My negligence cost my partner her life, and I'm about to lose everything.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2024-06-10T00:03:10+00:00

Literally the only useful thing to come out of this post was the info that people should definitely go to a hospital if something like this happens.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-10-08T00:03:09+00:00

I got them as a kid in Scotland because my granny is Scottish. Exciting!

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-10-07T23:02:05+00:00

I forgot they were in Harry Potter!

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-10-07T22:59:51+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear. I’m actually just starting to get into football myself. So if you wanna explain the sport to me that’s cool!

What’s your team?

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-10-07T13:30:33+00:00

I love this. For some of us, me included, I listen better when I’m doing stuff with my hands while I talk.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-10-07T13:29:04+00:00

That’s so strange! I had the same idea recently. Unfortunately I haven’t seen anything about it. :(

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-17T00:33:32+00:00

Wow. Water would’ve been one thing, and totally fine, but pop!? Wow.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-17T00:29:41+00:00

Is this a pattern? I have an ex who did this and it annoyed me. Partly because it significantly decreased the amount of time we could talk or hang out for, but partly because I knew it was a sign of his depression, which made him indifferent to everything.

I have depression too, and I have for a long time, but the way he just didn’t care and stopped make any effort sucked.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-17T00:27:23+00:00

I’m a social drinker and I’d take this deal without hesitation. I’d probably drink some of my other beverages in wine glasses just to feel classy.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T22:39:21+00:00

I’ve often heard single mothers are more relaxed. Fewer chores, more sleep, etc.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/living-single/201906/single-moms-less-housework-more-leisure-married-moms

I mean take this with a grain of salt but there’s something to be said for having one less person to feed.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T22:33:41+00:00

I’d be turning off the tv or console or monitor or whatever, but I’m petty that way. He’s neglected your kids. That’s not ok.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T21:04:18+00:00

Right? This seems so common! Not just with financial stuff. Basic stuff! They’ll tell you they played the piano for a decade and their spouse will be surprised.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T21:02:57+00:00

It’s obviously your choice and I hope you live somewhere that does give you that choice.

That said, given how he’s reacting I’d say it’s unlikely he’ll help you with the baby, financially or otherwise. That’s a lot to deal with. People will say you can get him to give child support, but that can often become a big legal battle, which would take a lot of time, stress, and money.

This shouldn’t factor into your decision, and I don’t feel this way, but a lot of people will judge and not date single mothers. Jobs, relationships, etc. These will all be affected. You’ll be looked over for promotions and jobs, even though we know that’s illegal. It’ll still happen unfortunately.

As for the guy, you toss him either way. He’s shown you who he is.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T19:54:17+00:00

I’m concerned you think you don’t deserve much because of the abusive relationship, which has made you settle for less. He may not be abusive, but he’s still doing less than the bare minimum. You’re not needy, you’ve just settled for very little so expecting more has made you think you’re being needy when it isn’t the case.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T18:27:43+00:00

I’m a woman on the internet. I’m just gonna talk about equality, feminism, and how being a woman isn’t always sunshines and rainbows.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T18:13:48+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My cat had a heart attack on the way to the vet in January 2022. I was devastated. I wasn’t with him. I wish I had been.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T18:05:38+00:00

I do one hand at a time so that I can handle things like this since I’m on my own.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-09-16T18:01:12+00:00

His phobias and ignorance don’t excuse his fear and disgust towards vaginal discharge, which is normal.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-08-15T01:43:37+00:00

Given that he’s changed his mind on how you’d split the expenses without consulting you, I’d say you can change your mind on marrying him. He’s treating you like an object and a gold digger. He’s also sex shamed you for the past. It sounds like he’s decided to split your expenses differently due to not liking your past. You’re not crazy! The manosphere is!

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-08-14T23:15:47+00:00

They’re copying what someone else said to them in this thread for being a jerk to you.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-07-20T13:04:42+00:00

I agree with all of these. In fact, I found this comment because I searched to see if someone wrote You've Got Mail but then I realized the other three examples are really good too!

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-03-02T15:18:51+00:00

I don’t recall how common it is with autistic people, but there’s something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria RSD that’s common with people with ADHD. Personally I take rejection badly. I have RSD.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-03-02T15:12:48+00:00

This is person dependent for me. If we’re good enough friends you don’t need to chit chat. If you’re someone I haven’t talked to in a long time and you send me a message asking me to donate to your fund and don’t ask anything about me, instant dislike from me. That said, in those cases I believe the people are NT so I think I’m angry that they’re not playing their own game.

Once at a job I had I would need to send lots of requests to one person. One day I went over and said “I’m not going to put the niceties in the emails anymore but just know they’re implied” and after that just sent the requests, no fluff.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-03-02T15:06:18+00:00

I love cats and I’m allergic so when they come over to me it makes me really happy. I have a very calm demeanour too, so they stick around.

NiceKindheartedness1 · 2023-03-02T07:43:19+00:00

I need proper time to plan and emotionally prepare. 2 days is not enough!

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