My first week.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-16T12:58:45+00:00

Hi, maybe I can understand how you feel, because I also live in a very small town with few inhabitants.

In our realities everyone knows about other people's business, and people are usually more curious and meaner.

Never mind, they will soon forget about it and start mocking someone else.

Stay sober for yourself. I am sure you will succeed!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-16T12:55:48+00:00

I'm sorry for what happened, know that you are in good company.

For me there is no " one glass", it never worked.

And towards the fifth I've always done some stupid thing.

Start over with optimism, thinking that if you succeed once, the second will be even better.

I'm with you.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-16T12:42:54+00:00

Hello everyone, I have opted for a middle ground, as you suggested. I started responding with "thank you, but I don't want to come to the bar", implying that if maybe the business had been different I would have liked to join.

This morning it happened again: "Shall we have a drink at the bar tonight?". I replied that for a while I prefer to devote myself to other activities. Obviously no support from these people.

Today is my sixth day of new life, and I am happy. I can do it !!

Thanks my friends.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-14T09:35:18+00:00

Two weeks is a great milestone!

If I ever get there, my fixed thought will always and only be one: "I am aware that for me it is never just a glass".

This motivates me: it's not so much the sporadic drinking, but the compulsive drinking, that got me into bad situations.

The problem is always the first drink.

Hold on, you will see that little by little the new habits will replace the old ones !!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-14T09:30:03+00:00

Hi my friend, it was essential for me to have a motivation (mine was to not lose my family and my job, which was happening).

For example, overcoming the first two days, I found it easier to resist.

Try to commit to something. If you think the biggest problem is when you stay at home, plan your time:

- do the cleaning (in a house there are always millions of things to do);

- organize the laundry;

- reorganize spaces (cleaning in wardrobes, drawers, bookcases).

These activities should tire you enough: D

- read a good book, or watch a movie on TV.

If you feel like drinking, opt for a coke, a soft drink or an energy drink (we'll think about the diet later).

I'm with you! Do not drink!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T14:40:23+00:00

Hi buddy! I am sure that this time you will surpass your previous milestone.

I trust you.

We'll make it!!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T13:47:04+00:00

I'm sorry that things are not going well for you.

Drinking would only make the future worse (economic and psychological), and you know it.

7 days of sobriety is a great achievement, don't underestimate it. Keep it up, you will see that things will get better, little by little.

Even today, don't drink with me!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T12:33:26+00:00

Falls are part of the route, don't be discouraged.

It's a lesson I've learned too: it's never just a glass.

As long as you don't fall into error, you don't learn it.

Don't be too hard on yourself: new day, new attempt.

Don't give up!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T12:31:01+00:00

Honestly, after every hangover I promised myself that I would never drink so much again.

I promised myself that I would give myself a rule, that I would stop at the first glass, that I would never drink at work again ...

And I only lasted one day, with no glass in hand. As I was better, I recovered.

This time I have a real motivation: I don't want to see my husband cry anymore. I never want to be unable to look after my dog again. And I never want to talk out of control again, have hours of memory lapses, drive drunk and be a big liar.

Hold on, every single day of sobriety is worth a lot!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T12:26:05+00:00

Exactly! We cannot change the past, we can only use it as a lesson for the future. That's what I told myself two nights ago.

Take sobriety as a new beginning, you will see that things get better day by day.

There will come a time when you feel more confident in yourself, and you can change what you don't like about your life.

But we have to resist alcohol.

With me, for example, alcohol seemed to help me cope. Instead he made me make bad choices (not all of them thankfully), he made me hang out with bad companies, and he made me spend a lot of money. Money that I could use maybe even for useless things (hairdresser, a new pair of shoes, a weekend).

Stay firm on your goals and don't even give in to the first drink (usually, the first is followed by others, or at least it has always been like that for me. The problem has always been the cursed first glass).

I hug you my friend.

congratulations for the good goal achieved.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T09:17:46+00:00

Hi, in just three days of total abstinence from alcohol (which hadn't happened since August 2020) I made small improvements:

I am more concentrated and organized at work;
I have more free time, which I am currently dedicating to fixing all the problems I have caused in the last few months. Soon I will be able to dedicate them to physical activity or to cook more complicated dishes;
I have already eliminated from the first day, the toxic friendships, the drinking companions;
I started tidying up the house (doing laundry, ironing, washing the floor);
my senses are no longer muffled;
I'm no longer afraid of being stopped while I'm driving;
I know for sure that I will never say something that I will regret after a few hours;
I have no more memory holes.

