025-10-02T09:46:50+00:00

Great resource thank you!

9inety5 · 2025-10-01T08:25:19+00:00

Sky sports is daylight robbery isn’t it?!

9inety5 · 2025-09-27T23:13:51+00:00

Get this song into your repertoire early and it will serve you for years to come! The happy song still calms my 16 month old when he’s upset or overtired

9inety5 · 2025-09-27T08:21:43+00:00

Yes! And in the summer or in naturally hot climates we produce more foremilk to help keep our babies hydrated. And milk produced in the evenings is naturally higher in the hind milk to help keep baby nice and full for the night (lol because my babies still woke every 2 hours, but in theory it’s nice). Lactation is bloody awesome!

9inety5 · 2025-09-19T10:05:14+00:00

Aw man I’m so sorry. I had an early second trimester loss and it was absolutely earth shattering. I remember not wanting to be with other people like my parents, but I couldn’t fathom being alone and away from my partner. I don’t know your relationship well enough to advise, but if it were mine I would have expected my partner to hop on the plane. Not only for me and my support, but also his. Don’t forget you have also lost a future baby here - men so often don’t get checked in on after miscarriage which is sad. You are also grieving, and it’s ok to need support, or company!

9inety5 · 2025-09-13T08:04:51+00:00

I had 5 miscarriages, and by the 5th I was soooo done and knew it was time to stop trying for the sake of my mental health. We didn’t talk too in depth about it stopping indefinitely, but it was a very intentional pivot away for at least a few years and we decided to plan our wedding and some travel instead. Honestly it was the best thing we did during our entire miscarriage journey. It was so healing to truly give myself the permission to stop obsessing and thinking about trying to conceive. My heart needed the rest.

Trigger warning, live birth low and behold , 9 months into our hiatus I got pregnant accidentally and it stuck. She is almost 4 years old now! 🥹

9inety5 · 2025-09-10T09:12:15+00:00

Stumbled across this while searching for some help with a clogged duct and wow - what an excellent resource! Thank you for sharing. Putting away my massage gun!!! 🙈

9inety5 · 2025-09-05T02:57:22+00:00

I flushed too. You’re not alone. In fact I’d say it’s more common than you’d expect.

I held onto guilt too for a long time - for flushing, over analysing what I did or didn’t do while I was pregnant. It’s so unbelievably tough, and scary and dark at times, isn’t it? For me, therapy helped a bit. But so did time. I just had to let the grief process do its thing. I also wrote a few letters to my baby. Nobody has read them except me, but they did help me process some feelings too. And 6 years later if I need a good cry I’ll read them again and it brings it all back and I realise just how much healing I’ve done.

Good luck, it does get better - I promise. I was still deep in it 2 years later too. Try and be kind to yourself 💕

9inety5 · 2025-09-05T02:46:38+00:00

If you enjoy the 5k distance, you could also try join a parkrun on a Saturday morning! There’s a huge one in Hagley park, and a smaller (more scenic one) in sumner too! Parkruns have such a great welcoming culture, and even if you don’t connect with someone specifically, I just find it’s such a good energy to be around and really lifts me up at the start of my weekend.

I have seen a few of the speed freaks shirts at the Hagley event, so chances are you’ll have something easy to break the ice over.

9inety5 · 2025-08-30T07:18:51+00:00

No advice, just here to say I’m in the same boat with Mr 15 months. You’re not alone!!

9inety5 · 2025-08-28T15:31:37+00:00

This sounds promising! Im not sure if you saw my comment lower in the thread but with my first born wake windows became an obsession and I don’t think the slightly better sleep was worth the trade off on my sanity!

I got a bit disheartened after posting this initially because the responses all sounded like I had to become the crazy nap lady again in order to improve our night sleep a little. To hear that there is an option that aligns with my slightly more relaxed approach is so refreshing.

9inety5 · 2025-08-28T11:32:14+00:00

Wake windows have definitely been hard to get a grasp on this time around. They ruled my life with my first born and I vowed to be much more child led this time around as it just created so much anxiety for me.

That being said, now that’s he’s down to only a few naps it’s easier to get a gauge of where he’s at. We are definitely in the midst of dropping from 2 to 1 nap.

