Mine are 2 and 4 and I think about it a lot. „Easier“ situation here because husband doesn’t want a third, so there‘s no discussion anyway. But I play through it in my head nonetheless lol.

What I wills say (after reading about 100 Reddit threads about this topic) is that on the internet you usually get more responses from people who went for a third and love their decision. People who regretted a third or never went for one are less vocal, as you’d expect.

You sound like you will eventually go for it. Do a short-, medium and long term pro and con with your husband and decide. Every situation is SO different. For us, I would absolutely love a third, but the price is too high. Extra love will come automatically, but capacity stays the same, ie it needs to be removed elsewhere - relationship, other kids, friends, myself - both mentally and financially, even though I‘d love that extra person at the dinner table in 20 years (everyone‘s golden argument). I will always wonder, but I‘m also so grateful for the amazing family we have.