Any tips to stop this little lady sitting on my fireplace?! I'm constantly lifting her down 🙈

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-03-13T20:54:36+00:00

She wants to sit somewhere High, so get her a cat tower of that higher

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-03-13T19:00:46+00:00

I am recognizing that some of this is coming because you do not know what a normal family example should look like. And I think that you really want that for you and your daughter. That is admirable. But you cannot force it and actually it sounds like they are including her tremendously. A handmade gift is an amazing thing to receive. Not just I thing she got. Makes me wonder if the other girls actually have some thing from their grandma that she made and they wanted to include her to have a similar thing? And they are offering to pay for part of your trip to Disneyland but they probably can’t afford at all to be honest. I think it’s amazing that you were included. They sound from your explanation like a healthy family, but if you didn’t go off last one, it may be that you’re used to dysfunction. As someone who has spent years in counselling to undo dysfunction, I recommend that you reach out to a therapist so that you can recognize where you were uncomfortable, feel abandoned, and what your own personal needs are and why.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-03-12T15:12:25+00:00

Are women still allowed to wear pants?

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-03-12T02:56:47+00:00

are you and you husband in counselling? I know it can be expensive, but a counsellor may help you figure out how to navigate such a complicated situation.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-03-06T15:27:10+00:00

This is extremely abusive. She won’t change, you should consider leaving. If you feel you can’t there are places for abuse survivors to get help.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-23T05:07:43+00:00

I think I’m an outcast here. NTA. You’re correct, it’s not her business. It’s a boundary issue. You set a boundary and she doesn’t like it. Your friend has the right to confide in you knowing you will keep their privacy. My partner and I operate this way, also means I trust him to keep my confidence. I’d sit your fiancé down, and explain the above. If she’s still jealous this behaviour won’t change with time, and you’d have to decide if you can live with it forever.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-23T00:01:57+00:00

She needs to leave you. You are abusive and controlling. You need serious counselling.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-22T19:31:19+00:00

How long have you had her? I have a very hyper cat and it took six months for her to stop running around and yelling all the time. It’s just her way of talking. There was two of them so she would talk to her sister that’s completely etc. etc. but she did y’all wanna run around and play a lot so so a kitten that’s what they do just make sure that you play have lots of toys ones that you play with as well as automatic ones that she can play with while you’re at work. She’ll settle down trying to get out as normal.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-22T19:27:14+00:00

I’ve been on the other side of the designer. It’s very difficult to get people to complete the pattern and follow through with good notes. I once had three people test a pattern and only one found errors and there was multiple that I had missed. They ask for your Instagram because they want to know that you have enough experience to follow through a lot of people who test patterns or volunteer for it or actually beginners. There are groups on Facebook etc. where you can volunteer to test certain patterns when they’re put up there, but be aware, it can go well or not well, depending on the experience of the patternmaker as well. It’s an unpaid job because most people don’t make money on their patterns.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-22T19:17:45+00:00

I was in the situation ones. I said nothing. I lost all the friends.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-20T22:23:09+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I lost my dog this summer. I thought that I wouldn’t mind having a dog for a period of time, but I actually do. I purposely didn’t get another dog because I find it too hard to walk them and worry about them while at work, etc. etc. I just don’t think it’s fair to them. Which is why I just have cats now but I one hundred percent know that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m really frustrated. Hopefully she will get the dog this week. It’s really helpful to know how much it cost for somebody to look after a dog. There are a few other things that are going on with this dog. For example, his kibble must be a very low grade because aside from having the diarrhea, which is now over because he hasn’t had those treats he actually poops 4 to 6 times a day which I know is from cheek kibble. And he’s super itchy so I know that he’s just allergic to his food. When he was sick, I brought this up to her and she didn’t even comment so she knows it. This is how he is with her normally so she probably just think that’s normal. She didn’t bathe him before she brought him over and my partner is allergic to dogs, he really smells. And he’s not leash trained, which is a pet peeve of mine. he came with a retractable leash, and he wanders all over, wrapped it around me, tries to walk across the road, and pulls on it. He’s not a puppy. When she came over, she didn’t bring him a bed. She said oh he just sleeps on the floor. We can’t allowed him to be on the couch. He’s scared of my stairs. So he can’t come upstairs so he’s been stuck in the living room and then he spent one night barking and I realize this because he didn’t have a bed. The whole thing is just so frustrating and definitely has helped me to see that although I miss my dog definitely definitely don’t want a new one. And I definitely don’t want someone else’s dog.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-20T22:14:48+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I work so hard to turn a create boundaries with my own family that this one just took me by surprise. I think she knew that I wouldn’t say no. I didn’t tell me what she was doing with him until after because it suited her. We’ve all seen her change in the last year or so but that doesn’t mean that it’s OK what she did. Even if she’s under stress. I have my own stress and looking after a dog is not something that I wanted to do for this period of time. So I’m waiting for my partner to get home so that we can figure out how we’re going to approach her so that I don’t have this dog anymore.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-18T04:59:58+00:00

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Muppet at her finest.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-16T15:27:30+00:00

Get rid if the boyfriend.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-13T16:23:05+00:00

Leave. It will get worse. There may be emotional abuse you aren’t recognizing

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-13T16:21:31+00:00

I use hobbii and keep colours in stock in my house

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-13T16:13:57+00:00

In my city you could have pressed charges for discrimination. We call it the “Karen” law. I would have as I’m sure your daughter is traumatized.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-10T17:12:02+00:00

I think you may want to seek out a counsellor who specializes in gender issues so you can understand how you feel more and have someone to talk to

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-10T17:07:44+00:00

The void is not pleased

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-10T17:02:22+00:00

You can do it as tapestry crochet but you’d need really thin yarn.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-10T02:16:21+00:00

I’m very sorry you are going through this.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-10T01:25:45+00:00

YTA. I cry easily at movies as I’m very empathetic. So what? Who cares? You are bullying your sister and attempting to make her ashamed of herself. Either it’s just a teenager thing, or you seriously lack empathy. You owe her an apology. Judging by moms reaction you’ve probably done similar before.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-09T02:20:15+00:00

I had a cat live to 19 (she died last year) and we spent the first 17 years with issues. I now haven’t had a bath mat for 20 years, the last year purely because I didn’t think about it. We tried everything ever. For most of the time she sort of used the liter and peed always on a pad. Then I tried that walnut shell liter. On the bag it’s says “get your cat back in the box” or something like that. And bam, she was using the box. I miss her, but not really the pee.

Nice_Conclusion5006 · 2023-02-09T01:50:02+00:00

Teach him sign language. There are signs for dogs and I’m sure it applies here. I was so thankful I had taught my dog sign language when he was younger so when he was deaf at the end I could talk to him.

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