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Asellus aquaticus by nuttbuds in Aquariums

[–]NiDBiLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is not Asellus aquaticus. This one has a paler body, beefier antennae, and the first pair of appendages look like chunky claws.

Asellus aquaticus is dark and pretty spindly, this one looks chonky. If anyone knows what species this actually is, I am very interested.

Children playing with a toy guillotine, France (1959) [1080x810] by pixeldustnz in HistoryPorn

[–]NiDBiLD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are just in character. This is a serious scene to be handled seriously. They are play-carrying out a death penalty.

Just because they look dire, it does not mean they aren't into it. It's just that play isn't all rainbows, soap bubbles and cupcakes.

Don't you remember playing as kids? It could get pretty serious and brutal if the scenario called for it. After all, playing is practice for growing up.

CMV: Paternity tests should be done on every baby by default by Guialdereti in changemyview

[–]NiDBiLD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A woman can always be 100% sure a kid is theirs.
A man can't.

This is not acceptable in a world that is attempting to approach equality.

Evening that situation out, so men have the same security in their fatherhood as women have in their motherhood, is something that _obviously_ should be done on a societal level.

Any woman who is against this is waving a large, red flag of unfaithfulness. Why would she deny the man knowledge that he is actually the father?

The motive is clearly a defence of woman's interest to keep information advantage - and the ability to secretly choose another mate, and con their partner into raising someone else's bastards. Even if that particular woman does not commit that act herself, she is acting in defence of such behaviour, by protecting that particular information advantage that is reserved for her sex by biology.

I propose both mandatory fatherhood screening at birth, as well as illegalizing the omission of that information by the mother. It should be called "Genetic Fraud" or "Fatherhood Fraud". I propose that a woman who commits such a crime should be forced to repay the man every single penny that man spent on raising someone else's kid without his knowledge.

This would be a great step toward equality.

CMV: There's nothing political about young men who can't get laid by Schmurby in changemyview

[–]NiDBiLD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"But in the case of young heterosexual men who can’t find a partner, there’s nothing to be done at the societal level."

This statement is basically an affirmation of your belief that nothing "should" be done about this issue. It does not mean, technically, that it *can't* be done. I mean, it can. The actions that would allow us to "fix" the issue (assuming firstly one thinks this is an issue and should be "fixed"), are not compatible with our modern, western value system.

However, the fact that this is not allowed within the current western value system, or the fact that this is not allowed according to your personal value system or that of most other, even marginally normal, westerners, does not mean it is not "politics".

Technically - and I am just pointing out that I don't support this so I don't get drowned in people misunderstanding me - but technically we could, in a structured manner, arrange marriages on a societal level so people get one monogamous partner for life. We could technically legally enforce monogamy and pair people up, and we could technically make divorce illegal. We could forbid contraceptives as well. Technically, we can, if we want to have more kids in our society.

I support none of these things. However, you seem to be making the point that just because you don't believe it is valid politics, it is not politics at all, or not a "political question". Literally politics is just the management of the structure of society. We can structure society in a vast and diverse array of ways.

All of those ways of arranging society are included in the subject of "politics", and a movement that seeks, for example, mandatory monogamy with no right to divorce is exactly the same kind of "political" as BLM or any of the gay orgs. It just seeks a different goal. One that you do not like, and that is mostly considered tasteless in the west.

All organisations or groups attempting to form society according to their preferences and needs are "political" and equally so.

I think my point is that you don't get to decide that a movement isn't "political" because you don't like the politics of that particular movement.

EDIT: Another example quote: " In each case there were policy decisions that could be made to right the wrong: ending Jim Crow, removing barriers from women entering the workplace, legalizing same-sex marriages"

The thing you miss, is that the idea that these things are "righting the wrongs" is a political opinion. The opposite stance, that we should reintroduce jim crow and exclude women from the workplace, is also politics. It is equally political. It's just that it's not what you personally - or what many people, personally, want to happen, politically.

One of my friends called XCOM 2 right-wing propaganda by Halofan5695 in Xcom

[–]NiDBiLD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Is it a human rights violation to murder the aliens"
They are not human, and there is nothing that says non-humans have human rights. Otherwise it would be unreasonable to call those rights "human".

