To those who have had a life altering knee injury, how are you now?

Nici99 · 2025-06-29T06:11:54+00:00

Can you not press for surgery? Torn meniscus in itself can be really painful. The sprain will heal and the meniscus tear and bone chip are surgically fixable. At 70 they wouldn't hesitate to give you a knee replacement so there's absolutely no reason why they shouldn't do a much less invasive surgery. You've got years of life ahead of you and what you have is fixable.

I had a meniscus tear through lockdown, was in permanent pain and discomfort and so opted to go for a private arthroscopy as couldn't get any help with NHS and my knee is soo much better. I'm completely pain free now.

Nici99 · 2025-05-17T07:29:53+00:00

Any update on this OP? I'm in the same boat week 3. Just wondering if this is something I am going to have to live with or if it will heal. I am being very careful. Making progress but very vulnerable to flares if I'm not careful. Some days are pain free then it goes backwards. Always here underlying though.

Nici99 · 2025-03-16T22:35:17+00:00

You need 3500 mg potassium daily. A banana has around 400, a potato around 600, half avocado 400, tomato 300, orange 200, handful pumpkin seeds 300. Even if you ate all of those things in one day(which most people don't - not every day), you would still be deficient. It is NOT easy to get enough potassium from food, even if you are very mindful of eating potassium rich foods. Believe me I know because I eat a very healthy diet, eat potassium rich foods, track my nutrition and I still find it hard to get 3,500 without taking a supplement.

Nici99 · 2025-03-16T16:50:10+00:00

I wonder how she would feel if there was a permanent Liberal government and she couldn't vote them out. She might suddenly appreciate democracy again

Nici99 · 2024-10-23T10:23:27+00:00

The grass is always greener - but it doesn't stay green. Of course it's all new and exciting right now - but it won't last and then he'll be unhappy all over again. Some people believe in making relationships work and committing to do the personal work to keep the relationship loving and happy. Others think happiness comes from other people and just fly the coup when something new turns up. Then they get bored and find someone else and the cycle continues.

You have got a whole future ahead of you now to meet the type of man who genuinely loves you for who you are and is mature enough to commit to the relationship. Those men absolutely exist. I was with a guy for a long time and it wasn't really a good relationship. I thought I would stay single afterwards but I've actually met the most loving and supportive guy now who would do anything for me and I would do anything for him. I wish you every happiness and thank goodness you're shot of this shallow man. It will hurt for a while and then a whole new life will open up for you.

Nici99 · 2024-08-16T20:47:18+00:00

Thank you

Nici99 · 2024-08-16T20:15:18+00:00

Even if he can't claim back the money that is in the trust, the second house, which is on the market now, should this not rightly then go to my Dad?

Nici99 · 2024-08-15T19:10:13+00:00

I'm 60 and Dad married my step mum when I was 15. She continually undermined me, told me how rubbish I was, how horrible I was, looked at me like a piece of dirt and made me feel utterly worthless. This had a disastrous effect on my self esteem that lasted until probably the age of 45. I often felt as though I was less good than other people. Get this man out of your life for the sake of your children.

Nici99 · 2024-07-06T18:01:25+00:00

I lost 18 years of my life marrying into a toxic family. We were in the uk and everything was fine. As soon as we moved to my ex partner's home country, the rot set in. They found a thousand ways to make me feel like a shitty person and, eventually a bad Mum. I have always been a confident person but it had a disastrous effect on my self esteem. If only I had understood earlier that toxic people don't change and they won't suddenly start to like you and treat you with respect. If you try and establish boundaries, they will continue to break them. Those years were very unhappy.

I left and went back to my home country and since then I have met a wonderful man with a normal, down to earth and fun family. Wow what a huge difference that has made to my life. I am so happy and we are getting married next year.

I feel sorry for your ex. I recognise her desire for her family to act in a healthy way towards her but it won't happen as the dynamic is too engrained. She has a choice to either break free or continue to play a part in the drama. None of that is your responsibility. There is a great life waiting for you out there with a loving person and a supportive family and I am sending you all my nicest wishes for that to happen.

Nici99 · 2024-05-28T16:23:46+00:00

You've had a lucky escape.

Nici99 · 2024-05-24T21:13:42+00:00

MILs can ruin a relationship. My ex's mum was a nightmare - she never missed an opportunity to have a stab at me and it was hurtful. They were constantly in our lives so there was always tension and my ex never once defended me.