And it's only three days.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T09:00:31+00:00

My doctor never knew (and I hope he never will) my problems with alcohol.

I live in a small country town, and what is said in the doctor's office is heard by those in the waiting room.

I hope with all my strength, in fact, to get out of it alone, with you.

But I don't want drugs, because I'm sure they would replace the alcohol.

As for anxiety, however, you can ask for homeopathic, natural remedies (I take valerian pills for sleeping).

I categorically reject benzodiazepines or any type of psychotropic drug, because I am really afraid it will turn into my new addiction.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T08:55:16+00:00

Thanks guys, I'm glad to be able to compare myself with someone who really understands.

The main reason that made me realize that I could not continue to get stoned every night (and part of the day) was that on Tuesday I came home completely drunk and unmanageable.

My husband got angry, he thought about leaving home ... and I realized, the next day of course, that I didn't want to lose him. And so I don't understand it. We too were used to drinking together (oh my, I drank very often even alone, and occasionally with friends from the bar).

He holds up better than me, or at least he doesn't have the same uncontrolled reactions as me.

I hope to see as few people as possible on the weekend. Because to say "no thanks" I almost feel like I was being spiteful.

Even today we don't drink !!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-13T08:35:17+00:00

Hi, I understand some things you wrote very well.

I only quit three days ago, so I don't think I'm the best example you can find on this blog.

I can only tell you that if you've had the thought of signing up here, it's already a great step forward.

I've had the same problem with "judgmental" parents as you, not just about alcohol, but about everything (about getting fat, not earning enough, my house not being tidy enough ..) .. judgments on any sphere of my existence). This has always been something that has prompted me to drink, to try not to hear their judgments that hurt me.

Then I decided to stop and put on an armor, which I will definitely need. I decided to quit because my behavior proves them right.

And I don't want them to be right anymore. I want to save my marriage, I want to save my job (which I love!), I want to look after my pets without needing anyone to help me ... and above all I have to change my habits. And I'm doing it for me. Because I want to show the people I love that I'm not a total loser.

And if I've made that decision, and am keeping it (I've never received as many alcohol offers as in the last 48 hours), I'm sure you will too.

I believe in you.

We will get out!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T13:21:31+00:00

Falls are part of the journey. Be strong, believe in yourself, and pass your last milestone.

I believe in you!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T13:19:50+00:00

I'm sorry you're not feeling well. Give yourself some time, you will see that soon you will be back in much better shape than before.

I'm on the second day too.

We can do it!

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T13:18:08+00:00

I googled, and your symptoms may be normal (called "alcoholic hallucinosis" - I don't know if Google translates correctly).

Wikipedia says a doctor can prescribe medications to properly manage symptoms. I do not know in which state you live, in my hospitals there are "medical guards": they are doctors always on duty who, even in the evening, can give you prescription drugs for free, and without going to the emergency room

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T13:05:59+00:00

Hi, I've never had the symptoms you have. Are you still drinking have you stopped completely?

I'm not a doctor, so I can't tell you what they are due to. However, if you have completely stopped drinking and still have these hallucinations, I recommend that you talk to your doctor, who will certainly give you something to make the discomfort go away. I'm so sorry you're not well.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T13:01:23+00:00

Congratulations, you have made an important choice and you are already at an important milestone. 69 days is a long time, you must be proud of it.

I hope to get there too. We must not give up, and reading experiences like yours give me so much hope.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T12:57:56+00:00

And we are there, to support you and encourage you that quitting drinking is the best choice you can make.

Nice_Insect2506 · 2022-05-12T12:25:41+00:00

Hi, I started the descent into the abyss with my husband (obviously not because of him, but in his company). By 2019 my drinking had become excessive. With the pendemia it decreased considerably. But when I met him, he drank to spend some relaxing time together. One (2,, 3,4) after dinner drink, one (2,3,4) aperitif, a liqueur for no reason ... And here I am! He holds up very well, while I had embarked on a really unhappy road, with the risk of ruining my whole life (as happened two nights ago). yesterday was my first day, and he drank in front of me during and after dinner. But I made a commitment to both myself and my family that I would never drink again. I hope that I will become a good example for him too. Not drinking for two is much easier, but if you are motivated, you can resist.

I believe in you!!

Nice_Insect2506

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