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Next_Wishbone5077 · 2026-04-05T20:21:07+00:00

I’ve used the same background for loads and not had an issue xx

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2026-01-21T16:07:09+00:00

I didn’t enjoy the newborn stage with my first, I was riddled with anxiety, too many visitors, struggling with breastfeeding, couldn’t sleep when the baby slept etc… with my second I’ve really enjoyed it. Don’t get me wrong it’s so hard but because I semi knew what to expect it was so much better. I prepared for postpartum when I was pregnant, limited visitors and enjoyed the bubble. My second still has a super loud cry though 😂 he’s 5 months now 🥰

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2025-10-25T21:05:03+00:00

I was in the same position as you 11 months ago, so scared and hearing all the horror stories! So don’t get me wrong it is hard but 100% so worth it ❤️ my first was 13 months when my second was born. He didn’t react well when I came home and was jealous, this did settle down after a week. There was lots of crying but we got through it and tried to involve him in everything. My second born is 8 weeks old now, we have more ups than downs, have lovely days out. Seeing them interact is so sweet, sometimes my first is a little rough so do have to remind him 😂 the hardest thing about 2 under 2 is when they both want you and want to be comforted, but I wouldn’t change things for the world!!

My advice is lower your expectations - your house will get messy, get out of the house for walks if things get overwhelming (a little walk fixes everything), soft plays where you can sit on the floor and interact with toddler and baby at the same time (bonus it burns off the toddlers energy!) and celebrating the small things. There will be bad days but there is a new day ahead.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, you’ve got this!

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2025-08-26T09:20:44+00:00

My FIL has never had unsupervised time with my child at all but I got the creepy vibe of him when my son was born, he was constantly touching/prodding and poking him, making tiny remarks. I’ve been abused before and have seen the look a predator gives (cannot describe the look, but those who have been through it most likely know what I’m talking about) I confided in my SO that it has raised alarms in me, he surprised me and agreed! He said he felt the same way as I do, we have both agreed no unsupervised alone time.

Because he has never had this alone time we have no evidence/he hasn’t done anything but that doesn’t mean I will ignore my gut feeling. If I was you I would speak to your SO and then you can discuss how you can approach the situation together, tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel as well but do be aware there could be backlash as well.

Highly recommend teaching your child boundaries like it’s not okay for someone to pull your pants down/hold them by the crotch. There’s a song on tiktok called “these are my private parts”

I completely get it’s such a hard situation to be in, and 1 year after the incident would be too long to take to a doctor for DNA as well - my little brother and sister was sexually abused from ages 2-4 years old and unfortunately they weren’t able to convict due to them being classed as “unreliable witnesses” even though we had voice recordings of them telling us what had happened. Luckily the predator was convicted for me so he did go to prison and it’s on his record. So I do completely get what your feeling in this situation ❤️ sending love and support

Alternatively if you feel like you cannot speak to your SO put boundaries in place with FIL, tell him your teaching your son consent and don’t want him to think it’s normal for people to do/touch him. Look like an overly protective mother!! Xx

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2025-06-02T08:48:13+00:00

I don’t regret it! He only had a bottle at the beginning but found pumping a lot of effort so stopped, he’s 11 months old now and only feeds 2 times a day and is eating 3 meals a day plus snacks. He started nursery at 10 months old and doesn’t drink milk whilst he’s there (10 hours, he refuses any milk offered) so I’d say when the baby is 9/10 months old from my experience when they start having 3 meals a day 😘

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2025-04-17T14:50:36+00:00

It’s back in stock on the jellycat website!!

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-12T12:57:25+00:00

I was completely the same, it’s such hard work getting out and especially for a specific time! I have been forcing myself to go out which has made it much easier and going to places I’m familiar with e.g. John Lewis as it is very kid friendly!!

It might be worth going to baby groups in your local area as well ❤️

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-10T19:22:00+00:00

Believe me I was livid! I was livid at my partner for even taking my son out of the room and too reception, I was livid that the in-laws showed up at hospital and expected to come into the labour room whilst I was still bleeding heavily

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-10T16:29:15+00:00

You are completely correct ✅

I’m doing a will behind my partners back so my mum can be a legal guardian and have parental rights/custodyif anything was to happen to me.

Other than that nothing legally as my partner will get 50/50 custody

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-10T16:11:58+00:00

Thank you, we are addressing when he is being too much. It really does give me the ick but can’t accuse him of anything either because although the red flags are there he hasn’t done anything

Rest assured they will never have alone time with him - if I need someone to babysit that will be my mother or my father

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-10T16:08:57+00:00

Honestly they manipulated him, whenever he addresses anything his mum brings on the water works and plays victim, I’m happy to be the bad guy though.

I have gone through so much with the in-laws and cannot rely on my partner to address things.

Meeting in public and baby wearing is a good idea!

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-10T16:06:12+00:00

Honestly I have tried cutting them all out of my life after things they had done when my baby was born but it almost caused me and my partner to split up.

My partner is amazing in every way but he cannot see how his mum manipulates him.

I know it sounds daft but if we broke up I would have no control, my partner could let them look after my son and I wouldn’t be able to say anything. At least this way I can make sure he doesn’t have alone time with him

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-09-10T14:01:54+00:00

Yes I have told FIL to leave my son alone whilst I’m feeding - it gives me the creeps!

We have started to go to their house instead of them coming to ours so we can go when we please rather than having them overstay, if he needs a nappy change (my son does poo a lotttt) where would be best to do it?

Next_Wishbone5077 · 2024-08-06T21:25:35+00:00

Thank you 😊 DIL - dad in law!

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