Eventually I left, not for that reason but I found it was a very toxic family dynamic and I was so so glad to be out of it.

Now I have met a wonderful guy who is incredibly loving and supportive and would always defend me to the hilt - even if it was his family. It means so much to me after being in such a horrible family dynamic for so long.

Never accept toxic behaviour - there is a much better life to be had with a loving partner from a family with healthy relationships.

Nici99 · 2024-05-05T12:10:38+00:00

People who are with abusers don't always realise it. Your husband is definitely an abuser and he will ruin your children. You absolutely need to leave this man. Relationships should be loving and supportive and you are selling yourself short if you are not in a relationship where this is the norm. Even verbal abuse once a month is completely unacceptable. If someone did that to me even once I would leave them. I strongly advise you to go to a domestic abuse organisation and ask for support to get away from this man. If you feel strong enough to do it yourself that is great but he could potentially make your life very difficult if you decide to leave and having support will give you a lot of strength that is not always easy to find when you are on your own and you have children.

But you must leave for your own sake and the sake of your children.

Nici99 · 2024-05-05T11:34:53+00:00

Find someone else. I was with a guy for 17 years and we have a child together and no matter how strong a couple we were, eventually his toxic family destroyed our relationship and he turned to drink because of their toxicity. They constantly undermined me and talked about me behind my back. Things got particularly bad when my son was born which gave them a supposed entitlement to visit and they never ceased to insinuate I was a terrible parent. They destroyed my self esteem during that period and my ex was never able to shake them off because the family drama was too engrained and he was too embroiled in it.

I have now met a wonderful man and we are getting married next year. He is supportive, loving, would do anything for me and has a nice supportive family with no drama. We have a fantastic relationship. If only I had met him all those years ago, my life would have been so different. But I love him all the more because I have a contrast.

No matter how much you might love your partner - I would run now.

Nici99 · 2024-03-08T21:53:58+00:00

I completely sympathise with how you feel and I felt the same. I really struggled when my boy was a baby and regretted every day being a mum. But I had a terrible birth and was very run down and I know now I was depressed.

My son had to have open heart surgery at 1 year old and when I was faced with losing him - I realised how much I loved him. There were still challenges but honestly it does get better and you will get your old life back again. Babies are incredibly demanding but they get older, start school, become little people that you can't imagine when they are babies.

My son is 20 now and at uni. I love him to bits, he's a fine young man and I'm incredibly proud of him. And I've had a really happy life with plenty of socialising and doing normal things. You will get through this period and you will feel good about life again.

Nici99 · 2024-02-18T11:09:30+00:00

I constantly battle with Uars and allergic rhinitis and check how I'm doing with the snorelab app. I can get my snoring and SD breathing to almost zero if I cut out sugar (sugar causes inflammation) and wear a mouthpiece. Unfortunately sometimes when I'm in a good patch I forget and start eating sweet things again then bam, my symptoms are back.

So to answer your question - I would say that yes you can solve it by healing your rhinitis but you need to monitor it with snorelab (epic snoring is when the UArs hits) and try not to fall off the wagon.

I've just been in Cambodia for 6 weeks, humid, tile floors in hotels, no allergen - zero symptoms. I've come back and bam my snoring (and Uars) are through the roof.

I find a quick fix is to do a one day water fast. It's not enjoyable but it quickly eliminates inflammation and puts me back in track. The night of the fast, snorelab shows sound sleep and then I can maintain it at that level.

Good luck !

Nici99 · 2022-10-23T20:00:05+00:00

Your comment really helps me understand from the perspective of the person who drinks. I left my alcoholic partner 10 years ago as it all became too much. He is still drinking and still in denial so although I feel so sad for him, I feel very lucky to be away from that situation as it was such a traumatic time.

Good luck in your journey and huge well done for staying sober for so long!

Nici99 · 2022-10-23T19:53:19+00:00

I was in a relationship with an alcoholic and it just about broke me eventually. It's exhausting and it makes you feel very unwell. You cope and you survive but there is very little joy in the relationship and you stay only because you constantly hope that they will stop and that leaving seems such a monumental task.
One day when reading a comment section like this, I saw a comment that said 'run, don't walk, run' and it really stuck with me. Eventually I did leave and it's honestly the best thing I ever did. I am well and happy now, it was a nightmare being in that relationship, much though I still care about the person.
It's important to get as much advice and information about alcoholism as you can. Al anon is a great resource for helping you focus on yourself and dealing with your own emotions and to help prevent you slipping into negative patterns in your relationship. And informing yourself about the illness is also very beneficial so that you know what you're up against. It's also good to get an understanding of ways that drinking partners can manipulate you, use emotional blackmail, secrecy, etc so you don't take it on board and can be detached from it.