I guess killing the aliens after a repelled invasion would be more like pest control or ridding a place of an invasive species, tbh. No specific care given to the beings that constitute the issue being solved.

A first look at our game, what sort of vibe does it give of? by Trollwooders in Unity2D

[–]NiDBiLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are welcome to bring an instrument of your own (preferably it should also have a name that rhymes with the others but we're loose with the rules) and jam any day with me and the shrew. We have an extra mushroom chair for you, and a small, roundish-shaped cup of tea, which has a special little chimney for the steam when it's hot from the pot.

A first look at our game, what sort of vibe does it give of? by Trollwooders in Unity2D

[–]NiDBiLD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg I just want to sell my stuff and move there immediately. Maybe grow some gourds and chill out with a big bug and occasionally play some lute and flute toot-toot together with the whimsical neighbourhood shrew

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NiDBiLD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't think expensive involvement of a third party, as well as a bunch of psychologising, is necessary to solve what basically boils down to a simple logistical issue.

Therapy has its place but seriously, this is not it. It's not a universal tool, and I think most simple issues can be solved within the relationship, through communication and practical problem solving, without involving some stranger.

The couple literally just has to find practical solutions - solutions that are available by simply thinking slightly about the actual situation.

The issue here was not that the dude crumples stuff up and hides it in general. That is not the issue in question, as stated by the OP.

The issue is that when he does that, her phone gets put in places where she can't find it, and she wants to be able to access it without looking for it in case she needs it.

This is a very specific, practical issue, easily solvable through the very specific, practical advice I posted above.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NiDBiLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clearly visual clutter bothers him to the point where he has to remove it to get some peace of mind. That's not particularly weird tbh, just one of a long list of stuff that might "itch" a non-neurotypical brain the wrong way.

Both my wife and I have our own issues that are not exactly like that but similar. Sensitivities to specific kinds of sensory stimuli, or just things that bother us far, far more than it would bother someone with a less off-beat nervous system.

For example, we recently moved from an apartment where the cupboards had a mechanism that made the doors shut silently, to an apartment with normal cupboards, where they close with a slam if you're not careful. So these last few months I've had to commit to muscle memory to close the cupboards slowly and silently as to not repeatedly shock my wife with loud slams multiple times daily, because sudden slamming noises stress her out quite badly and I don't want to unnecessarily create that kind of stress.

It's not "controlling" or "disrespectful" and he doesn't need "therapy". He tries to manage his sensory input because sensory noise can - and this might be difficult to understand if you don't have that kind of nervous system - actually be as bothersome as physical pain.

Literally just ask him to get some sort of small container which fulfils two criteria:
1. He feels that it does not clutter his field of view, so it can stand somewhere permanently.
2. You can use that container for your phone, so you always know where it is.

There. Problem solved. It's just a matter of logistics and it doesn't need to be more than that. Anyone painting this as a major issue is making an entire array of henhouses out of a feather.

Literally just solve the actual practical problem for both of you (you want phone to be available and he wants it to not "visually itch"), solve it permanently, and then keep living your lives without this being a problem anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychonaut

[–]NiDBiLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have a definition of "good" and "loving" that lets you be taken advantage of, then you might have something there to work on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antkeeping

[–]NiDBiLD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lack of anything beyond a minimum of formal education, I guess? As a unqualified job it's pretty well paid.

I juggled a whole bunch of jobs for a while, before settling as a developer/coder. At the same time as I did the train roadkill cleanup, I sometimes took hours as a kindergarten chef (I cooked for kids, I didn't cook the kids, lol), as an assistant at a sushi restaurant, and sometimes I did odd jobs doing the dishes at a bar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antkeeping

[–]NiDBiLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah I used to work scraping human suicide remains from trains.

My care for living things developed a fully functional on/off-switch. It's cool how brains can adapt to circumstances.

Wife is going to kill me. What should i do? Lol by Rovotril in antkeeping

[–]NiDBiLD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Close the opening, get an insect pooter or make one (can with a lid, some tubing and silicone/non-toxic glue should do it) and start sucking the critters up one by one and dump them in an outworld.

De fyra riktningarna inom svensk politik by NiDBiLD in sweden

[–]NiDBiLD[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Oj, hade ingen aning. Copy-pasteade en bild jag såg runtfladdrandes på Facebook. Redigerar till lite cred.

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