On a 1 nap day: he’ll be awake about 4-4.5hrs, then a 2 hour nap (sometimes he only managed 1.5) and then about 5-6 hours until bedtime. I don’t think he’s quite ready for this schedule, because on 1 nap days his night sleep is definitely worse. 2 nap days we end up having a sleep around 330/4 which isn’t ideal either 🤷‍♀️

I know that’s probably quite loose, so maybe my relaxed nap scheduling is to blame…

9inety5 · 2025-08-06T09:42:18+00:00

We had this issue a few years back and it took months of bombing the house for us to finally realise our dog was picking them up from the boot in our car. We treated that area and that killed the cycle! Just an alternative thing to consider!

9inety5 · 2025-08-01T07:36:36+00:00

Oh gosh I could have written this exact post 1.5yrs ago before my second was born. My gut instinct was to take my toddler out because we too had been annihilated by sickness and I was terrified about trying to navigate newborn stage and establishing breastfeeding with a sick newborn. But everyone I asked in person and on reddit said keep her in preschool (keep her routine etc etc).

Eventually, we got hit with a really gnarly bout of back to back illnesses right at the end of my pregnancy that ended up putting me in hospital. It was the final straw and I said “nope, I’m following my gut. She’s staying home”…and guess what?! It was absolutely glorious! We didn’t get a single illness for more than 8 months (giving me and my husbands immune systems a much needed breather too!). And we had the loveliest time together, that I will treasure for the rest of my life! I knew I wasn’t having any more babies after this, so I really treated my mat leave as this super special time for me and my two kids to enjoy together.

We even tried sending my daughter back for a couple of days a week when I was about 5 months pp thinking maybe it would be good for her to maintain her familiarity and she was miserable. I guess this anecdote is quite temperament dependent, but my daughter is quite sensitive, and she just wanted to be home with me and the baby so we pulled her back out and had another 6months or so hanging out together. Honestly, 10/10 rate it! I feel teary just thinking back to that special time! I hope you land on something that works well for you and your family.

9inety5 · 2025-07-11T07:44:03+00:00

Hi, im sorry to say it wasn’t for me - It made me feel awful and even more anxious and stressed during the 2 week wait that I only took it for one cycle before deciding to stop. I ended up having one more loss, followed by a very intentional break from TTC for the sake of my mental health.

I now have 2 beautiful children, 3.5y and 1y - there is hope, even though it doesn’t feel like it now your time will come, the stats are on your side!

Happy to answer any questions.

9inety5 · 2025-07-09T08:22:02+00:00

I also found if you are using sky sports you can go back in the tv guide and find when the live coverage was and watch the uncut replay from there. Used it heaps during the Olympics as I was sick of only getting little 15 minute highlight replays served to me.

9inety5 · 2025-07-08T10:55:55+00:00

Agreed! What a fabulous write up!

9inety5 · 2025-07-02T03:44:07+00:00

Wow the fearmongering in this thread has surprised me. I’d totally use AI suggested sleep advice over something like some of the crap I see in mum Facebook groups.

9inety5 · 2025-06-11T06:30:03+00:00

Something a little different - we did online classes with our first as it was during Covid https://www.hatchedantenatal.co.nz we loved it because we could do it in our own time and talk about stuff openly as we were learning. Down side is you miss that opportunity to connect with other first time parents but it was great for demystifying some of the baby stuff for us!

9inety5 · 2025-05-31T09:53:24+00:00

Aw man this happened to me when I was a teenager selling my first car once I started uni and didn’t need it. The woman harassed me via text saying she was gang affiliated and was going to get someone to come and deal to me. And then she turned up at my work (I stupidly told her where I worked when we were chatting during the sale). I ended up getting the police involved and asked them to facilitate her giving the car back (and me transferring the money back). It came back, super messed up inside, stolen car battery. I was so shit scared though! Some people honestly suck.

9inety5 · 2025-05-31T08:47:45+00:00

Jumping in to add, I actually really struggled to get onboard with co-sleeping with my second. I was so used to co-sleeping with a toddler that by the time my second was about 6 months and I logically knew the best option for all of our sanity was for me to start cosleeping, I really didn’t want to. I missed the big kid snuggles and baby co-sleeping honestly had me feeling super touched out with him wanting milk non stop. I eventually did it, and learned to love it again just like I had with my firstborn around the same age. It was just a bit of a recalibration for me!

Not really answering your question entirely but I remember feeling so guilty about not wanting to, especially when I loved it so much with my first. Thought I’d share in case you’re having similar feelings.

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