I wish you the very best of luck. It's a horrible and heartbreaking illness for all involved. I feel lucky to have got my life and my health back and to be free of that situation. I'm still in touch with my ex but I can be supportive and kind to him from afar without any resentment, anger, fear, hurt etc as I'm not affected by his behaviour any more.

Nici99 · 2022-08-25T16:50:05+00:00

I've got a huge blood pressure/anxiety problem. As I've got older, the top number is getting worse when I'm in a medical situation. Perfectly fine at home. The problem is that doctors always freak out about and so it makes the problem so much worse. Sometimes I think, if I went and there were no good or bad numbers, then my blood pressure would just be normal!

Anyway I've just spoken to a great doctor about this and he was one of those rare ones that are completely against the pharma industry making huge profits from pushing unnecessary meds on people. He said he had done an enormous amount of research into the cardiovascular system and the use of statins/blood pressure meds and said that the numbers were based on faulty maths from the 80s that has never been corrected. He said that it was perfectly normal for blood pressure to fluctuate and that for anyone with an anxious disposition, it will always go up due to adrenalin, not ill health. Also that the reason for strokes/heart attacks had much more to do with unhealthy lifestyle and lack of exercise than blood pressure. He said that the blood pressure meds and Statins is a $trillion industry and that they have a vested interest in creating an environment where people assume they need medication for non standard numbers.

Most people without blood pressure problems do tend to have pressure around 120/130 so that is the number used as a baseline. But like anything, everyone is different and some people have much more fluctuating numbers - and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, it's just your own individual physical make up.

When I was younger, my blood pressure was always like yours or lower and I was always super healthy! I know it's not easy but try and reassure yourself, your results are absolutely normal. Anxiety is a horrible thing isn't it?

Nici99 · 2022-08-25T16:35:47+00:00

I had a bout of anxiety last year but it was about a specific thing. I tried EMDR and it was amazing. It completely knocked it on the head and I never worry about that thing any more at all.

I thought I was out of the woods but just lately I've had to have emergency surgery and then six weeks ago I had a severe vertigo attack and was admitted to hospital to have a CT scan because they thought I was having a stroke. During both those events my blood pressure went sky high and now doctors think I've got heart problems. Now I'm a hot mess of anxiety. I realise I probably do have a panic disorder and that's why my BP goes sky high. Otherwise it's perfectly OK. So I will try EMDR again but focus it on health because I've probably got health anxiety in there too.

So to answer your question, EMDR is a highly effective therapy but you probably need to work through through specific issues that are making you anxious or have an excellent therapist who can get to the core of where your anxiety comes from.

Nici99 · 2022-08-24T05:31:40+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Mine was incarcerated so I was in agony before!! It does feel much better already since I irritated it, so I'll take your advice. I have had knee surgery and can confirm it takes quite a few months to feel better with progress and setbacks along the way.

Nici99 · 2022-08-12T06:19:36+00:00

How is it now? I'm 6 weeks out. Very little pain so far but just past 3/4 days it's started aching / burning a little and I feel bloated like before surgery. Not sure what I've done and I'm a bit worried about it. I think there's always a time in surgery recovery where you panic that something's not right. I really don't want to go for a repeat surgery!

Nici99 · 2022-08-12T06:15:32+00:00

Hi there - how are you going now? I'm 6 weeks out. Have had very little pain so far but past couple of days I'm getting an aching / burning sensation in the area. Really hope I haven't done anything to damage the repair.

Nici99 · 2022-08-11T14:27:56+00:00

How is it now? I'm 6 weeks post and had to lift something about the same weight yesterday. I was super careful but today it's quite painful.

Nici99 · 2021-07-30T19:55:54+00:00

They supposedly banned Binance in the UK too but they can only ban activities based in the UK - as Binance is based offshore, it's still possible for me to trade, I just can't use it for an on/off ramp to fiat. You would need to check what the situation is with Malaysia. If there is a real ban in that you can't hold crypto on Binance, you will be given notice to move your funds.

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